My husband has a compulsive habit of getting too close to his office female colleague how can i make them?

realize their boundaries. My husband infact had an affair also with one of them , and it nearly brought us to divorce but he hasnt changed much internally . The pattern is that when one leaves he takes another one. He never flirts openly or is generally promiscuous , its more like he needs to have atleast one close female friend at work at a given point in time. They start as normal and grow deeper in a couple of years . He falls into a pattern of sharing too many of our family details with them , always spending lot of time at office with them , takes the onus of guiding them in their career and drops n pick them up also and generally "adopts" all their emotional problems also. Last year I caught some lovey dovey sms also with his current good friend but he was quick to BS me that she sent those sms by mistake to him , they were meant for some other friend of hers !!!. Now again im seeing mails from her , they arent intimate but still shows how close they are. How do I handle

these bitches so that they know they are over stepping. I know actually my husband should not be doing all this , he is responsible but any of my pleas to him are not gonna make him change. Plus due to kid I need to stay with him , when I discover things them we have terrible fights which our child sees and its not good for him. Since im unable to make my husband change is their any way I can smartly tick off such girls ? Sigh I know when one leaves another will be made. Im emotionally exhausted. He spends his emotions on them and then when he comes home he has now warmth or affection for me. When I tell him he says im only imagining things and that he is only friends with them and they cannot take my place.

He's a womanizer and probably will have an affair if he hasn't already.

If you can't stand his behavior call your lawyer and issue divorce papers. He won't change. He probably can't change.

tell him he cuts it out or:

you want an open marriage (so you can get some fun)
or
divorce (hope he can afford it)

He can never change. its him, and whatever you'll do, he'll take it the wrong way. Only you know if you can handle this forever!

doesn't seem like he'll change.........so just cut loose......get a divorce.....

i know this is hard and u want to stay with ur husband because of ur kid but u cant change him. if he keeps lying and hooking up or getting too close to these "colleagues" of his the only way around it is to move on with ur life. either u divorce him or do the same back to him.

theres is no easy solution and no solution that is not gonna hurt someone in the end. so either way its a no win situation and its really ur call. would u be willing to act as scandalous as him or is it better to just end the marriage. when u marry ur suppost to dedicate urself to that one person for the rest of ur life.

wat ur husband is doing is entirely wrong and if i were u i would kick him out telling him he could still see the kids but that u two were over. he is never going to change reguardless of ur efforts to try and alter his ways its not likely to have any effect. he obviously sees no wrong in wat he is doing so he sees no need for change.

u need to get on with ur life and u havent got time for selfish jerks like wat ur husband is being. the best thing for u and ur kid is to kick him out in my opinion its about time someone showed him just wat a complete mess he is making of ur life not to mention his.dont keep hoping he'll change and dont make excuses for him, as the saying goes old habits die hard.

good luck!

It is really a serious problem, but main thing is that divorce is not a solution of this problem you should talk to your husband about this and make him understand that you really love him to great extent. As many people have sugessted you to take divorce but remember it ruins your life also as well as yours child.otherwise you also can join a job in same office it will help you alot because if you will be with him then no gal will try to be close with him.