Go away for a while or stay put?

I dound out that my husband cheated by having contacts on match.com, telephone, meetings etc...but he said no sex?? He apologized and admitted his weakness but put blame (some) on me. (not respecting him, siding my own kids etc.) I dont know how to heal...still not getting the whole answers from him..just told move on and not thinking of the past..even suggested that I should go back to my country to be with my family to heal...I am just not sure that that is the best to do..giving him more time on his own??? I dont know..I am so depress...Please give me some advice

I think that u should go away for a few days. give him sometime to realize what he did was wrong then if he truly loves you, he will come back to you. but i think that he is confused right now and he will either realize it or maybe he has already moved on. hate to say it but that might be the case. Hope everything works out for you!!

I'm sorry that you are going through such a right time and it's so easy for woman to say "Leave him". You are in a marriage and you have to ask yourself are you willing to save your marriage and foegive him? This means putting EVERYTHING behind and starting fresh. I reccomend you two seek marriage counseling . Remember either you stay or you don't. There is no in between. You should go on DR.Phil .com and see what he has to say. Hang in there honey and good lucK!!

It seems like the problem with love is just that...you love them and when they do something to hurt you, (like cheat on you) we sometimes try to find a reason to justify what they did. Or even though we know that we are right, we sometimes feel that maybe in some way it was our own fault that they cheated on us. Over all, I say follow you gut feeling. It never lets you down. As hard as it may be to do that, it will be the best thing to do. Only you know the situation fully. TRUST ME............you will get over it, and when you do, you'll laugh at how you couldnt see that before. I have so been there and done that and it sucks hard.

Do you remember what Jennifer Aniston said of Brad Pitt "He had an emotional affair" or something like that.. I think you need to give "yourself" some time not "him" or anyone else for that matter.Leave the kids with your husband and get a ticket to an island and have an alone time..Time to think and try to relax! Not too long maybe a couple of days or the weekend. When you come back, you will know what to do. You should also have a heart-to-heart conversation with your man after you have a heart-to-heart with yourself.Good Luck to you..and remember death is the only dead end in life, every thing else always has a way..

I too am a victom of internet cheating, My ex-husband found a girl on the internet, and from what I gather, they talked for a while and then he went to meet her, the weekend that he went to meet her, he told me he was going somewhere else, and the afternoon he left for the weekend, I had a bad car accident, well we had no way to get in touch with him, four days later he showed back up still claiming that he was in the original place that he told me he would be, but when we had called he was not there. Oh, to cut the story short, I told him if he would tell me the truth we might be able to work through it, but he only lied, not knowing that I had hacked into his messenger and yahoo account and got all his transactions of where he really was. I had no idea where he could have been, if something was wrong, or if something had happened to him. Anyway, if he had told me the truth and been honest with me I might have been able to stay, but with him still lying to me, I didn't know if I could have ever trusted him again. So, I left. Now, he has been married twice since then, and that was only 3 years ago.

Anyway, that was only to let you get where I am coming from.

If you feel that you could one day trust him again, and he has been honest with you and layed all the cards on the table (so to say). I would stay and try to work things out.

But if there is any doubt then, it is not worth it. You could be happier on your own.

If he is going to cheat, he will do it whether you are there or not. It might be a good idea to go away for awhile, so he can see what he really wants. If he contacts you later, then maybe you can work it out. Trust me, his cheating is not your fault, so don't believe that. The blame is on him.