Good morning all...I am currently sitting at my desk at my new job..?

and the mature (over 40) lady who I share an office with is completely ignoring me!

She's acting like I am not there.

So far the only person talking to me is my line manager - hes okay.

Gosh I feel so out of place. Have you ever felt like this?

Im 27.

Its induction week for me - so no work! =)

Hi I'm Scotty. Nice to meet you.

oh !!yeah

Do some work or it will be an ex-job pretty soon

Why are you impressing them with your skills on Yahoo Answers? or is that your new job?

all the time

Its just a first day. You will be centre of attraction soon
all the best

have you introdcued yourself to her ?

Maybe she feels threatened, because you are new. I would suggest smiling at her and saying hi. After awhile, I think she will be friendly....

Learn to suspend assumptions.

They have to feel you out. Now get to work.

Screw her..you have us at YA on P&S..who does she have? Some picture of patrick swayze from the 80's..or maybe she has a picture of boy george drooling over him throughout the day..who knows? she sucks we dont..talk to us if you want to talk to someone.

Just focus on what you need to do...be as nice as you can to everyone. Even if you don't speak with people, smile. It goes a long way with breaking the ice. You never now what is going on in someone else's life.

maybe she's protecting herself from you..maybe she sense you'll be a threat to her today..be patient and friendly..just keep talking..maybe she'll understand that you were not an enemy to her

dont give out an aura of feeling out of place, she and other people pick up on it. Be pleasant but not too cocky, but dont be too shy either.
First days are always horrid, it will get better!!!
Good luck :))) xx

Miserable mare! Say hi to her and then be really chatty and get on her nerves! ;-)

Give it a day or two and you'll have sniffed out your pals!! It is always scary starting a new job (best not spend too much time to Y/A today!!), but keep your chin up. You were employed for a reason and I'm sure that is because you are brilliant!!! By the way, try chatting with mature lady; I bet she's nice!

the lady you share an office with probably is intimidated by the fact youre 27 & will most likely pass her career-wise. dont feel out of place.

It's always like that in a new job. She is probably knackered after a heavy weekend and now has to deal with a younger, prettier girl in the office. Ask her would she like anything when you are going out for your lunch. That can be a good ice breaker without coming on too strong. Relax. You'll be fine, and good luck with the new job.

Maybe she doesn't know what to say, why dont you try talking to her

it's your first day at a new job and your on YA?

I think (of course, I believe) she would be your best friend in the coming days. It's a psychology, those people appear to be rigid are really not.

Do you want to make her talk to you? Or at least to be ease with you?

Then, your body language (not you) should speak to her that 'I am not an unreliable person'.

If you don't want her to talk, then you act as she does.

I've been there, but you should get off Yahoo Answers, until you know the ropes.

Poor you its early days yet and you'll soon get to know people. Just don't spend too much time on here or they might not like it especially on the first day. Good luck with your new job hope your day goes well.

oh my god girl i'm having the same problem at my work!!! i just got a new job and there is this group of ugly b*itches who i'm nice to and come in every day and they completely ignore me. the manager was really nice to me though and moved me up quickly in my position...so the girl's started saying crap about me behind my back. It totally hurt my feelings and made me feel weird, but i've come to the point where i don't care anymore. i still do feel out of place around them but i deal with it. some people are just bitter, and the fact that you're young and new at work makes it all the worse. that's what happened to me, just don't take them to heart!

itll be ok its a new job just say hi and talk to her

It happens,but dont let it get to you.Maybe she,s a little jealous cos you is younger.Its only eight hours a day for work so just concentrate on your job,she,ll come around in the end and if she dont then dont worry about it.

Ha ha and already you are on Q & A, careful otherwise there goes your new job.!!!
:-)).........lol.!!!

Yeah I know how you feel...but don't drawn into this feeling xos you will feel worse...instead be practical do your job.....and after a while you can do a small favor for him...maybe he will realize after all that you wont

Yes, felt like that every time I was in a new work, a place and even in the companies of my colleagues. That's entirely normal because as a new arrival you still need to feel the culture around. That lady or any other employee, old and young, does not have to mind or welcome you. It's you who is expected to get along with them. It's the price you have to pay for being a new worker. Feel around, get to know the culture before you start feeling uncomfortable. Don't bother yourself thinking about what the old lady is thinking about you because, for all you know, she's too busy thinking what you're thinking about her.

I feel like that everytime i start a new job!!!

Just give yourself a couple of days to get to know people and you will have a fun few weeks!

x

yeah you'll get used to it eventually