I Can't Cope with complications of the Modern life, What about you?

I am afraid of complication of modern life, of details of instructions, of whatever surrounders me. I dont know how to do so many things, how to do banking, how to register into a new club, how to receive my college degree, How to go to a night party, How to tell a girl that I love her, how to travel to another city, how to buy a dishwasher, how to telephone to my publisher and talk about my book, how to answer my professor when he insults me, etc.

In fact there is a big gap in my life, I odnt know whether its my fault or modern life's fault?!

Do you have such worries, are you scared of complication of modern life too? is there anything that you don't know how to do? Are you if so shy like me? what are your problems and which strategy you chose to overcome them?

please help me.

fear not! if you're shy just pay attention and learn through observation of what/how other people are doing things & jot down notes/ideas. that's what i do. i'm gradually learning how to cope with modern life too.

I agree, and to make it short and to the point: Technology was meant to advance our life and make it easier, but instead it made it harder and more complicated.

I can't cope with trying to figure out strategies. so i can't help you.

Yeah I think you are right about that. Life is getting very complicated. I was talking to a bloke who couldn't get a job cleaning because he didn't have a Certificate II in Cleaning Services. I think the need for accountability everywhere might be a sign of social meekness. Just take the world back to the way you want it. Think of some ways you can de-complicate the world.

I am always terrified when I have to do something new. I am scared of things I dont know how to do. I cried almost once a day everyday when I was in 8th grade because I was terrified of becoming an sdult and having to learn how to fend for myself. For instance when I registered for college. I was deathly afraid of doing it by myself. I begged my mom to do it for me...she offered to come with me but she said I would never learn if I didnt do it by myself. So I did. I got directions to the school and went by myself. If I ran into a problem I would ask someone along the way. I was very self gratifying to know that I could figure things out on my own.

You just need to do things...no matter how scary they may seem. If your not sure how...ask for help! Dont ever be afraid to ask for help...but also dont be afraid to do new things.

You may have social phobia. Look it up on Internet. May be a chemical imbalance or anxiety. Go to see a therapist and tell them how you feel. They can probably help you with a lot of these things. We all need to get out of our comfort zone to get ahead and learn new things. May just be part of becoming an adult. Life is hard. You are not alone.

Just take it one day or one think at a time and ask people's advice. If you listen and look what they are doing you will learn a lot and never be afraid to ask and to try anything. It is the only way to learn and stop being afraid but you are not alone - i think many people feel a little unsure ot all the modern inventions but it is just till you learn about them.

You don't really have a chose whether you cope or don't you just have to cope... All those things will either be resolved by you or will slowly resolve themselves, life is all about learning and I'm sure that your no different. Just enjoy life there is no point in wasting your life stressing over how to buy a dishwasher. You Only live once... by the way don't just walk away from your problems that never solves anything! Hope that helps you a little. Good Luck!

What you need is a father figure and that's it... Life is no more complexed than you being able to type your question.

Meet the future. Your going to have to adapt and evolve.