Guys in your 20s & 30s.....help me to figure this out!?

I have this crush at work....he used to flirt alot, but now we talk about cool work-related stuff "as friends", and some jokes, and happy hour stuff....we send emails and some fun quick calls...stuff like that. He is 27, and new to the area about 4 months ago. Whenever I am near where he sits, I can see that he stares at me, even when he's with his work team, but when I come by to talk, he is friendly, but not flirty. (maybe he is trying to be more professional near his buddies?). We've had "happy hour" together, and had a great time, but when i ask if he wants to go have a drink, he says "i can't because____but says definitely another time. He DOES find some time to come by and talk to me, and isn't into other girls in the office. He tells me lots of personal family stuff, and we share work confidences, but I'm 13 years older than he is. I know he likes to check out my boobs, but I'm a thick girl, and he's got an athletic body, so I don't think he's into my chubbiness. Whats up???

If he only likes me as a friend...why does he constantly stare at me? Also when we are near each other, we stand very close, and are in "each other's space", so he doesn't keep any physical barriers with me. He is of Latin descent, if that has any cultural bearings, based upon his level of passion. Otherwise he seems a bit insecure and shy, being new in the office, but brave and bold with the guys.

Maybe you are nice scenery?
Good to look at, great background for pictures, but not how I would furnish my house?
Nice place to visit but I wouldn't want to live there?
Better stuffed and standing in the corner as a conversation piece than to actually be the conversation?
Pretty eyes but nobody behind them?

I have no idea if that is the answer but when I acted that way then that was the reason. Just offering a truthful possibility.

your too old sorry , but i would go out with you :)

he could just be hiding his true feelings

Well it is work after all, let him get comfortable with you, and keep dropping hints that it is ok to hang out after hours.

sorry but maybe he is staring at you boobs...

He's a cougar hunter.

Your 40 years old and don't know if a guy likes you?

Its a sign of respect when some one looks you in your eyes when they speak to you. Not too many people do it but I do it all the time and its mistaken for staring all the time. Its not staring its just acknowledging that his given you his full un-divided attention when he looks you right in the eyes.

maybe he's interested, but not pursuing it because of the age difference - espec you being the older woman - he might not want to get involved with someone he works with - could be very awkward later if you broke up - potential for sexual harassment charges = he's new and doesn't want to do anything to get into trouble and lose his job - many possible reasons

Geez... Why dont you just ask him already? All this guessing is a nice intelectual exercise, but in the end we are all just guessing.

So I suggest being bold, going after what you want and flat out ask him out on a date. Guys like being asked out.

Wayne Gretski (hockey player) said "You miss 100% of the shots you dont take"

So take the shot & hopefully score (figuratively & literally)

dont want to upset you but mayb your reading in to this to much, he might even be gay, if he flirted with you and is now friendly, then he woulld keep flirting with you if he wasnt, and he proberly stares at you because your good looking, and if he is gay, hes proberly admiring your ...charisma as a person. and mayb he lost his mother, or needs a fenimitae tocuh in his life, and if your 13 years old, maybe he feels more safe around you, and more relaxed and less stress about work, doesnt mean he fancys you, but you never now, they say, that theres nothing queer as folk. how ever, i wouldnt force yourself on him. you dont want to ruin a-could-be relation ship. all i can say is. good luck babes

Somehow I don't think that he is as interested in you as you would like.

Just because a guy stares at your boobs doesn't mean he likes you and maybe he doesn't realize that he is standing so close to you. See, when a person likes someone and the other feels nothing the person that has the crush tends to take things out of proportion and turn an innocent gesture (etc.) into something bigger.

Age doesn't really matter and neither should weight. Plenty of people would love to be with you, I am sure. However, I do not believe that this is the guy for you. Stop reading into things and just play it cool.

Things will work out eventually.

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I am sure he is trying to keep it "professional", after all it is a new job for him and good jobs are scarce these days.

I do the same thing at work, including staring at some hot, older butts running around here, 40+ ladies, although I am 35 and I married, but I'm not dead. :)

I have crossed that business/personal relationship line at previous jobs (hence, previous jobs...) He may think you are attractive, because you do sound hot to me, but he might like to keep his job, yet flirt, be your friend, but not "cross that line."

I am sure you are hot, and I would stare at your body, but if we worked together (and I being married with child) I would have to behave.

That's all...