Is he right, or is he a moocher?

Boyfriend moved into my house with me and my kids.We sold his house so he could use the money to start his own business. We BOTH put a lot of time and sacrifice into getting the business going because it was always his dream. Here is the problem. My mortgage is $1200.00. Electric, water, phone, internet, cable and groceries is about $1000.00 a month. I do all the house work, all the cooking, all the grocery shopping, all the yard work. Plus I work a full time job and then do his books and run his office. For ALL of this, I was only asking $900.00 a month from him. I pay my own cell bill, car payment and ins. and anything the kids need like field trip money, lunch money and sports activities. Basically he just comes home at night. He thinks this is way too much rent for him to have to pay, because he has to pay overhead at work which includes $2000.00 to rent shop space because he just expanded. Actually he would like to live with me for free. What is normal rent when living together?

I agree, half of everything seems fair (except dealing with the kids unless they're his, they are your responsibility ) you are giving him way too much leeway.

He should pay HALF of everything. Except for anything for your kids because their not his and he doesn't really have to unless he wants to.

Oh, heck, no. He does not get to live with you for free.
He lives there, too, so he needs to pay up. He's a total moocher.
You should have realized that when he MOVED IN WITH YOU>

splitting the bills except for the kids expenses and any prior expenses is normal. HE IS A MOOCHER, boot him

Normal rent is whatever works for the couple... but I would normally recommend 50/50.
I think you're being taken advantage of.
You have kids - do you really want to teach them it's ok for someone you're not even married to to use you like this?

well if you are living together it should be split in half.....its only fair

WHOA, girl!

OK, first of all, ALL duties like housework, yardwork, grocery shopping, cooking, is to be split right down the middle. 50/50. Period.

Secondly, ALL expenses are split right down the middle as well - except for obviously the kid's stuff.

You need to sit down and straighten out the ground rules with this dude. You've got responsibilites and time-consuming activities JUST LIKE HE DOES.

Stop being a maid - he'll let you as long as you'll do it.

50-50.

I wouldn't call it rent but sharing responsibilities. He should be helping out since he does live there too.

i'm sure he's eating your food and using your electric and water and heat! all these things cost money and if he's using them, he should be paying his share! also i'm sure he's not paying you for doing his accounting so sounds like you're being more than generous to me! best wishes

Normal rent for a couple living together is half of everything. That is how me and my live-in boyfriend do it..all of our bills equal up to $1200 so we both pay $600...So he should be paying you $1100 a month to live there..Tell him to either give you the money or find somewhere else where he can live for free and have sex with a beautiful person...haha let's see if he finds that..he won't!!...Hope all goes well..

You are letting him walk all over you! His rent for his business has nothing to do with his sharing expenses with you at home.

Unless you have a legal shared interest in his business, which I doubt you do, he needs to pay for his living in your house. He should pay rent. Even if you both will share his business profits, he needs to contribute to the cleaning and upkeep of the house. He needs to contribute for food, do some cleaning, and help with your kids.

Basically you are giving him a total free ride. He is a moocher, plain and simple.

Mortgage = 1200
Utilities = 1000

Total = 2200. You have 2 kids?

If this were a roommate situation, you could rent a room for about $500. But, since you are working.... doing his books, etc. You should be paid for your services. I think $900 is generous. If he were your husband, then half would be more fair. You could be asking him for $1,100.

What I see happening, is you support him til his business gets going and making money and then suddenly, he dumps you and you have nothing to show for all your hard work and sacrifices! I've lived with my man for 24 years, we live as man and wife the money is pooled and used together! You don't normally charge rent, you split all the bills his and yours! You need to protect yourself and your children by getting something in writing that he will pay you x amount from the business or get the rent, something. NOBODY gets to live for free! You are the one with the children, if anybody should help anyone, it should be HIM helping YOU!!! Either that or let him live at his business and boot his butt out!

Definitely half of everything. And if you are doing his bookkeeping and running his office, then he should be paying you for that work as well just like a regular employee. Tell him he has to share the responsibilities or start looking for a place to live. You have kids and above all, THEY are the most important thing in your life and it's not fair that he's taking away from them by not helping out.

First of all, is he paying you for taking care of his books and run his office? If yes, ask for a raise & if not, either make him start or pay at least the $900.00. I think he is more of a mooch than right.
I helped my ex with all of his business details from making up cards, invoices & bookkeeping & we split all the bills evenly each month.
Another way to do it is figure out how much more before & after he moved in your bills went up + 1/2 of your house payment(maybe this will open his eyes). He may think that there are 3 of you and 1 of him and why should he be paying that much. If this is the case, sorry but you & the kids are a packaged deal so he better deal with that fact.

First of all you need to sit down and write out what are your expectations, as far as him living with you. If a problem should arise you have in black and white what is what. You should expect him to AT LEAST pay half the mortgage. If you can't live for free, he can't either. He needs to pay half on the electric, water, cable, do the yard work and some cooking. He comes home at night but he still has to eat, sleep and bathe. He may or may not watch TV but electricity is being used to do the daily functions of life. Be honest with him and let him know, if he was still in his house he would be paying for and doing the things that you ask, if not more. If he feels like this is too much suggest that he go stay in the office that he is renting for $2k/month.

Even if you were married, he would have to pay half. From what I can see he needs to contribute at least a $1000 a month. You are basically paying your own way. Why does he live with you if he is not going to be a help-Financially, mentally and physically..

There is an expression that says "I can do bad all by myself." If someone wants to help you, they are suppose to be an improvement, lessening your burdens and making the situation better.

Just think about this last thing. Am I doing better, Is this improving my life? Am I worn out from all the things that I do? Is he telling you that he appreciates your help, is he paying you for your time?