Is my 23 year old sister a loser?

I'm getting older 26...my sister is 23 years of age, lived on own then moved back with my mom, she pays the rent well half of it anyway, but it seem like she has no ambition to do antyhing she's like extremely depressed don't go out don't do anything at all really. I told her to go back to college,( which is what I am doing) she says no she is way too old, I told her she sould because if she wants to get money and be successful she has to get a better education. she's actually even got bigger, little over weight and when we argue about herl iving situation(i only do it to help her don't beat me up on this one) she cries of course i don't want her to cry at all but she does. I can tell she wants to better herself but she's doing nothing actively to change her situation. I am going back to school because I am sick of my office job and want to further my job prospect. All she thinks about is she's a loser...is she? and what can i do to help her. she's still young and can change.

I don't think she is a loser. she just needs some motivation, and you may not be the messenger for her. Be an example for her and maybe that will motivate her, but continuing to bug her is only going to make her more depressed and strive even less. Quit bugging her and she may snap out of it. Lead by example not by your mouth

She sounds depressed and until she gets help there isnt much you can do except stop nagging her and just let her know how much you love her.

Just going through the mid 20 life crisis. Happens to lots of people. She'll wake up soon enough.

sounds liek shes anti social and depressed...get her to a doctor she probably needs medication and shed be a happeir more motivated person.....but then again sometimes people just end up living at home never doing anything....soons she'll be 30 with a crappy job and 10 cats stil living at home...seen it before

I know your trying to help but your not really she is deppressed abought her life right now and she needs encourgment why don't you and her go out togather and do things to encourge her.

Badgering people who are depressed doesn't help the situation. You might want to encourage her to see a doctor *if* this is bothering her.

People have different values. Not everyone is ambitious and that's okay. Maybe your sister wants to get married and raise kids. Maybe she wants to be an artist.

Explore with her. Find out what matters to her. Then you will be better equipped to help her find her way.

My brother is EXACTLY the same. I don't think calling them a loser is right... even though that's kinda what they are. People are different and I understand that my brother will never have the confidence, or self esteem, or social skills that me and my other brother have. It's just the way he is. So I hang out with him atleast once a week and motivate him in positive ways. Whenevr he brings up a new business idea I tell him it's a great idea. Even if I think it's stupid and even though I know he'll never actually do it.

She had a minor setback to move back home I take it?

You need to convince her to get an education and get her to become more active. Can the 2 of you join a gym and excersice together? She should get motivated enough hanging out with you to pursue school again then.

Your a good sister keep at it.

every1 needs to quit enabling her and until she is ready 2 better herself she will never amout to anything she lazy

No, she is not a loser. It is just one of those things. Just give her some time and eventually she will move on. It is not your fault that she is not taking responsibility for her action. She will regret it. Try to comfort her and set a good role model for her.

No. I do NOT think your little sis is a loser. I bet she just wants
to get a better life. A lot of people want that.

No she's not a loser @ all. She probably doesn't have that motivation in her life right now that pushes her to get up and do something. Probably later on, when she gets married and has a family, she probably won't be depressed and with low self-esteem. She probably feels like this because she doesn't have anyone she's responsible for, like a baby. But when she does, that'll probably motivate her to go to college. Or if not, she'll be much happier with a family of her own.
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you need to talk to her, maybe you should ask her if you to could go and hang out sometime, well it sounds to me like you need to mind your own business, her day will come when she finds out she needs a job you dont always need the best education to get a descent job!! She might feel like your pushing her alot, you need to start acting more of a sister and less of a parent!

No such thing as "winner" or "loser" exists to begin with. We're all winning at some aspects of our life and losing at others, and negative labels do nothing but harm. While your sister's situation obviously bothering you, you may want to back off a little and give her some space. She sounds depressed and unmotivated. You may recommend her to see a doctor and start working on improving her psychological state.

god shes so depressed you need to talk to her before it goes any further trust me when i was going through depression i didn't talk to anyone prop for months then i found someone i could confide it and i got through it
it never goes away and she will have ups and downs just be there for her ans listen to what she got to say dont keep having a go at her even if you ate frustrated it wont help
last thing she wants is to be moaned at just listen to her please that all she wants