This is long but please i need your advice?

fe can be so complicated, help me understand (=?
ok i'll try to make a super long story short. I moved in with my best firned since i was born becuase her husband left for a year to iraq and she didnt want to live alone. he came home on leave and then left to finish his tour well then she found out she was pregnat..we were all very excited..but once she became pregnat she changed she ended up telling me she is moving back home with her parents to save money but to take as much time as i needed to find a new place (this was fine) i was a little bummed when she told me becuase we planned on renting a house for as all to live in including my b/f well we got into a fight and she decides to tell me she already went to the leasing office and said we will be out in 2 weeks (when she is telling me take my time) well we ended up not talking for a couple of months but she was my best friend since birth and i missed her, we patched things up but im always the one who contact her first

should i be more understanding? she says she dosent have time for me but shes been haning out with this other girl who is pregnat as well...should i just give up? im sick of chasing her and i miss her so much but she dosent even care...i undertsand she is pregnat but i just dont know what to do

If she cared about you as a friend, she would be more understanding of your feelings. You probably feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her or something. She seems to be the insensitive one to me but after all she is your friend and you know her better than we do. I say if you have to chase her down then it doesn't seem like she is really interested in being your friend. You need to be straight up honest with this chic and let her know how she is making you feel. Let her know that you want to continue to be her friend but if that is not the case for her then you can move on as well. Friends are suppose to be there for you no matter what and what she did with the housing situation was low down and dirty. You have a good heart cause you forgave her for what she did to you but don't kiss her butt. Its like she wants you to beg her or something but you don't need a friend like that if thats the case no matter what. Just talk to her and see where she stands and go from there. God Bless

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Just move on I now this is hard and your hurt. Sorry for your troubles.

Just be her friend. Call her, ask her out for lunch or to just hang out. If you become a whiny and complaining friend, she won't want to be around you anymore. Just be pleasant. Recognize that she is changing as she is pregnant. People grow up and change. You should grow up and seek to have a more mature relationship with your friend. You two are not kids anymore.

Be patient, if you are as good a friend to her as she is to you, then she will come around. It's probably just the hormones being out of whack while she's pregnant. Let her know you will be there if she needs you, then let her have some space and time. After she gives birth she will more than likely be back to her old self.

You need to send her a heartfelt letter explaining all of this too her. Tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her that you will always be there for her when she needs you but now the ball is in her corner. Let her know how much you miss her and value her friendship. You also have to realize ( as unfair as it is) that sometimes we have to take a break from people that are in our lives. It sounds like you two have been very close all your lives and maybe she is trying to find out who she is without you. Just be patient, if she is truly your friend she will come around. ( If not, then move on) Sorry for your loss. Good Luck

She sounds very selfish and self centered. I would never call a person that never calls me, friendship is not a one way street.

Their will be a time she will need you, and want to be around you also. Now you need to move on with your life, this happens, sometimes, you find friends, that you have things in common also. It is not the end of the world, but I know that it is hard. Just be strong. in time you will get over it.

I wouldn't keep calling her she would have call me first because if she really is your best friend then she would at least make a attempt to call you .But from what your saying it sounds like she doesn't even try to get in contact with you . So I think you should go about your business and wait until she calls you .

well if she is hangin out wit some other girl and won't hang out wit you then why don't you try to find somebody else to hand wit then she might get mad and then she might decide to be your friend again cuz after she see how it feels then maybe she will be your best friend again!!!!!!!!!

well i guess she doesn't want your friendship anymore. :( i say back off, maybe then she'll realize she is being a *****! (sorry) i mean you don't do that to friends.... that's horrible. you should just be as careless as she is. move on and forget her!! i know it's hard because you are/were best friends but it's really obvious she doesn't appreciate your friendship like you do hers. me and my bestfriend are having problems as well.... she is a bit bitchy at times and i love her a lot we've been friends for a lot of years but sometimes she can be mean sometimes... at first i was like you.. always calling HER. but then i got tired of it.. when we would fight i'd always call to say sorry and stuff like that but this time i just said forget this! so i haven't called her. and i talk to her sister and she says she is sad that i don't talk to her anymore but she still WONT call ME.... i don't understand that! but today she called me! and asked if i wanted to go out with her and her family like old times... so maybe givin your friend the cold shoulder might work too! don't be mean just act like "whatever" if it doesn't work , let it go, you don't need "friends" like that!

Wow, try to understand that she is pregnant and hormones are crazy right now. She might feel like that she doesn't have anything in common with you because you are not pregnant too! She just might relate to this other pregnant woman right now. Just be patient, don't be negative, and don't worry about it!!! Stuff like this take time. Try to meet her for lunch or eat one day or go and pick out baby furniture together. Hopefully one day she will open up to you and let you in!!!

You called her a friend? I can understand that she is pregnant but why would she go to the leasing office when she knew that you did not have anywhere else to go. Plus she told you lies about the amount of time you had there. You and your boyfriend can go and rent together. It might be a blessing in disguise that this happen because 2 rats can not live in one hole (Do not get offended...this is just a saying in my country). Try and move on and stop contacting her because it is obvious that she does not want to be with you. It might hurt but find new friends to take your mind off of it. When you were born did you see anyone along side of you? She did not born with you. If she had died you would have to live without her so forget her.

Keep on being her friend. She sounds like she is going through a lot with her husband being away and the pregnancy. In the mean time go out and meet some new friends. You might make a friendship with someone than can be there for you the same way you try to be there for your best friend. Good luck.