My boyfriend of 4 months is 43, homeless, broke, but works. Acceptable?

He really is a nice guy. I'm a softy, and wondering if I'm making excuses for him.

He's been married twice.Although a professional with a good job (has a Master's) he is very broke. He has kids 17 and 18, so I understand child support, though she's remarried. Later 2 stepkids.Do stepdads pay child support? I know they are on his insurance.

When we met he shared a sm.house.He had to move out, and is without a place, and not looking.He is staying in his office,or 'crashes' at someone's house.

It wasn't obvious, but now is that often he doesn't have money when we go places. We discussed it, and he mentions his bills, but it doesn't really add up. He showed me some investments thru work, and puts EXTRA toward them for retirement!

Though much more to do in his city,we live an hr apart, he comes here and we stay at my house, he washes clothes, etc. I end up paying a lot but am strained myself.

Am I being to harsh in thinking someone our age should have their life together mor

He's lazy. I am all for saving for retirement but prioritize!! If you don't have a place to put your feet up but you have a boatload invested there is something wrong. And no a stepfather does not have to pay child support unless he adopted the children. Don't pay for everything and for gosh sakes don't move him in. If you do he will be a moocher and you will be his sugar mama. I would start ending it now if I were you.

I work in a homeless shelter.There are many reason/circumstances for their living situation..BUT..BUT..Yes you are making excuses..Period..

If it's acceptable to you that is all that matters,what others think is not important,but take time to think it through to make sure this is what you really want.

Why don't you move him in with you?

you are making excuses for him, sounds like he has alot of work to do if he is going to get himself together, the fact that he isnt looking for a place shows that he has gotten very comfortable having other people take care of things for him because he isnt doing anything to get himself out of his situation.....

Paying child support on step kids depends on the divorce, maybe he adopted them, in which case he would pay. He shouldn't still be paying on the 18 y/o. I am sorry to say this, but being broke and having a good job, and no real explanation of the bills, leads me to think that you should be suspicious of a drug problem. Sorry, I know you are probably saying that is not him, but just be careful.

IF HE IS AT LEAST WORKING YOU CAN ONLY TRY TO SECEED AND DO YOUR BEST TO SUPPORT HIM.


P.S.:SUPRISE HIM SOMETIMES WITH A EAT OUT DINNER OR A FANCY COAT!