Should I tell my boss to stop calling me hun & darlin'?

I have worked at my job for over 3 years and I share the same office as my boss. Occassionally he will call me hun or darlin'. Example: "Could you do this for me hun?" I don't like when he does this, but I know he doesn't mean it in that way. He did apologize one time for it. He said he always calls his daugther and wife that and he's just so used to it. I don't find it right being that we're professionals. I don't want things to be ODD if I point it out though.

Yes- ask him what do you think OTHERS would think if they heard this. You need to try harder to keep this a professional setting - for BOTH of us. I don't want anyone to get any funny ideas about us, thanks. (hun...) LOL

No- everything but the hun should be said to this man. Especially if he apologized but then never changed his actions!

If it bothers you then let him know.

Would you let your boss rape of flirt with you? Probably not. I would either ask for a different room, or for him to stop again.

if it bothers you tell him; but i really dont see whats the big deal is not like he is approaching you on an innapropiate manner...

I suggest that you bring it up to your boss- it sounds like he's probably a nice guy, and I'm sure if you explain to him that you feel it's innappropriate he will understand..

If it bothers you that bad you really need to open you mouth and speak just come across very professionaly.

iono..id tell him to stop and call me by my first name

You should let him know that it makes you uncomfortable and you would prefer that he keep it in the front of his mind to remember not to call you those things. When he slips, call him on it. It sounds as though he may just being doing it out of habit . . . don't feel out of line by reminding him that he's doing it.

If he continues, despite being told and reminded, then you should get more stern with him.

I think your really overly reacting to this! I see no harm in it and think its actually sweet personally.However,if it bothers you that much you can just bring it up and say,I would feel more comfortable if you addressed me by my name.Thats short and sweet and gets your point across in a nice way without putting him down.

It depends on your work setting and whether the term is endearing or sexual. After working with the man for three years, he probably *does* think of you like another daughter sometimes (especially if you're younger and you talk about your lives quite a bit). However, if you aren't at all friendly with your boss, then it might be in a sexual way. If that's the case, it should be stopped immediately. If it makes you uncomfortable, no matter what, then you should just remind him that you'd prefer to be addressed by your name or title or just "in a more professional manner".

He already has apoligized for it so he is aware that he does it...and by apoligizing he does know that there is a chance you may not like it...just speak up and tell him you don't want to affect your work relationship but tell him it bothers you...give him a chance to correct the problem...good luck!!!

Start calling him names like:

Sport, Ace, Buddy, Pal, Slugger, Spiffy, Champ, Chief, Big Guy, etc...

"You're welcome, I'll get that faxed out right away Ace"

"I'll see what I can do Sport"

After a while, maybe he'll see that you feel like he is being demeaning towards you.

Yeah that is kinda strange.Tell him.And if he does not stop accuse him for flirting with a guy and being gay.LOL

Men, they are helpless!

You need to teach him to change his way. Every time he says, "Hun" or "Darling", correct him politly...like you would you're puppy dog.

Example: < I'll use Ms. Smith since I don't know your name. Or if you perfer, you can correct him to use your first name. >

<B> Could you get me the accounting report darling?
<U> Ms. Smith.
<B> Oh, yeah, Ms. Smith.
{{then you get the report, and:}}
<B> Thanks hun.
<U> Ms. Smith.
<B> Why are you correcting me darling?
<U> I prefer my last name, thank you.
<B> Ok, hun...ah, I mean Ms. Smith.

Next day, repeat the whole events over.

Ok, it'll probably take 100-1000 times and you'll say your name more than ever, but, eventually, he'll get it. Others may laugh thinking this is cute, but you're training him for you and for the other workers <male and female>. He'll probably respect you more, since it appears he holds his family in a high place. For the first day, it may be ODD, but new things are always ODD.

Remember, to break a habit you need to have a replacement. Here you're only opening communication, and replacing his words...it's harmless brainwashing.

You're right, he shouldn't be addressing you like that. If he's an older guy, he's used to a time when women occupied a more subservient and submissive place in society. It's hard for those dudes to change. Men are far more sensitive to criticism than they will ever admit, so bringing it up directly might not pay off in the long run.

One strategy might be to use a more formal form of address when you talk to him. Still, since it's been three years, he's pretty much habituated to addressing you thusly. Good luck.

You should let him know...or you could just start calling him things like sweet-ums or pookie and maybe it would help him get the point.

Yes, you should probably remind him that you feel uncomfortable when he calls you those pet names. You might do it away from the situation, like going to talk to him away from others when he's not busy.