I am in love with a married woman,We love each other before she got married?

she was in my office, sitting next to me ,she used to talk to me regulary for hours.Then we became best friends,i dont know when she and i started loving each other but when i proposed her she said she can not think of marrying someone else other than someone of her religion ,if she do so her family will kill her.though my family is quiet open minded but at that time i was jobless .now she is married ,she regulary calls me .We share everything .We are best friends as we were ealier but I still love her and she also.She is having no friend circle and neither i do ,We fight and we again apologies for wrong words.I dont know what to do now.i love her very badly but she is married to someone else is not going out of my mind.I m becoming patient of depression and heart.She is facing very bad period in her career and health being her best frnd i cant leave her at this time.Loving your best frnd and losing her is worse part of anyones life.plz tell me what to do.help me please

If she truly loved you, she would have married you, period! She just found a great excuse in which you accepted. If you think any different than you are very dishonest with yourself. You seem to be her validation buddy. You love her, so naturally you agree with everything she says and feels. You are giving her more credit than she deserves. If she were a great women she would be confiding in her husband, not you. Problems or not, she had her chance to marry you and said no. Think about that. She is keeping you on the side because you make her feel good, special and important. Yet she won't commit to you. Why? You're best friends right, so why not commit to you?? Don't this seem messed up to you at all? Don't you wonder why your the second man in her life? If her husband were that bad she would have left, right? You can wait the rest of your life for this woman only to find yourself old and lonely. It's your life so you can wait as long as you feel it takes. But realistically, she has already made her decision. She has already chosen her husband. She chose to just be friends with you. Yet your still hanging on to some hope that maybe, just maybe she'll leave him and come to you. Just consider how much pain you're in now and realize it will only get worse. It will get worse because she will tell you she loves you. She'll tell you she needs you. She'll show you that she wants you. Yet she will go home to her husband, tonight, tomorrow and next week. Only you feel this pain, only you will endure a lonely life and only you can change this. You have the choice to say no, I refuse to be second. Just don't be too hard on yourself when you find yourself asking the same question in 10 years. I imagine you'll have dealt with enough hurt and pain. I hope you have a change of heart and move on. Especially for your own health and sanity. Good Luck & God Bless!

Move on and STOP wasting your time.

Dude, she's married....MARRIED...you had yoru chance and you didn't take it...move on.

what part of no didn't you understand. You asked her, and she rejected your proposal. end of story move on!

She's made her position pretty clear -- you and she can never be together, whether she is married or not. Find someone who REALLY cares about and respects you, not someone who is totally controlled by her family.

Adultery in any religion is still adultery. If she is that good of a friend, you'd be best to leave it as that and not cause her to loose everything because of you.
Don't you know office romances are not healthy for both of you and the company.

What Religion would kill her is she married outside the faith?

I think that would be the first place to start.

But she is married, you should respect her vows. She may really just want you as a friend as well, and keep flirting to keep you interested.

You are in dangerous waters either way, Cool it off unless she makes up her mind on her own to leave her Husband first.

Good Luck and God Bless!

I was in the same situation bro, this is going to be hard but the best thing i did was just forget about her she married the one she wanted more and she keeps you around because she likes the drama. either way its not looking good for your hart

Grow Up!!

I am sorry to hurt you but if she truely loved you she would have married you instead. Leave this marriage alone and move on. I know it may be hard but you have to for your own well being.

You are wasting your time and others time: Do you feel it is fair on your-side:Leave that girl and family live happily: Love another girl,or ask your parents for the marriage and divert the life in a polite and happy way: forget the old'

Being married, she has her husband to take care of her health and advise her regarding her career. You offered to marry her once which she declined on flimsy grounds. Since there is no reason to assume that her husband is a bad man, she has no reason to leave him for you either. Instead of complicating matters any further, put a full stop on the relationship. Move ahead and find someone else to love and marry.

that is the worst loving someone you cannot have. hopefully the woman will come around and realize she should be with you

If you both love each other before her marriage means why does she marriage another guy? Think, dont be a fool and spoil your life like this.........

This relation is not going to take u anywhere, and it could be dangerous. Better forget her, she married out of her choice. Forget her, and move on in life, u may find someone more suitable for u. Maybe a new love may enter your life, only if u let go of the old one.

Carry on