Is s/he a friend, or is s/he more? What would you do?

If someone you're dating has a "friend" who is also an ex boy-/girl-friend and you are excluded from that friendship (i.e. they meet for coffee or lunch and you are not welcome to join), AND <run-on sentence alert!> the person you're dating avoids answering the telephone when they're with you and s/he calls, AND exchanges e-mails with them fairly regularly... BUT the person you're dating claims this person is "just" a friend and further says they don't want to include you on coffees/lunches because s/he knows that the two of you wouldn't get along...

Would you be suspicious and/or jealous of this friendship (I am)? And if so, would you end the relationship because of it (assuming all other aspects of the relationship are on an even keel)? I can't decide if I'm being paranoid or foolish. <wry grin>

I've asked - answer was "she's just a friend." Hmmm. And yes, a lot less drama would be nice - ideally none; we're pretty close to none except for this particular issue. And I think about dumping every time I think about the "friend" so we'll see - wonder how long it will take before I'm tired of it and end it just on the expended effort principle!

I would be very suspicious.I would try end the relationship.I have a friend who is married and her husband is always dating other ladies etc.
The Just a friend thing really means Iam sleeping with the other person.I had been telling my friend for long time and when she saw pictures of her husband on a date with another lady she was very mad and upset and is filing a divorce over it.
So i would end the relationship. and find a genuine person to date.lot less dram and stress

I'd be a tad suspicious if it happened more than once. You should ask him what the deal is.....

Sweetheart, I hate to say it but DUMP HIS BUTT! He is totally disrespecting you and your feelings! You need to sit him down and tell him how all of this makes YOU feel. And if he continues to do it- then he is not the kind of man you want and need in your life! SOMETHING is NOT right in this situation. Men DO NOT keep e mailing and playing with their ex girlfriends unless they r trying to get some booty or already still getting the booty! He blatently does it knowing it hurts you. You do not want or need to be with a man who treats you with such disrespect! You can do much better than that!