How rude is this?

My office celebrates birthdays by having our bdays listed on a monthly list ( we have over 20 employees ). Our inner office which I am part of does individual cakes for our office staff and usually it's an afternoon after lunch celebration.


Well.. here it goes. My Birthday is posted along with the others like all. I am sharing this day with 2 other individuals.

As petty as this sounds... we have two cakes here.. One each of the other two..... nothing NOTHING for me. I am really hurt by this and feel like calling off Thursday and Friday just to take some time away from these folks.

This is a message that screams.. you mean nothing to this office and your not even worth awknowleging like the rest.

Maybe you could buy cup cakes. Some bakeries you can order in advance.

I am sorry for your issue. I understand. We had a birthday party at our house awhile back. I was busy with something & time I got to the kitchen no cake was left.

I would also make a t-shirt that says. "Where's my piece?"

thats very rude and sad :( happy late birthday though! dont let your rude office people get to you, you're a great person and dont deserve their rudeness go ahead and take thursday and friday off and have some fun! and if any of the office people ask why you're doing that say that you just wanted to have some fun cause its your birthday celebration time and why should you work at a place that doesnt appreciate you? have a great time!

Perhaps they are trying to space the cakes out a few days apart and yours is coming later in the week. I understand how this would make you feel as though they don't care. It really is rude of them. But all you can do at this point is take the high road and ignore their lack of tact. Maybe later, when your feelings have calmed down a bit, you could ask someone you feel comfortable with if your done something to set the others against you. Sorry you are working with such a mean bunch. Happy Birthday anyway.

Evidently you're hurt by their lack of sensitivity, as you should be. I think calling in for Thursday and Friday would be a good idea as long as you can afford to and you won't be written up or anything of that nature.

If by the end of the day you still feel this hurt, take the couple days off to re-evaluate and take a breather. We all need a little break every now and then.

Oh and Happy Birthday!

Tough situation. Did they already celebrate? If not, I would stick it out and see what happens, then be the better person and mention that it is also your birthday. See how the reaction goes. If they've already had their "party" I think you should still go an mention it to someone - preferably one of your co-birthday people - word will definitely get around. You may get your due celebration in the long run. Don't call in sick on Thursday and Friday - be the better person. Have a Happy Birthday otherwise....:)

That's terrible. That's why most companies do not have such celebrations anymore. Or they will have a monthly b-day celebration for all employees.

I feel sorry for you. But, don't let this bother you too much. Keep your head held high and just remember that they aren't the folks that are important to you.

That is rude! then if you were to say something about it they would say you are an attention grabber. If you can ask casually why you didn't get a cake and then in a big bright red pen circle your name on the list. If that still doesn't get their attention, maybe they forgot or don't think you have worked for them long enough or maybe they don't think you're worthy of a cake. And if that still doesn't work, then have yourself your own little party in the break room where there are only close friends and family invited, if that's allowed.

These people are the rudest people I have ever heard of. I say you take Thursday and Friday off and hold your head up high. It's a big blow, and it does scream that message.
Just take a four-day weekend and celebrate with friends and family who truly DO care about you!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, for the record. Wish I could bake you a cake and bring it to you, just so I could show them how rude they're being.

I'd feel awful too, anyone would. Is it possible that it was just a mistake and not really a message directed at you? Could you talk to the person who was responsible for organizing and just tell them how you feel? Maybe they just messed up and were thoughtless instead of intentionally being rude. Just suggesting that since you didn't say that there are other signs of them being rude to you or excluding you.

that was sooo rude!! Just dont go to work for the next day or two, and when u come back tell ppl "oh im sorry i couldnt come to work cuz i was too busy looking for my birthday cake, the one u guys gave the two employees and not me, but I ate it with my family so it tasted better then any cake u could of bought me"

It never fails. If you are one of those office women who gets off on Birthdays and sympathy cards and baby showers for people you work with... you will always wind up getting your feelings hurt...why?
Because you care more than everyone else. The other people usually have families and friends and spend that time caring about family and friends not strangers at the office.

That's not petty.....I would feel the same as you in this situation.
I would go into work but I woud not participate in the little parties for the other two, if anyone asks just tell them that even though it's your b-day..you don't feel like a party. They will then realize that they forgot to get you a cake and the fact that they completely forgot about you.

That is dreadful; do you have enemies there you know of or is this a total surprise? Either way it is terrible and frankly, time to look for another job. I detest ofc parties anyway and prefer to avoid them but I have to say I have never heard of this happening to anyone in any ofc I ever worked at, that is so insulting. Yes, do take time off and spend it wisely by registering at a minimum of three employment agencies and posting your resume on monster.com There is a better job for you out there and this is a sign for you to move on.

You could take the time off, tell them you're going out to look for your tiny, little, so-small-it-must've- gotten-lost cake. Take the time to heal (try), so you can come back intact after this startling lack of attention on the part of your work peeps.
Darn them.

WHY are people so effected by Corporate Cakes and Newsletters? GET A LIFE! Who cares? It is not kindergarden!!!!!!!!!!! It is work...do you job and leave...then celebrate your birthday with friends and family! Yikes, the whole work-party thing makes me wig-out!

Yeah i would say that's pretty darn rude. But don't let it ruin your job or your Birthday! I think taking thursday and friday off would be the best plan get away from the office and go shopping with your friends for a day!
happy birthday :D

"nothing NOTHING for me." LMAO That's classic.

Jan,

Sweatheart, it's just a stupid office party.

Love,
Mike & Carol Brady

That is pretty rude. Talk to your manager and express your concerns. Tell them that you'd like to be treated just like everyone else and don't understand why you were left out.

That does seem incredibly rude and dismissive. If there was just one cake or something that would be different, but acknowledging the others and not you is rude.

wow i am sorry to hear this happened to you! Happy Birthday though!!!
I would say.. the heck with these people! The only ones who truly matter are your family and friends. Screw the rest. Enjoy your day!

I'd be offended too.
Maybe you should take a few days to cool off. Working is working though, so you may not like the people you work with...

wow thats mean! i think you should quit! find a job that pays more and a place that cares about you! or stand up to your boss... then dont buy him a cake for his birthday

wow that is rude.. yea take off these days to show them how hurt u are and that might get in their heads.

Wow that sounds rough... i would take those days off if you could afford it, that is rude ..haha but petty...all the same.

Happy birthday! don't let them get you down! it sucks my story!

my place of business did that too! ON MY BIRTHDAY they got cake for the girls who birthday were like 3 days past 3 days prior to my day..There names were on the cake and everyone sung... to them on my birthday! LOL I forgave them all but i did lose something respect for my office peeps! a few people came up to me and said how wrong it was! be being the strong person i think i am i said it's no big deal it's just a day! Inside i was balling my eyes out! Why on earth would anyone do something like that! my name was on that list for that day! the e-mails were even sent out! I was there just over a year too so maybe i was new i thought up every excuse in the book on why they would do that!
then i said F IT it's not worth my time nor effort to raise anything about it!
so i forgave them!
Later that day before i was leaving someone famous came to the station (i worked in radio) he got wind that i was my birthday and then he sung to me and only me! WOW some famous dude who sings R&B is singing happy birthday to me!
weird i really didn't know the guy either but it was the best! everyone heard him and no one could look me in the eye. i thanked him got a photo!
my boss did say sorry she didn't check the e-mail to see who's b-day it was!

The moral of this is there are good people out there waste your engery on them!

No offence to your office but i wouldn't give them the time or day ever again! Just do one thing Forgive them.. and maybe something will come your way!
and by all means TAKE THE DAYS OFF! who knows what might happen!

BTW i don't work there anymore left after another year!~
now i'm in tv!

It does hurt tho so i do feel your pain... just don't dwell on it or it will consume you!
:)
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