Help me figure this out please! I am TOTALLY confused with my husband!?

A. My husband and I NEVER have sex. He was into porn a long time ago and now he swore to me that he hasnt had or watched porn for over a year. I just opened up his telephone to answer a call for him... and there was porn from his friend. This is the third time in a week. When my husband and I do have sex, he just puts it in, and gets off, there is nothing for me at all. He just left after a huge fight yesturday and told me if I wanted to work out my marriage with him... to come and pick him up tomorrow... an hour and a half away. We have a new baby that is only 2 mos old and a one year old. My mother in law started this fight and wanted him to leave me. She paid for him to leave and go to one of her friends, so I told him to have his mother pay his way back that I wasnt going to jump at his demands. He doesnt work, he lays on his butt, and demands. He plays computer games all day or watches TV. He accuses me of cheating all the time. WTF? I am at my wits end. Since he has been gone I

I feel total relief since he has been gone. He HAS NEVER given me oral sex, not once. I have done all the shaving, and am spotless in the area of hygiene. He just has me do all that, and gets off. I am getting so depressed about it that I have constant fantasy of other men. I feel like I am going nuts. I went to get a job because he doesnt work, he is awaiting and operation and has been out of work for 1 year. Its a rotator surgery. Yet, he can wrestle full grown men for fun and slam them to the ground, he can do everything he normally has in the past, but he cant work? and around the house he does VERY little. I am at my wits end!

You were absolutely right in telling him to have his mother pay his way back. He left on his own free will and you shouldn't have to drop everything just because he decides he's done with his tantrum and is ready to come back home. You say you've felt relief since he's been gone, maybe you need to think about why that is. I would never tell anyone to divorce their spouse but maybe you should tell him to stay at his mothers until he's ready get himself together and then sit down and make some compromises in order to make the marriage work for the two of you. That will give you space as well to clear your mind. Good luck!!

The man has some issues and he needs some help and nothing you do can help besides you have your hands tide trying to raise your kids


let him get his s%*@ together before you let him home you need a man not another kid!

He sounds really immature, how old is he anyway? My suggestion to you is to kick him out, it will be hard, especially with a new baby, but if you don't, he will continue to behave this way. Maybe if you kick him out, he will realize that if he doesn't shape up, he might end up losing his family.