Can a man be unemotional yet tell his lifestory, days routine and call the girl 6 times a day?

can a man be feelingless about this particular girl yet behave in a contradictory fashion? tell her about his life, involve her in his daily routine of office, speak to her 6 times a day, laugh, share jokes and still say he's unemotional about her?

Sometimes that is the healthiest way to be. Why? You're literally building up a trust in this friendship with this girl. When you get to know someone inside and out without the complication of emotions, that is when you really have an opportunity to appreciate them as a person. You are saying that you need someone 'there' for you by sharing your lifestory. You are considerate of her time and life by sharing your days routine so that she feels a part of your day. And your phone calls are also making her feel that you want to share little things throughout the day......with her. Unemotional? I doubt it. Because afterall.....we all have a great caring for our friends. Is it love? Probably not.......but its an appreciation for another person that understands certain levels of friendship such as your own.

I guess my first question is......has it become a problem for either one of you? Has you said to you that she wants more? She's really has a wonderful thing going. And "words" don't define the relationship......the actions do.

Or are you worried about this yourself? I'm thinking if it is her it is one thing, but if you are questioning this, perhaps you DO have feelings that you are trying to mask. Don't worry about feelings right now. Just enjoy the friendship you are building with her and let things progress as they do. I imagine you and she are doing this the right way........sharing. :)

Good luck!

Yes. He could be in the process of purging himself of some past experience and this is his way of doing it. For now, it seems he is willing to share his time and company but that doesn't mean that he is sharing his emotions or has emotions for the person that he is sharing them with. We all have different limitations. It could be that for now, that is all he is ready to share.

yes. If he's not understanding of her problems or sympathic to her needs.