What is my husband thinking?

Ok, this is what is bugging me. At my husbands work there are a couple of his staff who are apparently getting cosy with each other. They are all young and single and one is a guy and there are two girls who are all supposed to be "sharing it around" as it were. It is really worrying me what the office gossip is and whether my husband is participating in it. I dread to think that he likes the idea of a threesome and that this might make him think he is missing out. For all I know he may have been saying to his colleagues how lucky this guy is. My husband is good and very loving and I know he loves me but what if he feels like this? I always wanted to think he only had eyes for me.

OK, Ms. Thought Police, your husband's fanasies are not your jurisdiction. If he entertains fantasies of a threesome, it is well and truly none of your concern. We should all have the freedom to think whatever we wish to think, and desires and preferences are things over which humans have no control. What we do control is our behavior. So, if he opens up his mouth and asks you to get into a threesome with him, THEN it becomes your business, and you open up your own mouth and tell him, "No, thank you." Case closed.

Well at least he's telling u about it! Ask him if this is something he's interested in?

Is he reminiscing his youth, his single life? [Yes, every day of his life]. Is he jealous of what's going in the office? [Probably a little, once in a while]. Does he fantasize about a three-some [very likely, what guy doesn't?]

As long as he's observing from afar and keeps his hands off, what do you care? Do you think you can control his imagination?

You should talk to him about it and get his thoughts about it. A good majority of men fantasize about a threesome with their wife and another woman... if he expresses he is curious about it, then tell him your thoughts about it.

Stop tormenting yourself. So what if he does feel like this? You are not going for a threesome anyway. If he feels like he is missing out that is just his tough luck, obviously you are not going to be open to that. You are making trouble out of nothing. Do you have a job? Maybe you have too much time on your hands.

sounds like you need to go talk to your husband, let him now how you feel etc.

And he does "only have eyes for you" or he wouldn't still be with you!!!
Just come straight out and ask him what he honestly thinks about all of that.
For all you know, he may be thinking less of them for being so easy and slutty.
You never know until you ask ;)

Why not ask him what he thinks about what is going on in the office? And if he has these fantasies....There has to be some element of trust in your relationship and if your husband hasn't ever mentioned them.....then perhaps it isn't a fantasy of his...but maybe it could be....

Confront him. While having dinner one night, just ask him about the situation. You said he loves you and is a good guy. If you tell him what you're thinking about, it just might make him open his eyes and not get involved in that situation. If your husband loves you and doesn't want to see you get hurt, then he will make the right decision.

lol...lol...lol...lol... HONEY....he has eyes for everthing that walks ...wake up!!!

What happened to your self confidence...what makes you think he has eyes for someone other than you...it could all be in your imagination...men are stimulated by visual stuff and fantasize but it does not mean they act on it...you should know him better than everyone and yu cannot control his imagination nor his actions...but I wouldn't get weird on him over your imagination running away with you.

"I always wanted to think he only had eyes for me." I bet he does and you know there is alot of goodlooking things to see out there. Some will resist some will not, but if he is a good man like you say sure he wont. He may be drud into the talk so to speak, and he may even kid around in talk with the others just because its flying around the office. I hear alot to, but its just that i hear it.Maybe if your worried freak him out and really have fun with him--something not normal ect...

one you have to trust him or your marriage will suffer.
two you cannot expect ANY guy married or single to NEVER look at another woman. We want to think we are the most and only beautiful thing in this world to our spouse. truth is there are many beautiful people and not just US.Sounds like you need to sit down and talk with your husband about the way you feel. Your marriage will also suffer if there is no open and honest communication.

If he's telling you then I doubt he's too involved in any of this.

You have to remember men and women are different. Don't get all bent out of shape over this. It will cause doubts in your mind and you will start taking them out on your husband and cause huge issues over nothing.

Please, don't be so naive. You and your husband both still notice other people. It is natural. The main thing is that he comes home to you every night, and loves you all the same. Now, have you ever asked your husband his thoughts on a threesome. I would say chances are that he has at least thought about it. Most guys do fantasize about it. I know I do. It doesn't sound like you are the type to enter into such things, so at the very least you need to ask so that you can gather his feelings on the subject and you can also let him know where you stand. Don't make him suffer for the things that other people say and do.