How do I do this?

I have been involved with a man for almost 5 years, but the first year and a half living with him, he lied about being married and having a child. After three years I realize that I cannot overcome this chaos, he owes his now ex wife a half a million dollars, they share an office, and she still doesnt have my phone number after three years of taking care of her daughter. She is a typical Spanish woman, jealous, unattractive, and wanting to blame me instead of the man for her heartache.I have no job, altough college educated, because he offered me a lifestyle that was exceedingly attractive for a single woman, no kids, never been married. Now I am 38 years old and wanting to escape this continuing deception, but Im terrified about what my options are. I have never really worked in my life, but not because my family has money. But because my parents always made exceptions for me to play soccer and run track. I am intelligent, formally educated, and financially dependent on a conflic

Get out. If you are not happy (which it sounds like you aren't) find someone else.

wow. Can you move home for a bit, get job, get into that swing of things without the pressure of having a mortgage or rent to pay for housing.
This way you can get your feet wet sort of speak, get away and start building an life of independance for yourself.
Doesn't sound like you will have trouble finding work. Take what you can and build reference along the way to get to where you would like to go.
If you can manage, finacially, just move out A.S.A.P.
Don't look back and smile.