LDS perspective PLEASE?

I contacted an old non-LDS friend & invited them (+wife and two elementary school age daughters) to stay overnight, 36 hours, at our house twice, six months apart for a summer party and a winter party. They live 3 hours south of our house. His wife is sullen, won't answer any emails and will not telephone; we have been sweet to her anyway. I have hinted for my husband and I to be invited to dinner at their house sometime but have been refused (on grounds of messy house), or sidestepped. To him, our house is a free hotel on the way to visit his grown daughter.Over the last year he has asked to visit us several times and I have stated that we were going to be out of town and other excuses because I wanted him to invite us to HIS house at least once before they make a habit of coming here all the time. He keeps stating "we like your house" and many compliments on how great a hostess I am. He has invited himself (all 4) to our house this summer. I feel used;sick. What should I say to him?

Limited space here Phrog... They don't initiate telephone calls, they don't initiate emails. They DO eat sleep and accept Christmas presents. It is not a religious issue unless THEY think it is.
I DID ask for LDS opinions because I already got the non-LDS answers earlier. Do you mind?

Interesting, I really don't know what to think about all of this. The husband may have been using you guys, but it is true that they might have enjoyed the spirit in your home.

I'm a little concerned about the wife who is "sullen, and won't answer any email" etc... Keep an eye on her, she may need your help. I don't trust that guy for some reason.

I think you need to keep your "old friend" at a healthy distance for a while, something is not right. I would check and make sure that your "old friend" didn't steal any personal information or items or possibly do something to one of your children (the children are often terrified to tell what happened and/or had their lives threatened.)

I don't want to be an alarmist but this friend's activities seem very strange.

I only bring this up because I recently learned of one of my male cousins being sexually abused by an older cousin of ours who himself had been sexually abused by a male baby sitter. (its a terribly tragic thing because of how my cousin has bottled it up over the years, he is very tenderhearted and thank God he didn't continue the practice himself but it has done terrible damage to him).

Make sure to take extra cautions. I hope you didn't give this man a key to your home. You and your husband need to discuss the possible things this man was doing in your home.

I would just decline his invitation to come to your house, especially if you feel used. It does sound like he is taking advantage of your hospitality. You don't have to allow him to stay all the time, but if you feel you want to invite him, maybe once a year is enough.