When a woman takes care of a guy, should she expect anything in return?

My ex, whom I have remained good friends with, moved back into town about 6 months ago. Since then, I got him a job, let him use my car, let him move into my apartment (rent-free) I have paid for countless meals and movies, even visits to the doctor's office! At first I didn't mind b/c not only was he very grateful, but it seemed like we were gonna get back together, but lately he's been distant... he's always getting upset about something, doesn't help out around the house, invites his friends over without my permission,etc... he even stopped sleeping in the bed with me! This has been going on for over two months, and I just can't take it anymore! I told him last night that he either needed to start paying rent, or at least earn his keep by cleaning/cooking, etc and he LEFT! Is that too much to ask? I love him and I love taking care of him, but it seems like he expects it now...Should I try to work this out, or just say "good riddance"?

dont let this freeloader back into your life
and yes a real man will take care of his lady and not let her pay the way

say "good riddance" and take your life back!

Good riddance he is taking advantage

I say you are lucky he left - why would you want him back?

Im sorry, but it really sounds like he was just using you, i say find a new man, and move on, someone who wont mind helping out when your good to him

I don't think that is too much to ask at all. For you to go through all of that trouble for him, and get absolutely nothing in return, not any pay, or help, or true appreciation, is rotten on his part. He used you, and now he's ready to move on before he is obligated to be there for you. I know it's difficult when you care about someone, but this guy sounds like an a**, and it would probably be best for you to move on, and find someone else to be with. It won't be easy to say "good riddance" but give it a try. There are wonderful guys out there that will appreciate you, and go to the end of the world for you, so why cheat yourself that opportunity for some jerk who can't take care of himself? That's just my opinion, of course. You have to decide for yourself.

Well, your doing the right thing for your ex boyfriend, in helping him out but the i guess you need to have a good communication with him, for you to know the real score between the two of you, stop jumping into conclusion... no matter what would be the result of it, as long as you had a good communication even if you will get seperated, i can assure you that you will remain as good friends...

My my my.... That sucks hun. All too often, good people are taken advantage of. Sounds like your ex is definitely taking advantage of you. You did what you could to help him out, and there's nothing wrong with that. Problem is, you made it too easy for him. Now he doesn't appreciate what you do. I was in a similar situation a long time ago with my ex. Making the long story short: we were together for 5 years, he broke both legs in a motorcycle wreck, couldn't do anything for himself, I had to bathe him, feed him, wipe his butt, took him to physical therapy, and nurtured him back to walking which took over 8 months. What did he do when he started walking again? Cheated.
My point is, we as women sometimes just have the "nurturing" nature. We take care of the ones we care about, without even having to be asked. Problem with that is, that sometimes we don't make them earn what we do, and they take advantage of us.
This guy you're talking about, is taking you for granted. There's nothing wrong with what you did, and it's great that you helped him out. Personally, I would kick him out. Give him an ultimatum. Either he starts paying his half, and helping you out, or he's gone, because life isn't just some free ride.
I'm sorry you're in this situation hun, sounds like you're a good woman and I'm telling you this, you deserve someone to appreciate what you have to offer. Not this.
Best of luck dear

*a side note: when you do something for someone, don't expect anything in return (gifts, flowers, etc.), because then you are just doing things to get something. you wanting/needing him to do his part doesn't apply to that though. he's supposed to at least pay half and help you out, like I said, life isn't a free ride. that's not asking too much.

Lesson learned. He charmed his way back in and got what he wanted. When the free ride was over he moved on to the next one. Good riddance! Dont ever let him come back. If you do may be pay you like anyone else would