Am I being pushy? Am I expecting too much too soon?

I am being pursued by a Top Executive who has recently returned from the US to work on his native island. He is also recently divorced. I have decided to date him since approximately two months now. However I do not feel his presence as we see each other say, once per week with telephone calls sometimes every other day. The most we have been together was for two nights out of town at a Musical Festival.

Whenever we meet he expresses his total attraction and requests my full attention. He works late hours most days which results in cancellation of a lot of our meeting plans. (His working late is only evidenced by him calling from the office).

Somehow I feel he is keeping his weekends away from me as he has never been available for some reason or another. There is always something happening on the weekend 鈥?mainly with his family. While I understand that he lives alone and has his chores, I am of the opinion that he should be pushing to spend some of this time with me.

Should I push for more of his attention, or should I wait on him to make the moves. I have asked if he is involved with anyone else (due to his unavailability) and he says no, stating that he is new in this organization with the responsibility of eight departments and that his job takes up a lot of his time.

I am inclined to just wait and move with his flow, but at the same time, I do not want to appear uninterested. On another note I don鈥檛 want to be played, neither do I want to let suspicion kill a potentially good thing.

If you have taken the time to read this, I thank you. Any objective answers? Regards.

Well, this is an interesting situation you have here.
I happen to agree that he should be eager to spend as much free time with you as he has. As you said, though, he does have demands on his time. You seem to be an intelligent woman, so I think you already know what to do. Eventually, he will either spend the time with you that you deserve, or you will get tired of his inattention. Your decision seems to me to be how long you wait for it. Keep your eyes open, but, as you said, try to keep distrust out of your heart unless there is a reason for it.
Sorry I don't have better advice, but good luck to you.
And remember there are always other fish in the sea who would be happy to spend all the time they could with you!

Sounds like you are just one of his many.

You are not being pushy --- I think you are being too understanding. Something is not jiving here. Sounds to me like he is either 1. still married and lying or 2. has someone else on the side. If he was truely just into you, then you wouldnt be feeling this way. You probably know deep down that something is up.....maybe one day go to the office and surprise him with a bottle of wine and a negligee. If he is truely at the office like he says, then he will welcome the sexy surprise, but if not, then you have your answer too. Good Luck !

If you have let him know what you expect from him and he has done nothing to make it right, move on. You can't make someone do what they don't want to do. It's not that hard to fit in time for your mate. Just take it as a loss and move on.