Telephone- Is it it a way that men tortue women? Men please answer!?

What is the deal with all the questions about when to call and how long to wait to call and why doesn't he call? I want to settle this debate once and for all. Why exactly does it take men take forever to call? In addition, if a man waits a week, or more to call, is that indicative of anything (just friend, or dating), or is it just women reading more into it than what is there? Please explain. I have heard the wait 3 days after a date and then call, explanation, but what if you went on a date with a girl, and then you do not call until 5- 7 days later. Please no comments about sex or anything. I am talking about a relationships where both parties are waiting to have sex until marriage.

i don't believe there is any real standard other than the logical, reasonable, common sense and common courtesy

one wouldn't want to disturb someones privacy and everyones privacy level is different. yet one that is most interested would call ASAP and let the other party know of their interest unless they are immature and knows little of interpersonal relationship skills--which is a skill needed to participate in any relationship to the satisfaction of both. calling at least once a week is something any interested party or close friend would do. a less close friendship probably call about once a month, maybe twice.

if someone doesn't have the relationship skills--knowing how and when to call--or, isn't open and/or sincere enough to share their feelings, interest and thoughts, or more interested in positioning for control/power instead of making oneself vulnerable enough to have a relationship (one must always make themselves somewhat open to the potential of being taken advantage of or hurt in order to have a relationship), if one doesn't have the insight to respectfully ask how often someone likes to be called and what their comfort level is here, or doesn't have the sensitivity or manners to call to let the other know that the last meeting was enjoyable and that the time given was appreciated than perhaps it may be a waste of time to concern oneself with it.

open and honest communication is most needed for any relationship and should begin at the beginning. simply state openly that you enjoyed and appreciated the time you spent together and ask you hope they did too immediately after a meeting is mere common courticy. to state clearly, as if to your best friend, that you were a bit concerned that they didn't feel the same being that you hadn't heard from them would be appropriate and also serve to weed out the goats from the sheep. at this point one could get into the comfort levels of both parties as to how often calls can be worked into each others busy schedules.

for myself, if i enjoyed myself i would call immediately even--if just a 60 second call-- if to just state that the reason i was calling was to say that i did enjoy someones' company, and appreciated their time and perhaps we could do it again sometime... just a short sweet call to state some open, honest feed back. this is common sense. this is common courtesy.


good luck,

sincerely, the artist

Calm down and wait - if he loves you, he will call! :)

I have to give ya a hug! The comment you made about parties who are waiting 2 have sex untill marriage was rocking! My fiancee and I are doing just that! To me there seems not to be too many ppl who believes in this tradition anymore! It is hard, at times, I admit, but I know this is the best way! Old traditions still apply today! Look at all the older cpls who are still 2gether after all their years..they must be doing something right! As far as when to call, and such, I think you are right! 3days seems to be the protocol. These women should be calling them if its that important to hear from the other.

Falling in love is such an intense experience and it sets all of your senses into high gear. You have to control yourself and have faith. Forget about Hope, Hope is the long lost forgotten second great grand niece of FAITH and that is what you should have. I assume that you believe in faith since you sound good enough to mention wanting to wait until marriage to have sex. THE ONE will come if you have FAITH.