Question For Grandparents?

My son and Daughter in law gave us a grandson 6 mos ago..They are very protective, and dont feel comfortable leaving him with us. She works in a church daycare office and has access throughout the day to him. The person who takes care of him is allowed to babysit him at their home, but they wont let anyone else, nor us sit...This is very hurtful. We live 20 min from each other, and to date they have only been out here 1 time since before Thanksgiving. We get to see him once a week at church..This last sunday was a disaster, as I wanted to hold him in the back, and my son said I couldnt..he wanted me to sit upfront with him while holding him..We feel he doesnt trust us with him..We raised a son 28, a daughter 22, they both turned out fine, except he has this problem of being overly protective with his own..He is depriving us of enjoying being granparents...I dont get it, I wasnt that way with my kids, I shared them, everychance I got..What shall I do..Driving me nuts.

Thankyou Lindy Lou for the encouragement. I guess there are alot of people who are in the same perdicament. I agree being too protective will ultimately cause the child more harm than good..I guess they think that they know more than the already experienced mothers and fathers that have already raised their children, and they came out fine. What a mess.

Wow do I know how you feel. My daughter-in-law was much the same way. Even my son could not figure it out. It is very, very hurtful. It was to the point if he tried to get her to let us watch our grand daughter it would cause world war III. It got to the point it wasn't worth the trouble it caused for him. There are a few occasions that he put his foot down but she would make life so miserable for him in the long run. We know she was using our grand daughter to hurt us. She had the power and control and used it to her full advantage. Unfortunately the one that gets hurt the worst is the child.

I will say my grand daughter is 3 now and she has gotten a lot better. I will tell you that there was some counseling involved on her part and I think my son finally laid the law down.

My advice would be to try and just hang in there. Keep praying, we did a lot of that! Just know that there is someone else out there that knows how you feel. Extremely painful!! Life is so much better now, a year ago I would never of dreamed it would be so much better. I would give the power of prayer the most credit for the huge improvement in our situation. Good luck!! Grandparents are one of God's greatest gifts in life.

i would sit them down and have a talk with them on this.it is one thing to be overprotective but another not to let the grandparents keep him.if this does not work you just have to do the best you can and hope that they change for the better.