Am i starting 2 lose love or something else because he wont give me sex?

I've been with my bf for almost 5 yrs. Sex was great. There is space between us as all couples need. For the past 8 months, he will have sex with me maybe once. I've tried everything, from switching perfumes, body lotions, different little things that i felt maybe were needed to spice things up again and keep the fire burning. Doesn't seem to work, I've talked to him a few times, he says nothing to it. Doesn't take meds, doesn't do drugs, works from home. So i don't get the problem. Some may say maybe he is seeing someone else, but i've been unemployed for a while now and i do see him and if im not around him i may be downstairs working out and he will be working in his office from home. It used to hurt me and bother me and sometimes still does. Now it's becoming more of a annoying thing, I found myself masturbating at least once every day now, and when he tells wants to kiss me or wants me to watch a movie with him.. i just rather go to sleep. what is going on?

I've told him that maybe he needs time off, or maybe we just need to break it off and he needs to find someone that makes him happy because i feel that i don't anymore. When i say this he gets defensive and says he doesn't want to leave me..but i figured, i can only pleasure myself for so long right? if you have a partner that you love, why shouldnt you be able to share this with him? this is so upsetting!

This is a difficult question to answer and i think your first 3 answers all have good points, Not knowing the whole situation, there is definately something going on in his head or maybe pants. One suggestion is he maybe on dating sites on the net if he is spending so much time in his office. For some reason he needs outside stimulation and is getting it from here. Being such a non intrusive way to have an affair is probably ok in his mind and although he may not be physically having an affair, the excitement of having women interested in him has taken his focus off you and he has no more sexual energy left to put into your relationship. As a suggestion to see where he is really at, why dont you suggest a weekend away, say you need to have a break from the house and it might be good for him to have a break too and see what his response is. If he has no interest in spending a weekend away with you then you could nail him with the question, if he agrees to go then you will need to have all your womanly charm working over time to see if you can get some spark back into your relationship and see what happens from there. It is going to be a hard one for you if he declines as you will need to make a decision on your future, but one that will need to be made as you also have a life to live. Good luck and i hope it turns out for the best, i would love some feed back as to how you go

It really does sound like he's seeing someone else. He may not be willing to give you up just yet until he's sure the other relationship will work out. Why get rid of home until you find a new one. I can't see any other reason for this behavior unless your not telling the whole story. A man will still have sex with you even if the relationship is bad just to get some. A man just isn't going to stop having sex with you unless theres a damn good reason..and usually its because he's getting it elsewhere.

Maybe he is loosing his sex drive and drugs will be his next step. If I was you I would demand that he face the issues at hand or you are going to leave him. You are right how long can you keep doing yourself.

something is definately up with your man..try leaving for a week and see if that works..