Should I really be this annoyed/pissed?

Ok, so this is stupid, but its kinda pissing me off. This girl i work with thinks she's some manager or something (which she's not) because she has her own office when the rest of us females share a big office. Well, the reason she has her own is because nobody wants to be around her because she's so rude/talkative/obnoxious.

Well, today she asked where I was going to lunch because she's been all trying to hangout with me, and Ive been avoiding her like the plague. Well, I said "I pack my lunch, yeah I don't want to go broke going out to lunch every day," and you know what she responded with? "Well, yeah you do work in the office, so everyone knows you don't get paid much." I looked at her like WTF YOU B----.

I don't know how much she makes, but I know for a fact she was offered $3 less than me per hour to start. So there's no way in she makes more than me. I don't care how much she makes because I have more formal education, tact, and work ethic anyway.

Am I overreacting?

The only reason I say yes is because you already know that this woman is socially challenged so why get upset because she said something stupid? Getting mad at her dumb comments is like getting mad at the sun for rising! It sounds to me like she's a little lonely in her isolation and is making very clumsy attempts to make herself a part of the group. You have to decide for yourself how much of it you want to take, but maybe if people would throw her a crumb or two every once in a while, she would calm down a bit. Also, you or whoever is the most tactful might even try talking to her and asking her (in a non confrontational way) why she says some of the things she does and if she understands that people avoid her because of it. People do crazy things when they feel ostracized.

Maybe you are envious of this girl because she has her own office. Lighten up a little, I don't think she was trying to smart about it, you could have said, I know, everyone that works here has to pinch pennies. That way you and her would have been "equals". I think you are way overreacting.

I don't think you're overreacting! You have EVERY right to be as pissed off as you want to be right now! What a biyatch! I can't believe she would say something like that! You're a better person that I am because she would've been feeling a mean right hook if she'd said that to me!

Yea, you are. You shouldn't get so bent out of shape over someone like that. It just lowers you to their level. So just let her talk like she does, and be the better person and ignore her. She isn't hurting you in any way, and she is only demeaning herself, so don't stoop to her level.

Don't let her get to you, she obviously wants to hang out with you or she wouldn't have asked you. She has a complex just let it go. I know it is hard but people like that can be like a cancer if you let them so don't let them. What a beaver, let me hate her for you so you can still like your job :-). Good luck...remember, I am here hating her so you don't have to...hate, hate, hate!

She doesn't sound like she's worth your time or your stress. I know what it's like to work with people that you want to strangle. Keep ignoring her, and don't let her stress you out. Yo'ure better than her anyway.

This is exactly what I would say. Excuse me honey but I KNOW how much money you make and I can top you by $3.. I can afford to eat out but I am not so frivolous with my money that I am too lazy to fix my own lunch. Go back to your office that keeps a nosy person like you separated from the people that actually like each other. When you work with someone like this on a daily basis it cannot be overlooked. There is no way to just *let it go*

But that's just me. It may not be an educated, tactful response but dimwitted people such as her can only understand so much.

No she sounds like a big b****. Try to ignore her at all costs. I have one at my office too.

I think you have a right to be mad, but now that you've vented, let it go. Letting it get to you or responding will only bring you down to her level.

Mrs. Mad Maddy - LOL!! Love it!

Maybe she's just socially clumsy. She is probably sorry she said it, so you should overlook it. Keep hanging out with the co-workers you get along with, and ignore the loser.

Yes, a little, but I can see why it would be irritating. Why on earth would you give her the power to let her get to you like that?

I think my response would have been to look her straight in the eye and say, softly, "Well, actually, no, I lied. I said that because I didn't want to hurt your feelings, but the truth is, I just don't want to waste my lunch time listening to your rude, overbearing comments. And one more crack about my salary, and I'm reporting you to management - discussion of salaries is not allowed, and you know it."

With some people, you have to be a little more direct than others. :-)