Office Politics (real sticky)?

i landed myself in some really sticky situations.

i've juz started my job for barely 3 mths. initially, i hung out w a bunch of people whom looked like fun. there's some deal conflict within the grp. i was accused of snatching another's account when in fact i was the one bringing it in. it didn't help when the director has prejudice(she hates women) against me & my colleague is directly under her.

i'm rumored to be an eye-candy at work has evoked some jealousy in a girl of the same bunch. she's somewhat close to me yet seems to be throwing cutting remarks in some crude kidding manner.

to make things worst, i'd some flirtations(nothing physical) going w two attached guys before. one of em lied he's single. both didn't end on a very good note, i estranged them 'cause i think they're players.

i feel so disturbed that i drifted from most them. the back-stabbing wont stop. being close before, they potentially make used of the shared info against me.

how'd i deal wit it?

LESSON LEARNED: Keep work at work, home at home, and do NOT to bring "personal" in to the picture - it CAN, and WILL be used against you, and you could loose your job over some stupid rumor. The MOST I share with co-workers is: my name, birthday, town I live in, car and motorcycle I drive, the fact I have kids and pets, I love my husband, and I don't care to be "friends" with co-workers.

You really can't do anything now - the cat is out of the bag and on the loose - try to IGNORE it and/or LAUGH at it - I have found laughing out loud at rumors works best. Also, try wearing very conservative clothes for awhile - gives the other females less ammo to hit you with.

Work is the thing that provides for your life, it was never meant to be your life.

When you go to work, focus on work and try to stay out of the nastiness that you've sort of brought on yourself.

Your boss is unprofessional and has issues of her own. Keep a diary of events that happen concerning your boss. Whether she praises you or scolds you, write a paragraph about it with the date and time and circumstances of it. Also note who was around to hear it; it will help you get promoted, or it just might save your job. Keep a skirt on it as you don't want someone going through your files and deleting your stuff. I always do this via email. I email my home account from my office account, that way I always have it.

Your backstabbing co-workers is another story. Office romances almost never lead to marriage, and they always cause some sort of drama that isn't needed in the workplace. DON'T DATE CO-WORKERS, that's why so many companies have policies against it. You always have to think ahead; How is thing going to be if it doesn't lead to marriage? It will likely end, possibly badly with one of us having to quit. So why create the trouble for yourself if you don't need to?

As for your friend and her nasty remarks? Confront her in the same playful manner. Hey, Jennifer, sounds like you're having a bad day. I'll remember to bring a can of B*tch-off tomorrow in case you're still in a bad mood.

Take the attitude that love is love, but business is business. You're not at work to fill your social needs, you're at work to fill your financial needs. Be about your business, be polite to your co-workers and let the rest of it go.

Stop having any kind of male-female relations at work. It always leads to trouble. Any of you thinking of dating a co-worker? Stop...this is what it leads to.

Act professional, mind your own business, focus on doing a great job at what your boss wants done. Make your boss look good.