Should I approach and chat up the guy I like from my office tower?

He works in the same office tower, on different floors but we don't share the same elevator. I've seen him & it seems as though he was looking back at me but I'm not too sure.(This happened a couple of times, maybe I'm hallucinating..why would he look at me?)

We've never spoke to each other before, not even a hi! Though I sincerely think he's really cute; I do hate rejection & if he says no, I'll be so embarassed to go to work!!!

I've been told many times that I'm attractive & I dress immaculately but I'm insecure about my weight (I'm a size UK14) & when it comes to approaching guys, I'm a total failure.

What should I do?!

Maybe I should clear things up, sorry for being unclear... he doesn't work in the same office as me..two different companies, just the same building. I usually see him taking his smoking break or during lunchtime.

I am a confident girl, in fact people think my personality is strong & I've been told by the men I've dated that I intimidated them... But when it comes to a guy I fancy, I find it really hard to approach him. I get all shy, sometimes even aloof...

Oh this is such a Bridget Jones moment...I need vodka...pronto!

Let me tell you, the #1 thing that I find attractive in girls: Confidence!

The old stereotype of "guys have to ask the girl out" is long gone. Guys like it when girls take the initiative! Know why? Because it's hard!!! Guys are just as nervous (if not more so) to talk to you. So when you stroll up to him, look him in the eyes and say "Hello"..... instant points!

So here's my advice, try to strike up a casual conversation. Move slowly from there, talking to him once a week, once every few days. Even if it's just a "How are you doing?" type conversation. Try not to come on too strong. If you walk up to him for the first time and ask him out on a date, chances are he'll say no. But if you talk to him for a month or so, you'll generally get an idea of whether or not he's interested in you. And if he's not, you can move on, without a major rejection and embarrassment.

If you feel insecure, don't worry! You're not perfect, and neither is he! Everyone has a fault or two that they would be happier forgetting. The most important thing is to be happy with who YOU are. Whether he likes you or not, you can't magically change yourself to be perfect for him. Nor would you want to! You want a guy who will like you for YOU. Not the you if you dyed your hair, or the you if you acted more sophisticated. If you have to change yourself too much for a person, it's not worth it.

So I say give it a shot! Say "hi" next time you see him in the hall. On your way out of the office say "See you tomorrow!". You'll never know what develops. All you can do is give it your best. There's nothing worse than the feeling of "woulda, coulda, shoulda."

yeah

Why don't you invent an opportunity to go talk to the guy. Asking him out can come later, if you get the right signals. Who knows, maybe he'll just go ahead and ask you out.

yes you should because you cant succeed if you dont try.

Go for it!!! Most guys are flattered when a chick hits on them... even if he's not into you there is no reason to be embarrassed to go to work... you might even become friends...

I would say a harmless chatting it up feeler would hurt nothing at all, while giving you a more educated basis on which to plan any future emotional attachments with said 'really cute' guy. =D

So, go for it! Be yourself, which I'm sure is charming and nice. Let him decide if he likes what he sees, before you make that choice for him.

definetely you should!! you only live once. and your size should have nothing to do with it. (your size does not indicate that you are overweight anyway!) You sound like you have a great personality! I dont see why he should reject you!
Have a great day.

if i where you --i ask some women friends ,he may work with him ,to find out more about him ,and then approuch him .Well if anything ,you guys at least can be friends ,and was able to talk ,its not very hard..But some people are shy , i know ,i know .Been there .But again ,if i was you i like to find out ,no matter what .Its not imbaracement ,really .Either way ,if you don't ,you will never know .So ,keep trying ...Good luck!!!!!

you should at least try to talk to him and feel out the vibes. You will know if he is interested or not and take it from there.

I guessed your where from the UK when you said "chat up", but than you used elevetor instead of lift. Just making an observation. I loved your question, now you get to know what it's like for us guys. Don't let the fear of rejection ever keep you from talking to anyone. Just go up to him right now and say "I've seen you around and justed want to stop and say hello and introduce myself. Do it! You may be pleasently suprised. I hope this helps, Bob

What should you do? Stop judging yourself and have some confident. Don't be embarrassed to approach and never know what he was thinking. He probably looked at you to flirt a little.. maybe... or to see if you like him... maybe. YOU have no idea. So what are you waiting for?

Go up to him and talk. Ask him out for some coffee or lunch.
You shouldn't hate rejection. EVERYONE gets rejected now and then. I'm sure we all hate it time and again. But why waste life NEVER knowing what the other person is thinking unless you take a step forward?

So take the risk. It's worth knowing. I've been through it before with a lot of women. I'm sure a lot of women have with me. So lady.... get yourself in line and go for it.

But always.. and I mean always be prepared for the consequences.

Start with little things, like saying 'hi.' or 'how's it going?' It sounds like you need to work on your self confidence. I know how it is, but sometimes I have to swallow my insecurities and act more confident than I really feel. Before too long, you don't have to fake it much. Guys like confidence, just like us women do.

well theres nothing wrong with approaching and chatting up a guy. you could start with something unsuspicious like ask him what the time is or something like that (when youre not wearing your watch of course). then if you just said hi and smiled when you ran into him, it would just be like acknowledging a fellow worker. you can decide if you wanna chat him up then depending on his reaction. theres no need to fear rejection as long as you make harmless conversation. if you notice his reaction carefully, and he doesnt seem interested, then you can just not ask him out. only you would know, and no embarassments.

Chat him up See how he reacts while chatting up than if you get a good vibe ask him for coffee or tea whatever the Brits do. Good luck!!!!