Dearest Sexy,
I have a proposition for you. I have been thinking about this for many many days now, so I am 100% sure this is something I'd personally like to do.
Remember when we had that misunderstanding about where you would stay after you move to Winston-Salem? I originally stated that only a short-term stay was workable. Well, I thought about it for awhile after that, and decided that it might actually be a good idea to share a household. Let me give you a run-down of the idea I had in mind.
I think you would be a good roommate, when you move to Winston. If you take this offer, you would be in for 1/3 of the expenses (since there would be 3 people here.) This comes out to about $350 a month which includes all current utilities. I would simply ask for that as a flat rate each month. You would have your own room, and Nessa and I would share a room (the bigger of the two, currently my office).
Even though we are involved with each other in an intimate way, I still think looking at this like a practical roommate arrangement is best.
Here are some reasons why I think this will be beneficial. From a compatibility standpoint we are both quiet people, have similar sleep patterns, value clean and tidy housekeeping, are frugal, don't watch TV much, and have mutual respect. This arrangement stands to help us both financially; I could pay off debt and afford online college. I'm sure you could do something special with the extra cash, whether it be saving up, investing, helping your mom, going back to school, or anything your heart desires.
Domestic tasks would also be simpler if we break it into roles we both enjoy. I could make dinner most nights, and you could take care of most of the yard work. Food expenses could be casually shared & we could benefit from buying in bulk. Cleaning house is something we already do in our current homes; I feel assured you are the type to clean up after yourself even with a woman in the house.
It's important to note that due to work, travel, and school, we would still not have a lot of time to see each other even if we lived together. I would be busy once I got home, and we might be seeing each other only at dinner.
You would have time to yourself probably every week since you get mostly weekdays off. I would still visit my family every other weekend. But, we could go on dates/"sleepovers" just as usual when Nessa is away (Wednesdays and every other weekend). Except, there would be no 2 1/2 hour drive to worry about.
The things that might pose problems are as follows. We could not probably have 3 cats here. Also, there may not be enough room for all your furnishings. These are two things we will have to work on if you take this offer.
You will also have to decide if you are prepared to live in a home with a 7-year old. Some days are fun, but some days are annoying. You would not be expected to take on a parental role. However, because Nessa admires you she will probably seek your attention sometimes. She is talkative and asks lots of questions, and wants to be included in things. Every so often she might pitch a fit over something that seems irrational and it is a very unpleasurable thing to witness. You are a good role model, and this is also a benefit to me & Nessa. But, you have to consider whether this is a benefit to you. Think about whether being a male role model is a rewarding experience to your heart, or if it doesn't really do anything for you. Remember it is normal to get disgusted by children, especially when they are not your own. Just recognize whether you are willing/able to cope with such feelings from time to time.
Anyways, I plan to get rid of some more junk if you decide to make this move. That way we won't be so crowded. I do think there is plenty of room for the three of us, as long as we stay reasonably organized and avoid excess. Neatness will be important.
If you'd like to do this, let me know. You do not have to give an immediate answer; just think about it. Please read at least twice before making a decision.
I hope you have a deliciously wonderful day!
Yours always,
Pumpkin Tell her you really like her idea because it is important to be thoughtful and sensitive about this move, not only for yourselves but mostly for Nessa. Then ask her what she would think about you initially getting your own apartment nearby for a while before moving in as a full time roommate. Tell her you think it might help having a transition.
That would give you the time and freedom to get the h*ll out of there if things aren't as you hoped. She sounds cool,,but,,she should except your cats or dont do it. Affirmative. First I would not have posted her email on the Internet for everyone who wished to view it. That is just a bit insensitive. And to the question at hand. I would do as she suggested, I would read it and re-read it and then make a informed decision. She has given you all of the tools necessary to make an informed decision. Now it is up to you, do you want to be room mates with her and another female and a child. Do you want to sell or store your furnishings? You have to go over the pros and cons of this living arrangement and then make a decision. Good luck and God bless**** Sounds like a business proposition to me. Can you keep your relationship with her a platonic one on all but Wednesday's and every other weekend? Also are you ready to give up your cat? Sorry, but I wouldn't. Dearest Sexy, This email sounds more like a contract from a really control freaky woman than anything romantic. jeez are you sure she is your girlfriend if she calls you just a room mate that is something that my girlfriend would never write like that. but go for it and try to stay out of the house the whole role model thing gets tiring after a week this letter is very well written ..........
when i read it ? i had this awful feeling of reading a castrating woman's orders , in the whole and along the letter .........
sounds to me like business proposition more than a loving sort of arrangement ........to meet the needs of two people that love on another ..........not for me .........
i personally would not accept any sort of dictating and pre-arrangements for living quarters , i think perhaps , she may make a good roomate ? but i certainly would not move in with her
your whole life is already planned and arranged right in her words ,contained in this letter .......not much choice there for advancement or negociations ?!
are you willing to leave your pets ?
your choice ............:-) firstly, is she willing to let you negotiate your terms and conditions of living together?
secondly, have you asked why her daughter cannot sleep in the other room whilst you two share the larger room, as partners, not room mates?
although it sounds like an organised and well thought out decision, i wonder if she is thinking of it as more of a money saving idea rather than the fact that she gets to be with you for longer. And 3 days a week is not enough for you to share intimate time together, she should be making time for you every day.
the amount of time that you two have been a couple also plays a role in this..if it has been less than a year, then it is slightly fair of her to ask you to sleep in a different room while her daughter adjusts to the situation, and then you could re-negotiate at a later date. however, if you are fairly close to her daughter and have been together for some while (maybe 2 years or more) then i strongly suggest you sit down face to face and have a long talk about what you both want from this.
because it sounds more like friendship than an imitate relationship.
hope this helps! Good god, is she a lawyer?! Zzz you and your child have a nice life. I would rather pay 1200 a month just so I don't have to get your agonizing e-mails anymore! run, away. now. don't look back. she's no pumpkin. |
