I have extra merital affair Please help me ?

I have 6 yr old girl. Six months back my husband involve in girl who is working with him. I asked my husband abt his relation with the girl he says i dont have any feelings 4 her but i notice his behaviour with her. its like they are looking 4 each other. I marked all this things when we went for his office picnic. then i told his friend to help me in this matter. But for my surprise he told everything to my husband & that girl. because of his misbehave we started fighting every day on this issue. i told him to leave this job but he dint. i used to share everything with one of my friend. He is youger then me. I started liking him. we used to share evrything. he also started liking me. one day he proposed me & i said yes. Now that girl got engaged with the same guy who told evrything to my hubby. now my hubby is also very distrub about what that girl did. He is not listening my at all. i love my husband & that boy also. i dont want 2 leave any one of them.

This seems to be a great Marathon love story everyone loving each other just changing partners. Why don't you all get together & start living together sharing each other amongs yourself then no one will have to leave anyone neither your husband leave that girl nor you leave this boy & the friend who married this girl will remain her husband & you husband & wife will also be together as you love him & dont want to leave him. I THINK THIS IS THE BEST SOLUTION FOR YOU !!!!

That sucks.

Whats the question? I dont really understand it at all. Sorry. Be more clearer.

It sounds like you already have your mind made up. I would leave both of them and take out for yourself.

don't ....become the tramp tht your dog husband deserves.

by all means, keep the husband. And romance the boy, in secret of course!

you are in a mess... and i say if you should choose then it shoud be your husband.. you were so vulnerable because of what he did to you so you started liking the other guy who also took advantage of your weakness at that time. i think you should let go of that affair and have a heart to heart tallk with your husband to try and make things work out for both of you and for your daughter and i hope things turn out fine

Your first duty is to your daughter. Nothing is more important than her happiness. Remember that and the answers will slowly fall into place. If both you and your husband are having extra-marital affairs then neither of you can take the moral high ground in any ensueing argument. If your husband's affair is over, you'd better think about yours more carefully.

you can't do that, you have to choose one between the two. be reminded that a relationship is a sacrifice constant sacrifice that one has to learn to live and accept as long as he or she lives.

its not ur fault that u r cheating on him.Ur husband is 2 blame coz of his lies.The ball is in ur court my dear and as a gal i would advice u 2 play ur cards cool.Follow thy heart

you should stay with your husband.you made a commitment to each other. for better or worse.the boy need to grow up. stay with your family.talk things out.tell him what you did you will feel better.if he love you. he might forgive you.do it for your family.make it strong.not weaker

if you don't feel like your husband is being faithful then get a divorce. running to the arms of another man is not the answer. I was in a similar situation. I ran into the arms of another and ended up in a worse situation. Just take time for yourself. don't rush anything

Always dangerous to have a friend you confide in who's of the opposite sex. The first sign of trouble with your spouce and that's where you run. Now look what u've done. I cant tell what to do - all I can say is there is no way you can keep at it for long without your husband knowing or suspecting. So choose now

That's a tough call, Good Luck

u can't keep them both, u have to decide who u want to be with. if your hubby is remorseful and is willing to go to therapy and work on the marriage than stay with him, if not than divoorce him. but two wrongs never make a right, and its just too stressful trying to keep up two relationships. pick one of them and move on away from the other.