Why are people so rude? I鈥檝e only been here a week at work (I鈥檓 a temp) and they鈥檙e all arranging to?

go for lunch. They invited everyone except me. They just ignore me here as well. They arranged lunch when I was away from my desk and when I got back, they didn鈥檛 include me. Some of the people whom I office share, haven鈥檛 even introduced themselves to me either.

I'm either very sensitive or they're very rude.

It sounds as if work is really cliquey...a sign of weak management. I have had that experience, I was really freindly, but people just ignored me or ridiculed me for what I said. It will hopefully give you a thicker skin like it did me...my attitude changed and I thought F*** them!!

maybe there is more to it than what youre telling, perhaps they feel something off you they dont like, of course in those circumstances they are going to shun you. Report It

then don't bother with them. you don't need mates at work who are gonna be like that.

scumbag snobs - sod 'em

i don't know some people seem to enjoy thinking that they are better than other people. its true though that you should always be nice to everybody at work - you never know when you will need them.
just rest assured that you are a better person than they are no matter what your job title.

Just the way people are babe!
but remember if this is how they behave then you don't even want to bother with them! At least your not a permenant member of the team!

Don't worry about it. They probably all sit in the pub and slag the boss off. Once they get to know you they may well come around.

I feel today people are getting ruder, have not manners and no respect. They are not worth knowing if they treat you beneath them as you are a temp. Try introducing yourself to those who have not spoken to you - put them in a spot where they have to talk to you.

ignore them and think about the wages lol

You're not in South London or Surrey are you? People are bl*ody unfriendly there. Well, the life of a temp starts out quite lonely but then blossoms into many a friendship. I remember temping for one company years ago and it took a month before I made some good friends and had a good time socialising. Maybe they just don't like you or maybe they are ignorant unfriendly *hits as you say.

How rude!! If i were you I'd go back to the temping agency and ask to go somewhere else.

it could be that they want to give you a chance to catch up with your work after spending all that time on yahoo! answers during your working hours

A week !?
So , who's mistake ? They don't know you yet !!!
Try to understand by taking with another girl about work & employees ; she could tell you the secret .
A week is not enough to judge some one !

That does seem unnecessarily rude to me but it's one of the pitfalls of being a temp. I guess they think, why bother going to effort of getting to know someone who will be leaving soon? Having said that, yeah it is pretty rude. It wouldn't cost them anything to include you.

Rise above it. Don't start being rude back. Show you are the bigger person.

it's just because you are not yet part of the collective. They don't know if you will be their in three months anymore.

Ignore them. people like that aren't worth your effort. they think just because you are a temp you are beneath them. I don;t like people like that at all. On the upside at least you only have to put up with them for a while.

You need to have the courage to reach out to them. They probably don't even realize how rude they are being. You need to be proactive

Been here 9 months and they don't talk to me or invite me anywhere either. If i did'nt need the money i would be off. Sorry but i know how you feel..

Being temporary in any job is difficult, it is most likely that they simply didn't realize how hurtful their exclusion is to you. My advice is to make sure you are overtly friendly, make sure you smile, greet others ask for assistance when required, I was a temp for many years on long term relief positions I would even take in the occasional cake but that was me...mostly be friendly and yourself and see how you go....good luck!

SNOBS dont let it bother you get your bf to come and take you for lunch carrying a big bunch of flowers that will shut them up

the working world is different to the real world - survival of the fittest is sadly the motto there. You're a temp-er, which means to them that you are inferior to any full time worker.

FCUK them, incompetent dumb-asses. Besides, you have friends outside the office i'm sure, so you don't need some sad, balding sado-masochistic accountant's nod of the head.

I temped for years and I know how you feel, its like you are a non person. I used to call it workplace un-dead, like a vampire you are there and visible but not really alive!
I also used to think that if they were like that then did I really want to spend MY time with them? Not really.
Chin up, you know that its rude and ignorant and wouldnt treat people that way. That makes you a better person.

perhaps you need to do the talking and introduce yourself ... remember you have invaded their space so you need to make the effort. show some confidence - they will appreciate it more than someone sitting in a corner .

some people need a shove. introduce yourself and let them know how much they are missing by not getting to know you and accepting you into their "group" x

Its just downright rude. Its hard enough to start working somewhere new without people being nasty. Keep thinking to yourself that you are temping and its not forever. They all too had to fit in at some stage and see how easy they forget that they too were once the new girl. They are not worth worrying about.

Hi, hope it's not the office I work in! (we went out for lunch yesterday as a lad came back for a visit but the temp didn't know him)
We have a couple of temps, and it does take time to get to know them. You don't want to bombard them with loads of questions in case they think you being nosey and you don't know either how long they are there for.
Also, if they are a very busy office it takes longer to get to know people. If they have a room where people meet for lunch, talk to them then and get to know them. It works both ways, you need to make an effort and they need to be more welcoming.
Good luck!

yes they do seem rude, will they at least talk to you ?

If so then strike up a conversation, ask them how long they have worked there, that almost always makes
room for conversation.

good luck & hope it works out for the best

poor u that is so rude!try not to let it annoy u hun ther not worth it sure come 2 lunch with me!lol

I guess it's like Big Brother, I can't believe I'm using Big Brother as an analogy. You're the house mate that was introduced to the house after everyone else had been in for weeks and bonded. It is rude that they didn't invite you. Maybe you should stick your hand out with a smile and introduce your self they'll probably invite you. If they don't you're temping so you won't be their forever. I've found that work colleagues behave differently at work than they do at social events, cut them some slack.

Sadly, the way you are being treated is often what happens with temps.

I've temped over the years and it's fair to say that in a lot of company's you're are an invisible resource. You don't have a name - you're only known as "the temp". You don't have a brain, but you're the expert at the photocopier even though it's probably a model you've never seen or used before, and you're expected to do all the filing that the person you're standing in for couldn't be bothered to do herself!

The only time they take any real notice of you is when it's time to get your timesheet signed and they query the number of hours that you've actually worked.

I read a great fictional novel once called "The Temp" by Serena Mackesy. You should read it, because it's oh so true!

I used to spend a lot of time working as a temp, and unfortunately it seems that in many places this is just how people treat temps. I don't know why, but it is like they think temps are some sort of lower life form that needn't be bothered with. It sucks, but one day you'll be more successful than any of them.

I still remember my time as a temp and whenever we have a temp in where I work now I always make an effort to talk to them and make sure that they get included in anything that goes on in the office. I don't want to be like the people who used to be so mean to me.

Are you in the wrong job? or as I suspect they think you are taking their job away from them being a Temp?