What to say to co-worker?

My co-worker has not bathed since last week and came to work smelling of BO and beer. We share the same office, which isn't a large room. She is having a hard time right now because she got kicked out of her apartment and is living in her car. We don't get along and she yells at me alot and I don't like her. I thought about asking her if she wanted to stay at my place until she found a place, at least so she could bathe, but she is allergic to cats and I have 2. She is also deathly afraid of dogs and I have 2 big labs that are inside dogs. I don't know what to do.

She also steals food from my desk drawers when I leave the office. I find the empty bags in her trash can, yet she nevers says thank you or even asks if she can eat my snacks.

I would talk to your HR supervisor. They usually have a tactful way of approaching these issues. If you're not her boss then you really don't have a right to say anything directly to her. It was nice of you to offer to help her out though!

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It sounds like you need to talk to your boss about it.

Find a place for the animals and let her stay

ask her anyways be nice and as for the cats and dogs keep em away from her

Report her. She should still bathe and take care of herself. You should not have to put up with that.

Do not ask her to stay at your place. She may never leave.

If you can't bring yourself to speak with her directly about her odor, then tell HR. They get paid for stuff like that and can do it without mentioning your name. If you notice it, I'm sure lots of other people do to.

umm. i would not approach her directly there could be a serious backlash. I would talk to my supervisor about the situation and see what could be done.

That's a good question. I'd be honest with her, as women like honesty. I'd tell her that her hygiene is really, really bad, and you'd like to offer her your place so she could bathe. Also, tell her that her body odor makes it difficult for you to work.

Suggest that she contact a local church group or even the YWCA. At least she will be able to take a shower and change into clean clothes.

Tell her she smells and needs to bathe.

Ekkk, you want somebody to come live with you that doesn't know how to bathe, plus you don't like her, and she yells at you...come on. You must be really nice or dumb,..hey can I borrow 10 thousand dollars?

Talk to your boss it is his/her problem, not yours.

maybe this is a good time to be her friend or at least do something really nice like let her stay a night w/ you and use your bathtub i think she would be so appreciative of that . + you earn brownie pnts with the man upstairs

Refer her to a local homeless shelter for women, where she will be able to shower and do laundry. They will also have mental health services available.

Be patient with her. Obviously she is going through a hard time right now, and needs your sympathy. If you can, buy two snacks. Tell her she is welcome to one and if she needs a sympathetic ear, you'll listen. You just may surprise yourself and end up with a new friend who may help you out in your time of need! Take care.

This is your co-worker and not your employee. This is your manager's responsibility to deal with any and all issues that effect your work performance.

Speak with your manager. Explain your situation. This is their job not yours.

I'm glad she's not staying at your place. Her "living" problem should not be "your" living problem.
However, her BO problem IS your problem because it impedes your personal space at work.

You should go talk to your supervisor. Once you submit this issue to your supervisor, it is their obligation to speak to this person.

I would complain to managment and get her out of there. She got herself into whatever mess she is in and it is not your responsibility or ethical duty to help. Lock your desk drawers when you leave, or find something that locks you can put your snacks in.

Wow, that sucks. I know it is hard to talk to your co-worker. Sometimes it is best if the boss does it. Can you talk to your boss? Also, either don't keep food in draw or get lock for it.
If all else fails, talk to her.
I wouldn't let her stay with you because if she doesn't appreciate you at work, probably won't appreciate you taking her in.

No way in hell you should let her in your place! if she's stealing your snacks now- just think what she'll do when she gets in your house? I would help her look for places if your that compelled to help her...

She doesn't sound liek someone you should associate yourself with, keep it at work and that's it.. otherwise you're going to have nothing but headaches.. and it's not your fault she got kicked out of her apartment-don't feel so bad..

if the smell is bothering you- talk to the boss and ask to work from home for a few days??

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Let's see, she stinks, she steals and she's mean to you. WHY would you ever consider letting her stay with you? I'd be sorry she's having a hard time, but sounds llike she's not very responsible to begin with. Let someone else take the stray home. You need to go straight your supervisor. And take a can of air freshener to work.

make a complaint to your Manager or HR. I am sure there is something your your employee handbook about dress code. This is hard, but if you do not want to get those people involved, just tell her. Let her know that she needs to take care of herself and respect herself. ****She will be mad at you no matter what you say or do**** I had to tell a co-worker once that her feet smelled so bad, she had to leave work wash her feet and change her shoes. Needless to say she did not talk to me for a while after that, but the office thanked me for it.

Oh my, what a dilema. First, it's nice of you to want to be nice to someone who isn't to you. But maybe give her resources to other places instead of yours. She may not want to stay with you, but would like to stay at another place such as a shelter (maybe). Plus, it may take a while to find a place so if you get sick of her it maybe hard to kick her out. Don't know if this helped...

On the food issue, stop bringing food to work - or keep it in a locked area, or in your car (if heat won't ruin it, or use a cooler). As to her hygeine problems, it must be addressed: she reflects poorly upon your company's image. If you don't have a HR department, talk to her supervisor about the problem, and if nothing is done, I'd tell her that the problem is bothering me and affecting my ability to do my work in a timely and professional manner. Don't hesitate to be blunt as a last resort.

If you have her "taken care of" you could have your dogs eat her.

I'm angry about this and I've never even met her.

Or have I?...

Just push her down some stairs. Maybe she'll be hospitalized... they'll bathe her, right?

Or, I don't know, keep asking "what is that putrid smell?" and throw up on her desk.

Offer to take her to a homeless shelter where she can get a bath and meal. If this doesn't work, tell your boss about it and ask that he or she do something. You should not have to work with someone who is obviously drunk and dirty.

She may indeed be having a hard time, but it sounds as if she isn't doing anything to help herself either--and it's not your responsibility, no matter how sorry for her you may feel. She needs to pull herself up by her own bootstraps here, not depend on others to do it for her. You don't have to be unkind, but you should be firm, and you should not have to work with such a liability in the same room.

do you have/can you get a free trial membership (or guest membership) to a local gym for her, where she can shower?

do you think she's yelling at you b/c she doesn't like you, or b/c it's a defense mechanism and she's afraid you'll judge her? if the latter, maybe you can talk to her... even just telling her that you wanted to offer her a place to stay, but can't because of the cats and dogs issue, maybe that will make her realize that you're trying to help....

I don't know what to do about her stealing your food.... maybe put a note on top of the food (in your drawer or wherever you keep it)... I don't know what the note would say, though. "we need to talk" maybe? or "please ask before taking this - I'd like to help you out." etc. So, if she saw the note and didn't want to talk to you, she could pretend she never saw it.....

I don't know, that's a toughie. good luck!