Am I spending too much time with him? (serious answers please)?

My fiance & I became engaged in Nov '06. Since we first began dating, we have spent most of our time together. This is not to say that I purposely neglected any of my friends. Most of us separated after college & speak via telephone. But to be honest, hanging out w/my fiance has been comforting enough. He is both a blessing & my best friend. But gradually, I've begun to notice that I'm getting slightly tired of seeing him so frequently. I love him incredibly, but lately, it seems like everytime he calls or wants to come over, I cringe. This is really hurting me because it was never like this before. I'm also wondering if this is going to be a problem if I plan on marrying this man. What solutions can I possibly work with here? And no, I don't plan on leaving him. It would be foolish to apply a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This man is my heartbeat and a good man at that. But I don't want to tire of him either. He just enrolled in nursing school. Will that possibly help me?

It is quite normal to tire of someones company if you are together almost 24/7. Even married couples have to take time apart from one another and do their own thing. By taking the time apart, it helps to increase the meaning to the times you do spend together.

If he enrolled in nursing school, then you will find that it will quickly start taking up quite a bit of his time. It is a very demanding program to participate in and will keep him distracted. Which will help you appreciate the time you are together a little more.

You have already stated the best thing to remind yourself of. Just remind yourself how you are in love with him. How you couldn't imagine being without him. Also take some time out to hang out with "the girls" too. Spend some time to yourself to go out and do some things solo.

Everything sounds normal though. Your lucky to have found a man who treats you right and that you are hapy with. Good Luck!

It is a problem that you cringe when he calls, but it doesn't necessarily mean there is a serious problem just because you want time away from him. Most people don't want to be with their partner constantly. I think you might want to take a look at your life more broadly to see how "balanced" things feel. Identify your goals and passions beyond the relationship and see if you are involved or working on these things. Your life shouldn't be limited to just this relationship. I would develop/explore other things you enjoy, which will likely result in less time with your fiance. A well rounded life can do wonders for a relationship. Once you've accomplished this, reassess your feelings about the relationship. It is possible the negative feelings will dissipate. If they don't, then you have a different problem that might result in you questioning whether he is the man for you. Just because you love a man and believe him to be a good person, it doesn't mean he is the right man for you or that this is the right time for you (e.g., you have unfinished business in your life).

You might also identify what you are thinking when you cringe (e.g., "he's needy"; "we're boring"; "i want to do something new"; "he's trying to control me"; "i can't do what i want to"; "i want more"...) to help you understand where your dissatisfaction is coming from and then try to address that issue. Despite your love for him, does he have particular characteristics that you aren't able to tolerate in the long-run? What does it mean to you that ya'll spend so much time together?

You're in a tough spot. Good luck in figuring things out..