Mad at Coworker?

I hahve been in my current position for about 10 months now and have not had any problems with anyone until yest.

Here are the details:
I was in a meeting from 7:30am -9:30am. I had accidently grabbed both sets of car keys and my son missed the bus. My husband started calling my office number. One of the people I share my office with decided not to go to the meeting. Apparently, the 2nd time my husband called my office, she picked up MY phone and slammed it down in his ear. He thought it was me and called back three more times to find out 1. why am I mad? and 2. can I bring him his keys. Then my boss calls me in, apparently she complained to her instead of working it out with me, saying he called "35 times in a row". Now I feel like I have to constantly watch my back with her. I used to think she was my friend. Now I only speak to her when I have to and don't want to approach her. I also found out I was getting other calls that morning that were not from my husband. Help!

Your question is in etiquette which is the key word. When you are at work you have to practice that to the fullest. #1 if you absolutely have to keep your cell phone on, keep it on vibrate and keep it on you. If your husband was calling your work phone, then she was unprofessional and unethical for hanging up on him the first time. Whatever it is that crawled up her skirt and bothered her is her problem, however it doesn't make it her business to cause problems for you.

Now, back to etiguette, you should always leave your personal problems at home. This is the main reason people get fired from work. If you are running late for work due to the family fine, but no need to give your boss details. Call and tell him/her you are running late and leave it at that. Who cares really why.

If your husband locked his keys in the car, you should had him use triple A, or use the roadside assistance you should have with your cell phone carrier or insurance company. They are services that can help you when you've been locked out of your car. Accidents happen apparently, so let them happen, but a place at work should be where you are working. Employers understand reasonable emergencies... but there was a solution to your husband's issue and your employer felt that way.

I know my answer may sound harsh but I am one who was fired many times due to personal issues and became tired of it and learned to avoid it again.

As for the blood shark biting witch in the office... KARMA is the key... so relax forgive and sit pretty and wait for the day.

Relax breath and count to 10 and avoid any and all future problems caused by the witch... you are now the victim, until you can stop giving others ways of making you the victim... deal with it and just wait.

Ignore her, she should have told him you were in a meeting and took a message. She was probably mad because she wasn't at the meeting.
Get a voicemail for work if you can or tell hubby to call only your private phone. This lady could be making you miss a ot of calls.

You need to go to your boss on this one. Explain the situation, and ask your boss to intervene on your behalf. She sounds like a person who goes around trying to cause grief for everyone. I bet she's caused problems for others, too.

I have had this same issue....not so much slamming my phone but not coming to me first with the issue.

I setup a meeting between her and I an discussed my concerns with her. I told my boss that this was what I was going to do, and she said that was a very proactive thing to do. This way she knew I was attempting to recitfy the situation.

Report her to management NOW! She may be damaging the business - cut her off at the knees otherwise she will smother you.

set her hair ablaze. jk. It's probably a matter of talking to her.

This isn't high school, this is the real world, I would either confront her and ask her why is acting inapropriately or U should talk to ur supervisor and find a peaceful resolution to the problem, she is just being childish

Does she have her own phone? If not then talk to your boss and see if she can be moved to some other place. Each person should have her own cubicle or office. If not, just politely say don't answer my phone and to just let the voice mail pick it up.
Hopefully that will help, otherwise, I don't know what to tell you.
Also you can explain the situation to both your boss and husband. Especially your husband so he doesn't take it the wrong way and personally.
Good Luck.

You have a big problem. You need to go to your supervisor immediately and explain things about yesterdays calls. You need to clear the air on this whole thing, since your co-worker has already tried to ruin you in the bosses eyes. You need to do this in a clear and concise way and not whine on and on about the co-worker. You need to "bring it to the supervisors attention" that the following:
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items are occuring and before you went to the co-worker you wanted to know how the supervisor preferred it be dealt with.

Stay away from this woman, she is a jealous co-worker who is probably thrying to push you out of the way and get ahead. She is trouble. Go to work, do your job and avoid her whenever possible.

My first move would be to talk to this lady. Explain to her that you understand her frustration with the phone ringing, but here's is what happened (and explain what you wrote here). Also, tell you you DO NOT appreciate her hanging up your phone, and next time you would ask her to talk to you first. Tell her you felt disrespected, and all of this could have been easily fixed had she brought it up with you right away.

Also, I would be careful with phone calls for a while as they will be "watching" even though it's not really your fault.

i would nicely ask her not to answer your phone... and if your husband calls on another line to please inform me.. and i would ask her to be professional and take a message.. What if something more serious was going on! I would also note your boss..
better yet have a meeting with her and your boss and replay this story and explain how unprofessional you feel these actions were and am having this meeting to see what will be done that this will not happen again!
other then that
your welcome to use my motto
i may spend more time with you then i'm at home but your still my coworker be nice i'll be nice friendship is not required!
infact i don't hang out with the peeps i work with!
i think that's be cause i don't meet their standards and i don't want to!

Talk to her about it she may have been having a bad day.

It seems that she wants to control your workstation. Do you share a phone with her? Can you set your ringer to silent while you're away from your desk? What is the quality of the coworker's work? Has she sabotaged your work or corrupted any files?

Dealing with People is the best book I've used for office environments. Your coworker could be one of the ten types - although probably a mixture. Definitely get this book! It has great strategies for dealing with offensive & insidious coworkers.

Make sure you ask her first, if this is indeed, what happened. Then, calmly but firmly tell her that you expect her to be as courteous as you would be in the same situation. If you are her manager, let her know in a mature manner (just the facts, ma'am) that this behavior on her part is unprofessional and will not be expected to continue. I would definitely let her know that her behavior, if true wasn't cool. You must set people's expectations in a professional setting. Be friendly, and respectful, but set correct boundaries. That's just my 2垄

Like another poster said, I would let the boss know you guys are going to have your own 'meeting', that will clear you in the bosses eyes. As for her? Well, it probably won't change a thing. Some people are just that way. We know we can't change them, all we can do is change how WE respond to them. The next time she's acting like a b.itch, just roll your eyes and continue your work. I once asked a boss if they could put my desk in closet just so I wouldn't have to deal with all the b.itchiness. One key thing to remember, you will have to watch your back at all times, unless you are a 100% perfect employee (which no one is), because it sounds like she is willing to try and make you look bad any chance she gets. It truly is dog eat dog in corporate America, so be careful! Maybe your boss could just move you? I once had to move because this dude that sat close to me did NOT bathe. It was sick, I gagged all the time. On the phone with a customer, the smell would waft over and I'm going, "Can I put you on holgaaaaaaagagggggghhha please." It was awful........

Good luck!

She's not your friend.

We had one like her in our office. Nice as pie to your face. Nice, nice, nice. Then run in & tell the boss stories about you (usually untrue) and then come back and be nice to you once more.

Watch your back! May get a knife in it.

I could understand it if it were your son calling all of those times, but your husband? Your coworker is right. You have imposed on her good nature and need to apologize immediately and sincerely. You also need to set up a voice message on your phone at work to direct callers to an emergency number. You also need to apologize to your boss and explain that this was a totally unusual circumstance that you mishandled, tell him/her what you intend to do to make sure it never happens again, and thank him/her for his/her time.

Get a copy of your incoming phone calls on that morning. Keep a file. The next time your co-worker does something that may put your job in jeopardy, show your proof that she is lying. In the meanwhile, give her a wide berth and be abot our business. The 'boss' apparently has chosen to believe her, so lt it go. It's a dead issue.