How long do I wait after divorce before I date again?

I was married to my ex for 9 1/2 years. Problem is, I still want to be with her. Clearly I have to figure out how to cut all emotional ties from her before I can move on to another prospect in good emotional health, no baggage. But, I know I'm trying to recover from this very painful divorce, and just recently entertaining the idea of meeting some-one else, instead of trying to get back together with my ex. I slip in and out of depression, because I am Bi-polar. That's why I cheerfully welcome humorous and off-the-wall responses from you, as well as the educated, to-the-point ones. And any combination of the two can also be fun. How do I recover from divorce and not feel guilty about meeting another woman? Is it just one of those deals: "Time heals all wounds?" by the way, I saw the most hilarious current movie: "What happens in Vegas" on Memorial Day. Some guy in that movie says that: "Time heals all wounds" in the context that made it hilarious. I ran out of space.

Officially as soon as the divorce is final in court. But unofficially, it's when you're ready after the divorce is final. But what's the hurry? Take your time. Good luck.

start dating! you seem like a nice guy. I'm sure you will find

a wonderful lady! just do it. And don't forget to have a positive

attitude at all times!!!!

the past is behind you. if you feel comfortable dating at this time start dating it`s not what other ppl say about you.

I'd say go ahead and date...

Don't sit there wallowing in your feelings about the past.

You never know when you'll meet another nice girl. Get started. It will be OK.

Good luck, dude!

there is no rule, if your ready, do it, if not dont.

get started now

Ohh dude I'm in the same position as you I cried my self to sleep every night thinking of her. But I got tired of beign a sissy and crying like a little girl. So last week I convinced my self I would go out and ask out the first girl I found atractive and it worked. I met this wonderfull girl at the grocery store last week. The worst thing that could happen is that she would say no. I was so nervous I thought I was going to poop my pants but thankfully I din't and she said yes.Woo Hooo no more lonely nights

well ets see i think that there is definetly no time limit to start dating after a divorce . i dontthink that you still want to get back with your ex. i mean almost 10 years , that is a long time. i think you just miss the security of having someone there. almost like anet. its hard and scarey to start over when you have been with someone that long . especially when you have a disorder(bipolar) i mean that person knows your moods and everything .! but let me say this i dpnt know what broke up ur marriage but someone wanted to stay with you for 9 1/2 years., so you will have no problem finding love again. when the time is right. because bottom line is when people want to find love it happens. but try enjoying you single life because more than likely when u do find that certain someone then it will be forever . so just ride with the waves not aginst them or you might drown. as for your ex and wanting to get back with her well why? something wasnt working so jst move forward . and dont be afraid ..ususallt fear is what keeps us in a disfunctional relationship in the first place . good luck...