Just friends or more??

i recently started talking to a guy. He is several years older than myself. I am 19, he is 35. He has 2 children that are pre-teen. I enjoy his company and he tells me he like me alot. I have had my fair share of relationships but i think this one might go somewhere, could the age mess that up? Am i crazy for believing i could have a decent relationship with him?? The bad thing is he is currently going through a divorce, i am sure of this because i seen the papers and i have even talked with his ex wife because she works with my mom in the same office. He tells me he wants "us" to go somewhere but right now his mind and his heart arent in the right place to be trying to have a serious relationship but when his divorce is final, he wants to be with me but yet he also says he is moving from Texas back to Kentucky. He says he wants to get right with himself and with the Lord before he moves any further. Should i wait until the divorce is final and see what happens or just stay friends?

Well, you don't actually have a choice, do you? He has told you that he is not ready for a relationship and he has also indicated that he will be moving away in the future.

Be friends, yes, but nothing more. He has a lot of baggage as well as being a good deal older than you and to be honest, I think he sounds too confused himself at the moment to be capable of managing much more than friendship.

Go out with other people - do not sit at home waiting for him - and in time, this situation should resolve itself.

just stay friends...that is a big age difference and he has a lot on his plate right now....let him get the divorce behind him and get his life together....find someone closer to your own age...good luck

You absolutely should wait until the divorce is final. After that you should wait until he gets himself straightened out. As for the age difference, you will have problems.

Think carefully about it, you both are at entirely different stages in life and this will affect your happiness. At 35 he is halfway to retirement, his goals in life will be very different, very different than yours.

As time passes he will become much more of a home body, not interested in going out and partying, not taking trips to places that are exciting to you.

If you want children of your own he will be in his mid fifties to early sixties before they even graduate high school and college.

My advice is to concentrate on getting an education and good career for yourself. Once you have that, then think about marriage and children. With another six years of life experiences under your belt I would suggest that this relationship will look very unattractive to you at that stage of your life.