Some times you suddenly get angry and shout at someone? Later realize how rude you were? Do you apologize?

When your subordinate / colleague / friend / parents / brothers / sisters / or even your kids do some mistake which has affected, you suddenly loose your temper and really hurt them with your strong words. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, you would have made some comments really hurting them. Later you realize how rude you were. This happens to all of us.

When it happens to me, I normally go and try to convince that person. Make some jokes, tickle that person and make them laugh. Till I do that I can鈥檛 sleep. Sometimes if I am wrong, I don鈥檛 mind apologizing even to my servant.

Trust me this has helped me a lot. When I go to office or within my friends circle, I am loved by everyone. Even my enemy loves me. He can鈥檛 resist loving me. I am not boasting myself here.However I am just sharing with you that, when you let your ego go, and try to make others happy, they really recognize it and love you later on.

Many a time when I write something like this, I expect people to come out with beautiful answers giving their experiences which could be helpful to us to understand different view point. Instead many come and attack me trying to project the question to be wrong or giving me advices.

Please friends, share with me your valuable views which shall help one and all.

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Many negate it. The reason I ask for star is not to get point etc, but your stars would make me understand the thought pattern of people. What questions of mine are generally welcomed by people? Which questions they find it attractive. Which subject generally attracts the crowd etc.

Now, why does this mannerism in you not surprise me in the least? Oh, Yeah! Your name 'Gentleman.' You are a through gentleman and I believe every word you have said. You may not believe this but I share the exact same traits, maybe that is why I answer most of your questions! The only thing I have a big question mark for, is your saying that even your enemies love you鈥 can understand you loving your enemies. However, if they were to love you too, why would they still be your enemies???

No...I don't allow myself to get angry and react that way. No one is important enough to cause me to choose anger as an emotional response. If I do get angry, it is with myself. So apologies aren't necessary.

What was the question again?

I think you should.

BUT only if you are a gentleman.

P.S. your posting was too long so i didnt read it next time give me the cliff note version 2.0

No. But I usually remove the knife and wipe the blood on their shirt.

If I come to the conclusion I was wrong yes.

I seldom loose my temper, if l do it'susually at my husband and he deserves it!!

Yes I do apologize. Sometimes it takes me a while to apologize to my husband when he has really made me angry, but I do.

only apologise if you feel it is necessary to the situation

How?
After exposing in climbing up the coconut trees and still look green.
Better come down and walk quietly away.
Getting kick on the butts as casualty of the dead Mummy in not worshiping God.
Life sometime can be miserables.
Do "Mind your language"
What do you think?

Yeah i'm like that too, if i say something i don't really want to say they may have hurt them i would be uncomfortable for days, regardless how close i am to the person. i would always try to apologize for what i say if it came out the wrong way.

I lose my temper too sometimes also. You have to understand that it is only natural to get angry, and people do sometimes do things they wish they didn't while they are angry, but does apologizing really help to make everything better? That's the real question. I don't think so. To me, apologies are more for accidents, not something one means to do. I do this too, and I never apologize, but I do try to make up for it in how I treat the person. The old axiom is right, "actions do speak louder than words." A simple "I'm sorry" doesn't cut it with me. I don't expect apologies, and rarely accept them.

So I guess you already understand this because you "apologize" with actions rather than words.

Yes, I have done that a couple of times, but almost immediately realized how ignorant I sounded. I apologized and let them know that I felt like an idiot for going off like that.

I am usually so laid back, that it actually scares people when I get angry like that. It's like "Where did that come from?" I guess I just held my feelings in until I finally exploded. I am one of those people that usually does not care what people say or think. I don't even try to defend myself when people talk bad about me. I figure that if anyone really knows me well enough, then they know it isn't true. The others I could care less about! I just can not stand nosy people, you know those idiots that want to get into your business!!

I know what you mean , I sometimes say things that might be hurtful to one of my kids or blame one for something another one did.I'll apologize for that or for hurting the feelings of a loved one.
As for friends and colleagues I think it's ok to let them think I'm a bit of a pr*ck sometimes. People seem to treat you with more respect when their not sure how your going to react to something.

Dear Friend,
Thanks for your true tale of "shout in haste and regret at leisure!" and your patent system of damage control!!
As for as I am concerned, I always try "not to let myself get angry".Emotional tantrums reveal the chink in one's personality.
One should know the difference between
'one who CANNOT be angry' and the 'one
who WILL NOT be angry'.
Wishing you the best in life!

Yes, I invariably apologize, if not with words, with my gestures.

It's the opposite for me... I am usually on the receiving end of such a tirade... No one has ever apologized to me... (Usually, so-called friends do this...Lately, in the past year or so, I just walk away from the so-called friendship...)...
"...even to my servant", scares me, Gentleman, being a servant is a work role not a lesser humanity... All humans are equal...

This one gets a shining STAR! Hey u have left me speechless...with a writer's block since u've covered up almost everything beautifully. Frankly I behave just similar. It's very beneficial to drop the ego & accept one's mistake. But so many people face difficulty in doing so & then one gets to know the worth of this exercise. U patch up; body & mind relax immediately; the atmosphere becomes pleasant for all & so many more benefits.
Nice to know this side of yours.

i get angry just like everyone else and once i realise that i have been rude i cant go on another second without apologising to them and making them laugh and happy again and i get seriously upset if someone else is upset even if i wasnt the cause of it. yah thats me. i am concerned about each and every person in the world even if i dont know them.

I get angry when someone realllyy makes me mad, everyone at school think I am the nicest person ever! YEAH RIGHT! lol, when I get mad, I think I need time to myself, because I don't want to yell, and hurt someone's feelings, it has happened a few times, and I felt awful! I apologize and tell them they should have left me alone, and I need time to just be by myself when I am mad. My friends try to cheer me up, it just never works because I just want to explode, and be like get the heck away from me! lol

i'm generally a very short tempered person and i say disgusting thngs wen i'm usually angry..i.e.usually telling all bad bout them..but i do realize after sumtime dat i was wrong...there was a particular incident wer ther was this gal called jaishree who i scolded badly[she's actually sick and she frowns every single time i luk at her]but after dat day..i wen and apologized to her for tellin thngs...and seriously she smiles broady wenever i luk at her now and she tells people how gud i am!!!!!!!!!

yeah...it surely works!!

hi gEntLE m@n....

dude 1stly i m a person who doesnt get anger easily or temper easily...or who gets annoyed easily....[even i m not boasting here dude...just trying 2 give u an opinion about myself]...ya ...but dude remember...when i get temper...i doesnt see right or left...up or down..i just get blast off....but dude later maybe after 10-15 mins when i realize that i was wrong i do apologize n try 2 convince that person...but dude i have a n attitude 2 say sorry even if there iz my fault or not...coz i believe by saying sorry or by apologizing u dont become big or small...thats it...my whole step family do treat me veryyyyy badly but i give a damn...az i have got 2 enjoy my life...n i dont want 2 waste my life after such stupids n cheapsters....tc...sweet dreamz...bye....

*****L!fE !z gR@ntEd oNLy onCe ....$o nJoY !t 2 !t$ fuLLe$t....*****.

That never happens to me. (Don't look at me like that, you know I never do anything wrong...)

well i dont do tht very often but if i do yes i apologize cuz i realize wat i have done and my inner concience doesnt allow me to rest in peace till i dont apologize!

I am a short tempered person & i have faced this situation many times. Yes, i apologize .