What must I do about him?

Hi I am 25 years old recently started working fulltime. There is one guy in my office. He is one of the Managers in the office and holds a very responsible job. Most say he is a very good manager. I think he must be in his thirties and I saw him wearing a ring but I am not sure he is married or not. Anyway my problem is that I am not sure what is going on between both of us.
Sometimes he will look directly into my eyes without smiling and behave so shyly. I am a tall and very shy girl. I too look at his eyes. Sometimes I avoid his eyes. His behavior confuses me as I am not sure what he is feeling about me. I started having strong feeling towards him as the days go by but his behavior really makes me upset. How am I to know what he really feels about me? Once he came to my office room when nobody was there and talked to me about something quite useless. I had a feeling he just wanted to talk to me. Yesterday he came near to where I was sitting and was talking with somebody else. His body language says that he might like me. He is a good person and behaves like a gentleman but I cannot understand why he feels shy with me and look at my eyes.
But today he was very casual towards me and I got hurt and really confused. He was not shy towards me today. However he looked at my hands as though our hand might touch or something when we walk close? It is impossible for me to talk to him about theses things as a colleague as he is one of my bosses. Could somebody help me and tell me what is going on here? I am undergoing lot of emotional and personal problems at the moment and I really need somebody to talk and share my feelings with. But I do not know I can be friendly with this guy as I do not know what he is feeling for me. I must tell that he is extremely busy and hardly got a free time. May be his mood is changing or something? I really cannot understand him.

Sounds like you got the hots for him. take a chance and see where it goes.

Non verbal communication means A LOT more than verbal, so you are obviously seeing the right thing... If you see it there and you notice it, its there. He must have some kind of feelings for you, especially with him acting so awkward around you.... Trust it...

pull out his heart and make him watch you eat it on a table in front of him. *





* may not actually work.

oh man, i'd love to slap the living hell outta some people around here. Who wants to fight? Don't mess with the guy, he sounds like trouble :)

Hi, im single.

FIRST !!! Confirm he is married or not ...

Second .. . get close to him .. be his friend. . then all your confusion will be gone ..

Cut it out, NOW!

What you are doing,even considering involvement with someone from work could brand you for te rest of your life.

Women get reputations as office sluts, even if nothing is going on, ugly politics develop if co-workers think someone is earning extra points with the boss, off of the clock, and sometimes people in power play games just to get what they want, and once you've served your purpose, they could label you as disruptive, or any list of other negatives to get rid of you, if they think you might jeopardize their career.
I've seen it happen WAY too many times, and never successfully without both parties leaving their company, sometimes not by choice.

So, be nice to your manager, but buy yourself a small unjeweled band for your ring finger, and keep your distance professional, and your reputation intact, o.k.?

Good luck.

First order of business, find out if he's married! It shouldn't be hard, surely someone in your office knows. Second, if you like him don't share all your hurts and baggage with him. That's what girlfriends are for. You will either scare him off or set yourself up to get used by doing that. I'm sure you know someone who trusted a guy with all their hurts and secrets, allowed the guy to "comfort" them and then never heard from him again. You're smarter than that babe!

Aw, sweetie- married men flirt. Many go beyond that. But here's the one bit of advice I give you with experience and confidence: HE IS MARRIED- why do you want him at all in that case? Have some respect for his wife, and possibly kids?

Here's the real issue: ask yourself why you might feel you deserve less than your OWN man? Is there something other than just shyness going on with you that you perhaps don't feel worthy of your own relationship, or that you are afraid to have one of your own?

My second comment is to seek a counselor for a session or two to talk ot over. Find a Social Worker- they are great. I promise you will get much out of it if you do this.

Finally, sweet one, don't get involved with someone who would consider using you. Most married men who fool around have some pretty deep commitment problems (or worse) and you don't need to get dragged into that melodrama or feel that kind of pain at 25. OK?

Good luck, hun! {hug}

~Shiva~