Is getting married a second time a waste of time?

When my husband and i got married i was pregnant, so we got married at the county clerk's office, but my dream was to always have this big beautiful wedding with all of my family to share in my special day. I still plan on having my wedding, not anytime soon maybe in a couple of years, like a renew our vows type of thing, but the only problem i have is that i feel it wont be as special as if we were not married already...what do you think???

We got married again with a big Cinderella wedding to celebrate our 10th anniversary. It was an incredible way to celebrate such an important milestone.

Congratulations!

I think it's a great idea and it will be just as special!

Well I think it really depends on the individual people.

It will definitely be a vow renewal, not a wedding, so you won't do the traditional vows probably.

My husband and I renewed our vows this year for our 10th anniversary. We wrote our own vows, and they were really special to us since we had some history together and had gone through some good and bad times!

If you feel like you would feel strange doing that this early, you might consider waiting a little longer.

Ultimately, it is completely up to you; there is no right or wrong amount of time!

If its something that weighs heavily on your mind then I think its a good idea to wait for your 10th anniversary and throw the vow renewal as you would have done your wedding. However, if its not really a sore spot, its just something you would have liked to have done but can live without, I dont think you should waste the money because like you said, you cant recreate the wedding day, even if you wear the dress and have all the trimmings, there is no getting the feeling back of the euphoria you felt when the minister pronounced you married, so basically you would just be throwing a big party just to throw it, know what I mean?

I think it's a great idea... but when renewing vows, I don't think people usually go all out and have a big wedding with all the trimmings. You can still wear the beautiful white dress, and have family/friends, but you should still keep it simple. It will still be special though!!

Me and my husband really wanted a destination wedding, but it wasn't in the cards... so we decided that on a milestone anniversary (5, 10 or 20yrs), we'll try and renew our vows somewhere tropical.

I also got married at the county clerk's office (3 years ago- this coming Sunday)! We still plan to do a big wedding/ vow renewal too. I think it's a great idea. Why give up your dream wedding just beacuse you didn't have the oportunity the first time around? In my opinion- go for it, i'm sure it will be wonderful! Best wishes.

It won't be a wedding (you're already married) but a vow renewal. Wait for your 10 year anniversary so it would justify a big and beautiful affair. Even 5 years down the road would be acceptable, but a few months or years after the fact would be in poor taste.

Good luck

It will be as special as you feel it is. Don't think of it as getting married - it isn't; think of it as a vow renewal - and as such, it can be very special.

It will be whatever you guys choose to make it. No it wont be the same as if you were doing it for the first time.....but it will be better because you will have all the things you wished for but couldnt have last time.
Just relax and enjoy!

Well, you ARE already married, so you are not marrying the same guy again - there is no "do-over" wedding!
A vow renewal is just simply a ceremony at a church or another location, and the rest is just like having an anniversary party - having a dinner and party for your family and friends.
So you just wear a pretty dress - not a wedding dress - and he wears a nice suit, and you just have a lovely anniversary celebration - most often it's done at the 25th, sometimes at the 10th.
You need to revise your 'ideas' somewhat here, but be grateful that your marriage is working! Your wedding was suitable to what the circumstances were at the time, and you should not regret that. You do, however, have to get rid of that 'dream' of the perfect big wedding - it's gone. You made your choice.

I know how you feel. My husband and I got married at the court house when I was 18 and he was 19. Now we have three beautiful daughters and have been married almost 20 years. We will be renewing our vows with a traditional wedding with all the trimmings. It will be on a smaller scale with family and close friends. We are, of course, paying for everything ourselves and are asking guest not to bring gifts. In fact, we are paying for their hotel room for the weekend and some activities also. The ceremony will be at Biltmore Estate in NC. It should be great fun. Don't worry about it not being as special. In fact, I think renewing vows after a certain amount of years together is more special than a first wedding. My cousin got married three months ago, my two youngest daughters were flower girls and my oldest was a bridesmaid. Well, a month after this huge shin dig the man she married left her. Renewing your vows is very special. Go for it!
Edit: Please don't listen to that person above me. I have seen her answers to other people who want to renew their vows and they are always negative. I honestly think she must be jealous or something. I hate to tell her I am going to be wearing a wedding dress and my husband is going to be wearing a tux. We can do anything we damn well please after 20 years of marriage and three beautiful daughters and you should to.

Please by all means, do so. If that will make you happy, don't let anyone or anything stop you. Actually, I'm doing the same thing... I got married in a court house 2 years ago and as Catholics, my husband and I are doing our church wedding in February.

Peole may all call it differently (second wedding, renewal of vows, etc.) but whatever our reason for doing so, as long it makes us happy and no one gets hurt, I don't see the reason why not. After all, marriage is a celebration of love and if a couple wants to get married every single year, gotta give it up to them...

Couples renew their vows after 10, 15, 25 years together. Why should this be any different. Go ahead and plan your big day. Since it isn't a legal matter, have your kids be your attendants.