This guy thats kinda stalking me and wants me to go out with him!! HELP!?

Sorry for long explanation:
I met this guy at a musical I was in. Everyone else in the cast and crew found him creepy and disgusting so wouldn't talk to him, but I thought that was cruel and so before my scenes I didn't ignore him like everyone else did, but talked to him and tried to be friendly. I found him to be an ok guy... although i have to agree he was too touchy feeling (like following me around trying to hug me on one particular night even when i made it clear i didn't like to be hugged).

Anyway, so the musical ended and somehow he got my mobile number and started to text me!! i was horrified that he had my number, but i replied to his texts cause i thought it would be (again) cruel not to. he was just asking about the 鈥榓fter party鈥?anyway, so yeh.

At the after party he followed me around EVERYWHERE!! No kidding! I tried to give him hints like, 鈥淚鈥檓 gonna go dance with lara now鈥? and sitting on the three seater seat when there was only one space left (ie for me) but he still

FOLLOWED ME EVERYWHERE the ENTIRE NIGHT!

I though that was the end of that and I wouldn鈥檛 have to see him again after that party, but then I got this text from him asking me out!! i really didn't want to go out with him so i said that my parents don't let me date and that even if they did i wouldn't want to date in these final years of school cause I wanted to concentrate on my studies

he said ok and seemed a little upset, but yesterday i got another text asking me again, and more specifically, that if my parents did let me date, would I go out with him then?

I really don鈥檛 want to go out with this guy, but I don鈥檛 want to hurt his feelings either鈥?what can I say to him without
a) hurting his feelings and
b) ruining a potential friendship ??
HELP!!

Oh man, that's weird.

Well, he clearly likes you a lot, and I admire your attempts to not crush his feelings completely. STILL, one does have to draw the line, and you've been polite for long enough. Tell him, very explicitly, that you don't want a boyfriend, however, you think he's a nice guy. Explain that you are too busy, and that you'd have no time for him. (Feel free to exaggerate this a bit if you want).

And I'd suggest buying a new phone or sim card if he keeps bugging you.

Dont hesitate just tell him straight up. After all hinting him doesnt help so theres no other direct approach then telling him he getting in your space.

Just dont be cruel about it just say something like:
I know we're friends but following me around is getting a bit creepy could you back off a little?" And about the hugging part just tell him I dont like being hugged.

This guy seems kind of creepy he might just be a clinger, so I dont know. Maybe just tell him you dont want to get involved with anyone because you wanyt to focus on studies, and that your not into dating right now.

Who wants a friendship with someone who constantly follows
them around and texts all the time.
No, tell him to leave you alone that you are not interested in him as a date.

My husband did this.

Tell him you'll play a board game with him. Something smart like Risk. And that's all you'll ever do. :D

well dont flat out and say that you think hes creepy cause he might come after you but dont ignore him cause it will only get worse. just find a boyfriend so he will back off

Call the cops on him quick! Why bother to write so much? Who cares?

sorry but you just may have to hurt his feelings by being straight up w/ him

Tell him your not interested..be honest...

Too much drama for me to help!!!

you could say maybe but i like us as friends

sooner or later you will hurt this guys feelings, if you do not want the same as he wants from you. you better do it now than wait until he falls in love or something. you gave him hope by treating him nicely and now he expects something from you, you are not willing to do. so just tell him, you dont want to date or simply stop answering his text messages. the fact is that he needs to realize the reality and the reality is that you dont like him. obviously you dont have to do it in a ugly way but there is no very nice way to show a person you have no interest on him. you could say you are in love with someone else or that you are a lesbian, that would be easier to handle than just saying you are weird and I just didnt want to be cruel. good luck

Stalkers are fun... but you need to tell him that you are not interested and you just don't want to go out with him... or you can be smart and kind of say " I have a boyfriend and i love him!" even tho you don't so that way he will leave you alone.

Okay lets see how old are you... I'm assuming not over 18. Well this point I really just think you have one option if he is really as creepy as you say... I think you should forget his feelings I know that seems a bit harsh but honestly what he's doing is really creepy. Try saying I think you're a really nice person, but I am not looking for a relationship right now, or just say you dont feel like dating. Hope I semi helped