Will he ever come back?

I met this guy about 9 months ago and we both fell head over heels. I knew he was the man I wanted to marry after the first couple dates. Soon after, he asked me to move in when my lease was up. I began moving in, and everything was great. Then, the night before we were going to get the last of my things to move in, we got into an argument over something pretty stupid. I thought we were over it but the next morning he told me to get my stuff out and that he didn't want me to move in. I love him and I want this to work (even if I don't move in), but now he is saying that right now he needs time to sort things out, and that he's not sure we're right for each other. I'm in shock! I've apologized for the argument and he said he forgives me. We had a really good relationship before and were even planning to get married in '09. Do you think he just needs some space for a while but he'll come back? Do I just leave him alone to do that? I'm a mess and I miss him so much! Thanks for any advice!

We got into an argument because he told me he would be home at a certain time from having dinner with some friends, and I hadn't heard from him an hour after the fact. I got worried, and couldn't get in touch with him, and when I finally did and was happy he was ok, I was just mad that he wasn't answering his phone. He said he shouldn't have to have his phone on him all the time, and after arguing for a bit I apologized and just asked him if in the future he could let me know if he'll be late so I don't worry.

Hi there,
I think he needs his space and time. I also think the fact that you tried to get a hold of him, he feels like now he has to check in with you, as before he was on his own, and he could come and go as he pleases and does not have to answer to anyone. Don't hound him, when he does this. Its going to take time for him to get used to you two living together. Next time he says he will be home at x-time and he he's not. Leave, go out on your own, because when he gets home he will be expecting you to be waiting for him. Then he tries to contact you, you will be unavailable too. He has to respect you, and if he doesn't respect you....well tit for tat. Its not a game, but it may teach him a thing or to about respect. Do me a favour. Read the book Why men marry bitches. I found it helpful in my relationship. The key is not to get angry, just say it politley. Your actions will speak louder than words. So, for now just give him some breathing room, and time to adjust. Don't act like his worried mother, act like his g.f. He is a big boy, he can take care of himself. Read the book. Read it, over and over again. I still read it, and reference back to it. Don't worry too much things will be fine!

If he's unstable enough to not only first suggest you taking the time AND money to move in, get in an arguement over something "stupid" and THEN tell you to gtfo because of it, then you shouldn't be with him. Are you standards really so low that you'd plan to marry a retard?

OMG! i cant even tell u how many times a guy has got tired a me cuz i can be VERY clingy so of course u've been told they want "Space" so trust me give him wut he wants leave him alone its gunna hurt like hell but hes gunna begin to miss u cuz if you call him and txtdhim or wutever hes gunna get annoyed so jez leave him alone and hes gunna begin to wonder why ur not callin and thats when he starts to miss u

Sounds like he freaked out a little and realised he's not ready. just let him go and hopefully when he's ready he'll eventually come back for you. but live your life in the meantime and dont wait around for him because it could never happen...

Give him some time. He may have just overreacted to the argument the two of you had. But, on the other hand, maybe the argument caused him to realize that you are not the woman for him. At any rate, you will know soon enough...

i would just give him space and time to think things out. sorry your hurting it sounds tough. if he said he wanted time then i would def. give him time and see what happens , u dont want to push him. i hope everything works out for u. take care.

i'm rly sorry about ur situation. and honestly, when a guy says he needs some time, consider it over. if he does come back it will be for sexual reasons only. i hate to say it but don't become one of those make-up beak-up couples

You should give him some time to sort things out, if he says that's what he needs to do.
But in the meantime, don't EXPECT him to come back, because if he doesn't, you'll just be disappointed.
Just wait and see what happens.

Some people never argue others love to do it ,, . Pretty hard to say what He likes , as I don't know him but you will have to give him space now ,. and see what happens

Do you think he just needs some space for a while but he'll come back? Do I just leave him alone to do that?

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It seems kind of bizarre to me that he had such a freak out about something you thought was trivial.

I can't imagine him throwing it away, but if he does... Then it's definitely his loss.

He might need more time to think his future over. I would advise to keep your distance for the time being.

I need to know what you argued over.....

1.)Maybe the arguement was bigger than you thought and he's mad about it.
2.)In psychology, what he's doing might be called displacement, which is when he blows up really big about something and it's not even about that, maybe he was really nervous about you moving in and this was his way out.

Personally, i would give him his space, guys always say girls need space, but sometimes guys actually just need time to sort things out and think about things.

Once a famous rapper (DMX) stated, "if you truely love something, you will let it go, if it comes back to you know it's yours, if it doesnt then it never was"

Hope this helps.

-Michael.

There is no for certain that he'll come back. My suggestion to you is to leave him alone for awhile. Find things you can do by yourself, as hard as it is not to pick up the phone and call him. Men are different than women in that way. When they say they want time to think, give them that time. If you don't, they might do something out of obligation like get back together with you so you will stop bugging them about it. Let nature run its course. Remember, if you love someone, let them go. If they come back, they were always yours. I hope it works out for you.

I would say just tell him that you had no idea that whatever it is you fought about would upset him so much and that you're sorry. Relationships take a willingness to compromise and you both have to be willing to pick your battles. If its really not that big of a deal, does it matter that you're right and he's wrong about something??? Or vice versa? Things are not always going to be easy. He should know all of this and tell him that you still love him and respect his decision to end things but that you really wish he would re-consider. Hopefully he will realize he was making too big of a deal about stuff but if not then its better it ended now, than a year from now once you already have wedding invitations sent and everything else because you dont want to end up with someone who is going to send you on a rollercoaster of emotions with one month things are better than ever and they could change at a drop of a dime....good luck girl!!

Time to leave.

1st---You should not move in with a man until you are MARRIED to him.
2nd---Sounds like the two of you are still to immature to be thinking about marrying anybody. People who love each other do things like call each other and not freak out. People who love each other can trust the other in everything.
3rd---Sounds like you are to controlling to be involved with someone yet. Many people say they are worried about the other when they are actually using that as an excuse to be controlling over the other. When you go out with your friends, he trusts you. When he goes out with his friends, you are supposed to trust him.
4th---He probably was made fun of by his friends because you were checking up on him. It's called being hen pecked. You might have lost him over that, alone.

I would suggest you back off. When and if he is ready, he will return. You should tell him you will not move in or have sex until you have a ring on your finger.

That will show you if he wants you for life, or just for sex. If you already had sex and give him this ultimatum, he probably will not see you anymore.

if u teo just met like 9 months ago he might not be ready ro commit to anything. u need to let him go. dont forget him or top loving him. just give him the space he desires. he might be confused. or he might still be in love with his ex!! i mean why would u date for a year or two and decide to get married. the percentage of a lasting marrage is like 13 percent. most marrages are sweet at first and then they go terribly wrong. i mean my aunt was with her husband for 89 years. and now they are on the road to devorse. u need to think about u not him. he might have perppsly done this. ya know to get ur hopes up. or to have u get everything almost finished and then to boot u out the door. if u two dont work out and he doesnt think ur right for him. talk to him about still being friends. i mean dont give up everything u have worked so hard to gain so quick. it stupid. good luck and i hope i helped


answer my question. i am not sure if i did this right tho!! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Take that as a clue that he moved to fast and didn't want you to move in in the first place... seriously...

He asked you to move in too soon and he regretted it so intentionally got in a fight with you so he had a reason to tell you that you couldn't move in..

Seriously.. You can't tell a person from a few dates that you want to marry them.. It's impossible... I thought that too after being with my now husband for only 3 weeks... and we ultimately got married 2 years after dating... but let me tell you he's nothing like he was in the first few months of dating.. no man is..

So don't be a naive girl and think you want to fall into a marriage based on a few dates.. that the dumbest thing in the world... that's why we have to many divorces..

He doesn't want to be with you.. he's done with you.. Look at it.. he got into a fight with you so you didn't move in, and now he doesn't want to date you because he needs space... move on.. get over him.. it's over.

I really don't thik it had anything to do with the arguement that you guys had every couple argues and has dissagreements that doesn't mean their partner says I think you shoudl move aout!!, I think this was something he may have been thinking about and was just looking for an excuse, he either got cold feet and thought that you moving in was a big mistake or he just doesn't feel that conected to you anymore, either way it hurts you and I know. Maybe I'm wrong, in that case give him space and don't nag him by calling him and let him come to you whn he had time to think. Then you can assess if your relationship is worth saving. I hope it works out, heart break sux.

Ok lady, sounds to me like everything was moving really fast for him. He prolly just picked the small arguement you two had, so he had some sort of reason to back out, without having to actually come out and say he wasn't ready. A lot of guys get cold feet, not just about marriage. However you were moving, getting married...next thing he's thinking kids will come up or something. He's head is probably spining. Give him time to himself...if he wants you.. nothing will stop him from telling you that. No need to seem needy.. just focus on yourself right now and what you want out of life. Everything else will fall into place.. I live by this saying "everything happens for a reason" and it's proven true for me time and time again. I hope you cheer up and things work out for you!