Found Mascara In His Closet!!!!!!?

Ok, so we just moved into a brand-new house this month. Nobody has ever lived here before. There as unused carpeting on the top shelf of his carpet. I moved it so I could take it to basement. Some dirty clothes were on top of the carpeting. When I pulled it down off teh shelf, both fell on the floor, clothing and carpeting, along with a wand of mascara, a kind I DO NOT USE!!! So I dont know if it came from his clothes or rolled up inside the carpeting. ALthough I have no evidence, I have had a gut feeling of him cheating for the past month or so, then I found this. Yea it could have been left in the rolled up carpeting by someone else, but what are the chances of that? I told him he said "Well its not mine, maybe it was already there" and said nothing else about it ( this was over the telephone). He called me later on, I was asleep and didnt answer, he left me a message asking why I had an attitude and whatnot (I never showed an attitude) I am thinking guilty conscience.

I cannot afford to leave him and live on my own. Plus the lease is in my name, and I cant afford all the bills bymyself. What should I do?

You have set your own limitations. Sure you can do it on your own, otherwise, treat him as a roomate until the lease runs up and get a place you can afford on your own.

He's not cheating, he's just a tranny.

Or maybe he is a crossdresser.

kick him out

Ask him about it, and if he will straight up admit to cheating then forgive him!

uh oh. if he gets pissed again, just be like "LOOK, what if you found a pair of underwear that you've NEVER OWENED in MY closet??? how would you feel then, big boy!?!!" and tell him you HAD to ask because:
a. you think its odd
b. its a little suspicious, cheating is the first thing that comes to mind, especially if you had insecure feelings before
c. "if your a drag queen, its ok hun. just tell me"

I think you are jumping to conclusions. There could have been someone who worked on the house who left it. Don't look for trouble or you will appear jealous and unreasonable. Time will tell if he's actually cheating.

Your own post shows you have an attitude. You are out for crucifixion.

he may be metro, or self concious, a lot of guys use a bit of mascara to cover gray hairs. just see if anything else comes up.

The only evidence you have is mascara...look for more signs because if he is screwing around.....more will start popping up...believe me...men are not very good at hiding things...in fact most are bad liars.. He will bust him self sooner then you think... if there is foul play involved...

wait til you have more proof. maybe he likes having long lashes.

i guess it sound like you are willing to put up with it, he is not going to admitt to anything, so is your decicion, good luck

You're not really worried about the mascara, it sounds like you're more worried about him leaving you. If you're not married than you have made an un-wise decision. You need to treat him as good as you can until you can find a more affordable place on your own, by yourself so you can get some sense. You never leave a person on this earth in control of your well being.!

WELL IF YOU HAD A GUT FEELING BEFORE WHY DID YOU MOVE INTO A HOUSE YOU CANT AFFORD ON YOUR OWN? YOU HAD A FEELING AND SHOULD OF ACTED ON IT BEFOR YOU MOVED!!!!!!! YOU MADE THE DECISION TO NOT CONFRONT HIM AND NOW YOU ARE STUCK IN A LEASE WITH THAT MAN. YOU MADE YOUR BED NOW LIE IN IT!!!!

Either it is his or it was left there by someone else. A girl isn't going to give him an wand of mascara, and he sure isn't going to keep it around for you to find. I know it's hard but think for a minute. We know it isn't his (or you really do have problems) and it doesn't make sense for a girl to give it to him or for him to keep it.

You are punishing him for the least likely of the options. Nice way to build trust, he should dump you now and find a good woman.

Ask him what this was doing there... He may have an answer and a reason for it. It may have been in the house though some where when you moved into it. Follow your gut though and you may want to have him followed or watched. I hate to say it but if you have a gut feeling about more then likelly he may be very well cheating on you.

well he is either cheating or a cross dresser, or did someone you know put it there to cause trouble.you say you have a feeling he is cheating , well what makes you think that.consider all the options and if you cant live with him consider kicking him out and get a friend to share with you to halve the bills.

With all due respect, have you considered that the mascara might be his? Many straight men, dabble in cross dressing privately.

Since you're not 100% sure don't jump into conclusions, you are going to be paranoid for a while but the best thing I think would be for you to just watch him and see if there are any other things he does that would be pointing out to another woman, while you're doing this try not to me too obious and cold towards him because it may just drive him away from you instead. I know it's really hard and easier said than done BUT you should even try to be more loving and caring towards him... this way IF anything is going on it'll make him think twice when he thinks about the loving sweet woman he has at home....

Use protection, save your money and move out when you can.

Sorry, it doesn't add up.

Why would he bring a lover home? Most men cheat outside the home.
Why would a woman leave her mascara there, and why would he keep it?
Brand new house, are you sure the wife/gf of one of the construction workers didn't leave it?

If you think he is cheating, check up on him and find out, but don't accuse him with flimsy evidence like the mascara.

Honey: Even if he were cheating on you, why would he have mascara on his closet? Cheaters have sex with other people and do not bring their make up home.
It is his routine that will tell the tale of cheating or faithfulness. Does he have guys night out? Does he work long hours? Has he become a bit cold or disconnected lately (before you confronted him about the mascara)? These are the signs of a cheater, not some tube of mascara which he could have easily put in the garbage.
Don't jump to conclusions, but be vigilant.
Good luck,
Mr. M on "Mascara."

If he never get you a "signal" that make you think that he's cheating on you (as you know we have an 10 sense), you don't have to treat him like you are.... be confident with him....
and forget about the Fu.......ing mascara...

be happy!!!!

just ask him to be honest.. and if he is you need to make a decision make it for what you believe.. do not stay with someone if you think is wrong.. you can always find roomates.. or resell... honestly I would not stay with someone who cheated on me just because I cannot afford .. i think i will make the changes and get help.. good luck

Was he calm when he said it wasn't his? He was? Yeah, he's cheating, but why did she bring mascara. I would think you would find lipstick before mascara.

ask him straight out if he is cheating and if he says no.. hire someone follow around for a few days... tell him your going out of town and surprise him at home! tell him your plane never left.

There is no way to tell someone "I think you're cheating on me" without putting them on defense. His voice message should be cause for relief since it indicates he cares about your reaction to what you found.

The chances that this wand came from somewhere else are EXTREMELY HIGH. There have probably been dozens of people in that new house before you moved in. You didn't find perfumed lace panties in his briefcase. You found someones lost makeup wand.

You summed this up best yourself when you said that you have no evidence. Now you are watching his natural reaction to being accused and interpreting that to be a sign of guilt. You are also ignoring his phone calls and treating him like he is guilty.

I think you are scared of the level of commitment you have made by moving in with him. I think you are looking for a way to end the relationship without taking responsibility for having done it. He might be cheating, but he probably isn't and you seem determined to find any excuse to believe he is.