My girlfriend of 5 years told me she needed a break?

ok i thought everything was fine and then 3 weeks ago she dropped this bomb on me that she wants a break and some space, and she told me she loves me and still knows im husband material, but she not IN love with me im so confused ..she told me the last 3 years been hell and i drink to much and what i do been sober now 3 weeks but she just will not forget about the past ..and were still living together till one of us gets enough money to move out. i askes why didnt u just leave me 3 yrs ago and y did you pretend there wasnt nothing wrong dunno . shes been my lover and best friend for 5yrs i can understand a lil break but when shes talking months,i need to find myself and maybe a few down the road we can be together again. my gut keeps tellin me them couple months who know what she could do meet another guy or she could possible be faithful to me . im so drained and im the 1 that has to leave the apartment we shared for all these years cause its my fault and i make more $ help me out

Are you alright? You must be upset. Take in a deep breath and relax for a few seconds. Calm yourself.

Ask her if she is just taking a break or if she really wants to break up with you. Figure that out first.

You may be feeling all upset by now. After all, 5 years is a long time. The thing with her is maybe that she is feeling different emotions for you right now. She might not be sure that she "loves" you.

So don't worry, you are probably not the only one who's upset with all this.

Do you love her? If you do, you should be willing to talk it out with her. Tell her you understand she needs a break, just ask her why else. Don't get mad or upset at her, just listen to her and offer her a hug if she seems distressed too. Have a conversation and get everything solved so that you understand, whether it is just a break to see how everything will work or if it is a break up.

Whatever lies ahead of you, you probably will be in some pain. Let it out if you have to, no one's holding you back. LIfe can be hard. Don't give up. Smile when you can.

Fix your life, and then pursue her. Does she not deserve the best? Do you not deserve the best? If she would accept anything less than perfection, would you still want her? Fix you life, make yourself the best, show her you've changed. But don't change for her, do it for yourself. If you like being drunk and whatever, then she is not right for you, as you both have a very different opinion of "best".

sometimes ppl just come to the point where they can't forgive or forget. it's mostly a trust issue...if u've promised her that u would stop drinking in the past and kept doing it then u ultimately lost her trust and that wears a person out. there's only so much a person can take even if they love someone with all their heart. u can try talking to her again about how she is more important than your drinking and swear on your life u will never do it again! idk hun it's hard once the trust has been broken. if it doesn't work out then best thing to do is focus on yourself...get healthy and once u r u can focus on her or possibly a new life with someone else. best of luck!

First of all sorry to hear your situation. I have been through the whole "break" deal and I will tell your from experience it is just a nice way of saying I don't want to be with you anymore. I suggest talking to her and telling her exactly how you feel. Ask her if there is anything you can do to work out your relationship problems. If that doesn't help all you can do is let it go and move on. It might be hard considering you were together for 5 years but time heals all wounds. good luck with everything. I hope things work out for you in the end :)