Whos In The Wrong?

me and my gurlfriend of the last 4 years have had a good relationship. however she has this male friend whom she speaks to on the telephone for 2 hours a night atleast, and alot of the time he often calls after midnight. Me I get a little suspicious, and uncomfortable it bothers me but i was willing to compromise saying they can be friends i dont care but i just dont like him calling after midnight and i think you should only talk (to a friend) for no more than 45 minutes a day. I thought i was being respectfull to both her and her friend but they did not comply and we are now broke up because of that?was I right to be suspicious or was i severly overreacting? Her side is they are best friends and they share alot of things in common, and she is a very loyal friend, and would not give up a great friend like that that sometimes only comes along for 1 time in your life if that. please be unbiased with your answers

Excuse me? He is the bf not you. You apparently mean little to her. You should have been gone.

I would never tolerate BS like that...after midnight, she should be with you in the sack......

If she refuses, find someone else to keep you warm at night when she is on the phone

You're wrong. You're not her parent to control her friends, her time and her telephone priviledges. She can make her own decisions. If you can't handle it, then find someone else.

Yeah... you had ever right to be concerned. I met my husband and he was the "best friend" feelings developed and now I am married to him and I obviously left my boyfriend. Only difference is I talked to my "best friend" 10 hrs. a day not 2

Congratulations, you did the best thing for you. You set a reasonable boundary - she could talk to him, just not after midnight. She did not want to comply, showing her lack of respect for you and the relationship. I can see how that would have made you suspicious. You did the right thing.

i have a best friend of opposite sex and we been best friends for twenty years but we respect each others personal life. There was no respect being friends don't mean you need to chat every night. Maybe occasionally i may have something pressing and I know i can call her anytime day or night but that doesn't happen very often maybe once a year. so they were just disrespecting you and it sounds like she is just immature and the guy really wants a piece of a*s*s

if i was u i would be suspicious so you have a right

i think she is in the wrong as far as how much time and the hours of the time spent with this person.. even i with my girlfriends dont talk that long or much everyday.. and ive had my best friends for over 20 yrs.. she and he should of at least respected your wishes of not calling so late.. if hes is a true friend to her then he wouldnt want to come between the two of you...so yes there could be more to it then there saying.. if not then she sure wasnt showing your any respect or thoughts about your feelings about the late night calls and hours of calls.. good luck

You are oh so wrong. You have no rights to police someones actions just because you have a relationship. Whatever happened to trust ? Hopefully you have learnt from this. We are individuals and need our time out to attend to things which are important to us. What makes you think you have the right to be so over the top controlling. Get a life ! sorry but I am annoyed !

your in the right !! YOU were together for 4 years , that's a long time. If she really felt like your relationship was worth it, she would cut way back on chit -chat time with her male friend. Look, i have a lot of relationship experience and I really dont think that a straight female and straight male can hold a purely platonic relationship ................even if she doesn't feel any intention towards him, he must be the one who feels something for her , ................therefore she likes that x-tra flirty attention or something. Whatever it is, isn't good and that's why you are broken up. Its probably for the best

There is a time and place for friends no matter what sex they are. Maybe there really isn't as much in your relationship as you think for her or both of you. You may just be trying to continue an attraction you had 4 yrs ago that never got nutured. Relationships no matter how great they are do not grow or last without investment.

After midnight is a little overboard but let me ask you..if her friend was a girl would you mind the 2 hour phone calls? After all isn't that way girls talk someone would think. But really if you are BEST friends then you can talk forever. I don't think you overreacted but you can't choose her friends or how long she will talk to them. Now if you live 2gether tell her midnight is disrespectful and for your peace of mind give a "curfew" But if she has her own place she will do what she wants and you talking to her about constantly will push her further away. Don't make her feel like you're making her choose between you and her best friend

I am a girl and think SHE is WRONG. How would she like YOU to be on the phone with another chick for two hours after midnight? I can't think of what could they possibly talk about for that long that late

WELL SHE MAY VERY WELL BE INNOCENT BUT WITH MY OWN EXPERIENCES I HAVE HAD SEVERAL GUY BEST FRIENDS AND IF THEY WERE CUTE AND THAT IT ALWAYS LEAD TO OTHER STUFF SOOOOOOO I WOULD THINK THAT SHE COULD HAVE KEPT YOU BOTH IF SHE HAD JUST GAVE IN SOME TO YOUR REQUESTS I MEAN WHY WOULD HE ONLY WANNA TALK AFTER 12:00 IS THAT WHEN YOUR ASLEEP? FOR YA'LL JUST TO BREAK UP OVER IT MAKES ME WONDER WHATZ REALLY GOIN ON WITH THEM YA KNOW GOOD LUCK