Coworker issues....?

I started working and now I have a coworker that hates me because she has been working there for 9 years and I started working with the same title that she has....I guess she feels like she is being taken over or something but she is soooo *****....we share an office and it all started when one day I was working on something and I had a problem with the software, I was not familiar with it and I was asking her how to do something and she was ignoring me. So I called technical help for the software, she got so upset that she closed the door and pretty much told me off!!! now she was she talks about me to the receptionist behind my back but within earshot and in the morning when I go to work she nor the receptionist act like I dont exist until the boss shows up then they act all buddy buddy with me! its affecting me, by the way we are the only employees so its a really small office. How should I tell my boss? I have never delt with this before and now I dread work!!! Help!!

come clean with her about the whole thing and confront her , show her that u understand where she is coming from with that feeling of hatred and i hope this will solve the problem

First of all, you're learning about who you're dealing with, and that's important. Obviously both your co-worker and the receptionist have a sneaky streak in them if they modify their behavior based on your boss' presence. You may need to do the same, but under no circumstances should you be anything less than professional in your manner.

The fact that you're the only employees can actually work in your favor. If you find that you're in the office alone with them, you can confront them without making a public scene in front of a crowd. Under no circumstances should you allow them to take and maintain control of the situation. For example: if your co-worker tries to close your office door in order to tell you off again, don't let her close the door, and tell her to speak up and speak openly. Make it clear to both of them that you will not tolerate being mistreated. As for the title, tell your co-worker to take it up with your boss if she has a problem with her position in the office - maybe there's a reason she's had the same title for 9 years.

You could also try a heart-to-heart talk, but don't give her the opportunity to betray a confidence. Should you go this route, you still need to be firm and make it clear that your objective is an amiable work environment for all concerned.

Unforunately, being new has some disadvantages. Rather than complaining to your boss about behavior they're careful not to let him see, try to expose it so he can see it for himself. You've got to be careful at this early stage not to come off like you're high maintenance or a trouble maker.

Good luck.

One other thing: it may prove beneficial later to keep a log of anything significant. If your co-worker has your boss' ear and trust, he may turn to her for feedback regarding your performance. So, for example, with the call to tech support: you want to be able to recall hat you had to call tech support because she was unresponsive when you asked for help, and then got angry with you for calling tech support.

It may be hard to do because you want peace with her but you need to have a firm talk with her and tell her that you have done nothing to her and you do not appreciate the disrespect you are getting from her.

But seriously, if you do not say anything to her she will keep on with this behavior. I had to do this with a co-worker once and after having this talk we are now friends in the office.

Either 1.)you are gonna be up front with her and ask a direct question "Is there a problem?"
You are the newbie. You have not indicated what kind of peace offerings you have put out. Or are you the problem?? They (her and the receptionist)have senority so they must have been doing something right.
Who hired you? Talk to them "in private". Either you can fit or you can't.

You can't tell your boss this unless it really turns ugly. Welcome to the world of small office pettiness. It's sad, but that's the way it is when you are subjected to insecure and petty people. You have to suck this up if you like the job and try to tune them out. They are small minded and certainly there will be some jealousies for a while but it seems you might have to prove your worthiness to these gals and if you remain business like,but kind and approachable, eventually these girls will come around. Esp the receptionist. Do what you have to do to gain an ally if that's what it comes down to, but NEVER go to the boss with such pettiness. It will belittle you in the end and the boss will start re-thinking their decision to have hired you in the first place. Good Luck!

Tell her you need to talk to her....meet her at a good place at a good time when not rushed, and when convenient for both, and let her know how you are feeling. Make sure you select your words wisely. No blaming or critisizing yet getting the point across. Try not to put her on the defensive. If that still doesn't help and u do not notice a change in behavior, take it to your boss and keep the issue on the table. Be diplomatic at all times. And make sure you mention how it's affecting work and productivity. Keep your cool.... goodluck.