There's this really weird guy at my office who always coughs every time he walks by my desk. WTF's up w/ that?

So, I've noticed that every time he walks by my desk, he coughs. Really loud. Every time. But when he goes back to his desk, nothing. Not a peep. WTF?

He's a pretty weird guy, with no common sense and pretty limited social intelligence. When we pass in the hall, he'll try to invade my personal space to the point where we've bumped in to each other a few times. I'll stay as far to the right as I can, leaving plenty of room for anyone to pass, but I'm not going to jump out of the way for anybody who refuses to do the same. It's just common courtesy and ettiquette.

So, what the hells up with this dude? Do you think he hates my guts? Maybe he's attracted to me? For the record, I'm a 30 y/o dude. Been told I'm pretty good looking.

Should I just ignore this dude? Mention it? I have no idea why someone would do something like this. If I've got a problem with someone, or interested in them, I'll take it up with them directly. Usually by saying good morning.

This place is so bizarre

Every company usually has one or two village idiots. People just have to find a way to live in co-existence with them. Yeah I'd probably talk to him, but if there's any immediate grabbing / cupping after you say good morning to him I'd take it up with HR and let them deal with it, even if it's bothering you now. Successful companies should have positive work environments, so you may be doing a bit of a favor for other people who think the same thing. Should I give you the Jobs section of the classifieds?

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edit: "woah" to dragonsong's answer. interesting.

Maybe he just has a little disorder. Nothing harmful so don't worry.

Mark - so he's weird...why does it bother you so much?

Below is a quote from "Straight from the Heart" by Layne and Paul Cutright:

START SETTING YOURSELF FREE

Ask yourself, "What in my own history is causing me to feel this way?"

The next time you notice that you are reacting to what someone else does or says, pause and ask yourself, "What in my own history is causing me to feel this way?" It may take a few tries to get the hang of this but just give it a try and see what your mind comes up with.

Here's an example:

You walk into an elevator and the person who is already in there doesn't ask you what floor you want. You think that's rude and get a little irritated. So you ask yourself, "What in my own experience is causing me to feel this way?" You might remember that you were brought up to be courteous to others and that your parents scolded you if you weren't. You might remember that your current love interest has been inattentive lately, and this is just one more example of how nobody cares about your needs. Or you might recall that you think no one has any manners any more, and believe the whole world is becoming uncivil.

Whatever your personal reasons for getting irritated with your elevator companion, the next step is to acknowledge they are your reasons and probably have little or no relationship with what's true for that person. He or she may be preoccupied, nervous, or shy鈥攐r have some other, completely mysterious reason for not asking you what you want.

Start Small and Get Big Insights

It's great to begin with these small, seemingly trivial events and build the muscle to use this same exercise with bigger upsets in your life. The idea is to create the astonishingly liberating awareness that your reactions to the world around you rarely have much to do with what's actually going on.

Listening to others and observing your reactions is one of the most accelerated growth and healing processes you can experience. Specifically paying attention to how you interpret other people's words and actions can reveal to you your own mind: your "filters," if you will. Because all of us see others through the lens of our own experience, it can be fascinating to pay attention to how that lens is colored.

What he's doing may have NOTHING at all to do with you, so RELAX.