Is this child abuse advice?

I need you advice on this is this consider child abuse me and my brother went McDonalds with our mother he鈥檚 13 im 3 years older. We were flinging ketchup at each other and on floor it got on some ppl.I got ketchup on some girls purse she fliped out it was a couch or something. The manager came to the table and told us to stop my mom comes out of the bathroom saw what we did she flip out. She asks the manager if she had high chairs and bibs and diapers for us her two babies. in the car ride home from mcdonalds she had the nerve to ask me when she goes to wallmart do i prefer huggies or pampers. i want to report my mom. I spoke to a counselor at school she told me no it鈥檚 not abuse and I should be thanking my mom for being so nice to me. She told me if I was her kid and did that that I and my bro would have been wearing bibs and diapers by the end of the week then she told me to leave her office. it has to be a girl thing or something they both agreed. she lied to me no parents would do that to there kids if they did what me and my bro did. It was mcdonalds it wasnt like it was a fancy place or anything.
...... She not social services but what she said is that right about its no abuse?

no it's not...and your 16 seriously i hate saying this but grow up

well i dont think its actually CHILD ABUSE, because shes not physically touching hurting or abusing you or your brother. She may just be harassing you if thats how you want to put it? You're saying she wants to put a 13 year old and a 16 year old in a high chair with bibs? Was she like kidding? I think thats definitely weird, but I don't think its child abuse.

that's not child abuse and i doubt she would actually do that, it was just the heat of the moment. You're lucky because my parents probably would've done much worse like make us clean up McDonald's or something...idk, but what you said is definitely not child abuse.

Of course it isnt blimin abuse! Abuse is being beaten up continuesly or having people do sexual sick stuff to you, or going without food or clothes etc, living in shite.
You sound like a spoilt sod and if that were my two kids i would have been blimin embarresed aswell!

You would enjoy foster care. Go ahead and call Social Services. You would so enjoy being cared for by a family who is in it for the money. And the odds are fairly much in your favor that the foster parents will not beat you, rape you, or kill you. That occurs less than half of the time.

Thats not abuse, she didnt hit you and what she said isnt even verbal abuse. It dosent matter that it was just mcdonalds, you dont act like that anywhere. And im not a mother so im not just agreeing because of that.

Omfg..get over it.
That's not abuse.
Your mother was just mad at you, like any parent would be.
It's called discipline, not abuse.
Behave yourself and you wouldn't have to deal with any of this.

That is not abuse
Some kids have parents who whip them with belts until they are bruised
That is basically telling you that was wrong

Not child abuse.You and your brother were acting like little kids.You were lucky the ketchup didn't hit more people,resulting in dry cleaning bills

Thats not child abuse.
Thats just teasing you. You should be lucky your mum is only doing that.
There are people out there getting properly abused by their parents

If she bought Huggies, then that would be abuse, coz Pampers are much softer and flexible.

Well, did she make you wear them or did she just ask to wear them? If she just asked, perhaps it was a joke.

Uh NO that is not abuse!! Your need to learn how to behave for goodness sake your 16! If I were your mom you would have both been mopping that floor and cleaning those tables at McDonalds!!

uh no offense but I think you should calm down she didnt murder you and she is your mother. Get mad at her yes but calling it child abuse is a lil drama queen to me sorry

You deserved it. Grow up loser.

all you got was her teasing you? consider yourself lucky.

ED L is back and he is incognito.

yes it is abuse!!!





you were abusing your mum and the other people in macdonalds. u are lucky your mum still wants u

It is not abuse. You deserved much worse and I applaud your Mother.

maby she was joking

Abuse is when some1 hits you and she didnt hit them!!! So i would say no!

No, wait what I got lost at 3 years older

that's not child abuse, what you guys were doing was very immature.

OMG i have read that B4, or heard it, wierd
but... as i think i told you B4 i don thinks its child abuse, just harsh

thats not abuse..that was a normal reaction to you actions

******* hell grow a pair of balls!

yes

lol i think its not abuse she just trying to teach u guys a lesson, parents do that.. so dont report ur mom lol

Ok. Your mother's comments may have embarrassed you and made you angry, but that was her point. She was embarrassed and angry because of your antics. A 13 and 16 year old should not be flinging ketchup packets and acting like you were, ANYWHERE! Self control and manners should always be a part of your life, no matter how fancy you find your surroundings.

As far as the counselor goes, she is correct. Abuse is defined as a pattern of repeated behavior in which physical violence and/or emotional coercion is used to gain or maintain power or control. A single incident of assault would also constitute abuse, but she didn't touch you. So, unless your mom does this type of thing on a daily basis, for no reason, this is not abuse. Just her way of trying to show you what is right and wrong.

Personally, I would have probably proven my point differently, like taking away the computer and gaming system and made you guys mow the lawn. I also would have made you aplogize to the people that you got ketchup on. I have never found negative reinforcement to work with kids, and that is what your mom did. All it accomplished with you and your brother... it made you mad, defiant and want to report her. This was not what she wanted as an outcome I assume, and it didn't help you understand why what you guys did was unacceptable. I think she should have handled it differently.

Your mom is frustrated. Control yourselves and you will all be happy. If she didn't love you she would let you do anything and everything, good and bad, and not care in the least. Apologize to her, she deserves that, but also explain how she spoke to you and how it made you feel really bad about yourself. Give her a hug, she most likely will apologize too.

okay kid look, you were acting like a three year old and your mom told you that you were a baby. it would have been close to child abuse if she actually made you sit in a high chair and wear the bibs but she didn't. you embarrassed her so she embarrassed you do you see how that works? i agree with the counselor that she was lenient on you. if i did that in the middle of McDonald's my mom or dad would have been really mad at me and done a lot worse. actually my dad has done that several times to me. if i did something that was stupid or something that made me look like i was a two year old he would call me a baby and ask me questions like that. its not a girl thing my dad does it and i know other parents that do that. i cant believe you think that this is some scary uprising lots of parents call their children babies when they act like babies and yeah it was just McDonald's but when you get the manager to come out and tell you that you are doing something wrong that's pretty bad anywhere.

Poor Manners.
Out of control behavior.
Disrespect of others and their property.

If you were my kid, I'd beat your a$$. Your mom took it light on you. By the way, if you call the authorities on me (if I were your mom) over that type of behavior on your part, then I would let you sit a few weeks in foster care and see how that fit your theme of what's right. If you were my kid, I'd help you pack.

Your behavior was disgusting.