My ex-wife is back with us. Was it wrong for me to have a two-hour IM session with my ex-girlfriend in Poland?

My ex-wife moved back in with the family and I, she says, in hopes of reconciling. I often have my doubts, as she did have a lurid, extended affair with a felon, and still seems to be acting shady, despite that she has a law degree and is running for public office. We share the same bed and often get along like husband and wife.

The other night, my IM window popped open when I was on my laptop in my livingroom. My wife was fast asleep in the bedroom. It was Krystka, the woman who I'd dated while separated from my wife. She's engaged now in Poland.

We both complained about our significant others for a bit, and how we both don't have the same sexual chemistry with them as we do with each other, and before I knew it we were talking about the sexual role-playing we use to do.

"Wanna role play now? :-)," Krystka wrote.

Before I could think about it, she was in the role of a "masseuse apprentice" and I was a "nervous client" and the session ended two hours later, after very sexy back and forths, with us both hot and panting and "satisfied." Krystka really got into my head, for sure.

I had never done anything like this before. Was it wrong? Of course I wouldn't tell my wife.

no...!
she is now your ex-wife and furthermore from what i see..
both of u seem doesn't really had the heart for the reconciling..
u seem agreed to it for the sake of your kids not for your own sake.. and your ex-wife seem doing it because she's running some stupid political campaign..not because of u Too! (she is not even doing it for her own kids)
if u can't bring yourself to trust her, and she can't bring herself to love u again.. this reconcile thing is another bigger mistake u gonna make..! if u are no longer useful to her.. she is sure to kick your backside and say good-bye!

have u ever insist krystka not to marry that guy that she don't love and tell her u will try all means to get her back to your country? maybe she is waiting for u to say u LOVE her and tell her u wanted to marry her..! sometimes girl just wants her man to say the magic words without having to tell him to..
she may tell u her baby is not yours to test your love for her.
are u sure u won't regret giving her up to another guy.
if i were u.. i will even fly to Poland with my kids to stop this marriage..(not only am i getting myself a wife i love, i am getting my kids a good mom as well)

u are the one that make her pregnant.! don't u think that u should take care of her instead of leaving her to someone that she don't even love and lets other bring up your kid.
can't u be man enough to insist/tell her striaght not to marry anyone else but u because u Love her and u want her to be with u forever!

u and krystka seem gonna make the greatest mistake in life.. she don't love that guy and u don't love your ex. anymore.
and.....
who say krystka can't make a better mother to your kids?
don't forget all these years.. u are the one that "mother" your own kids. u keep your duty as a father as well as being their mother too..!
what make u so sure that your ex-wife would make the best mother..?

You should know better then to actually think that you both have good chemistry on-line? everyone has that, but in reality its all just talk, you and your wife have had a roller coaster marriage, just divorce the women so that you wont feel bad about an internet affair.

if i would have been u i would have went too bed nailed the old lady and called it a nite u'll most likely never see kris again so u might as well plugged the ex till she cheats on u again which in your most recent posts sounds like she is doing anyways.

Of course it was wrong. You ALL need to go back to being single (including that girl in Poland). Seems like that's what you really want.
And in case your thinking your actions were justified b/c she had an affair... they weren't.

All I want to know is: Did your ex bring back the velvet Elvis painting? How about "Dogs Playing Poker"?

if you have to ASK if it was wrong; it was.

this sounds like a romance book :)

Yes, that was wrong - if you're in a committed relationship - which you're not. I won't even comment on it from Krystka's perspective. (Is she legally married yet or are they living together as husband and wife? It could be your baby, could be his, quite a charming snafu, heh?)
It seems as though right now, your (I want to say marriage, but it isn't, really a marriage anymore) reconciliation is in pause mode. It seems pretty meaningless at this juncture, with all the mistrust and secret goings-on. Isn't it pointless to say you're reconciling when all the adjectives that spring to mind are ones like suspicious, lying, manipulative, deceitful, using, and political? No, I'm not going to say what you did was wrong, and you and I both know it can't keep going like this. I think you're in a discovery phase here - discovering which direction you want to take in your life. Maybe Krystka should be careful, though, about what she does. You don't know what kind of guy that is, if he could get jealous and abusive and hurt Krystka and the baby. The babies are the only innocent ones here.

Oh my.... you do get yourself into sticky situations.

You know you need to distance yourself from Krystka, she's not helping you by doing these things. If you want things to work out with Claire you will have to go easy on the IMing with Krystka until you know for sure if she is pregnant with your child. As for Claire, what would she do if she found out you are in contact with the nanny? You only assume she might be in contact with her ex... are you sure of this? Haven't you heard what comes around goes around

Yeah it was wrong,that whole situation you are in is wrong,from what I see its mostly on Claires shoulders but you fall into it also.If Krystka were here in the U.S would you even be with Claire?I doubt it,I cant say that I wouldnt do the same thing if I were married to her,if Claire were more intune to the relationship I dont think you would feel the urge to talk to Krystka but that doesnt make it right,you should really consider leaving the marriage soon,things seem like they will at any point blow up and someone will do something stupid and someone will get hurt,I feel sorry for your kids,you two are doing alot of damage to them

At this point, if you are trying to work on things with your wife, then yes it is wrong. I too talk to ex's from time to time, and have missed the hot flirty conversations, but when I think of them, I just turn around and do what ever I was thinking about with my boyfriend. Think about how you would feel if she was doing that to you? That's the next best way to look at things, always put the shoe on the other foot! Good Luck