Can someone please help me out with this?

I鈥檓 stuck in the middle of a dilemma and I was hoping for everyone鈥檚 advice. I just recently spilt ways with my ex-girlfriend. We had been dating for a little over a year and then I noticed her drifting away. I tired really hard to save it but by then she had found someone else she was interested in and we went through a pretty ugly breakup. Left on my on she was out having a good time seeing other people while I was depressed. I love her and I still do but trying to forgive and forget is really hard. During her time away she always calls and keeps contact and like a fool I always ask her to come back and she says she needs space. So last weekend I decided to go out and I run across someone who is really interesting. We鈥檝e talked and set up our first date, she sounds to good to be true. Here is where it gets complicated. My ex comes back on the scene and now wants to get back together. Says she still considers us together and that she is sorry for hurting me. I love this girl but at the same time I鈥檓 curious about this new girl I met. Do I still go on the date? Should I go with the one I love even though of everything she鈥檚 done to me? Advice please 鈥?.

Could it be she sees that I'm trying to move on and now she is getting jealous of the fact and realizes what she had?

Forget her! There's a reason why people from your past don't make it to your future. She was quite enjoying the fact that she had another guy and knowing she had you waiting patiently in the background. Sounds like she wanted to have her cake and eat it too! I'd tell her while you were giving her the space she asked for that you found someone to fill the empty space she left when you split. I wouldn't take her back under any circumstances! If she did this to you once, she'll do it again.....everytime she wants to check out another fish in the sea, you'll be sitting on the back burner waiting to see if she's going to keep it or throw it back! That's not a very good deal for you now, is it?
The new girl you've met might not develop into anything and that's ok......but you've taken a step forward and that's what counts. You must always keep moving forward! You'll be going backwards and back into the pain you've been feeling if you take your old girlfriend back. She had her chance with you and she blew it! Trust me, it's her loss, not yours!!

stick with the new girl if your ex done this before she will run off every time she gets bored always leaving you hurt and waiting around in "reserve" for her cut your losses now and move on!!

Move on, The trust has gone and you will always bring it up when things aren't quite right.......it'll hurt.... for a while. Keep yr chin up. Have a fresh start.

stick with the new girl , it is time to move on and hang out with the new girl . good luck :)

You need to stick with the new girl. The other ones wants to keep you on the string while she is out having fun. She will keep doing it and just needs to know that you are done with her totally. If the date doesn't work out you still need to move on and quite letting this girl use you.She is trying to keep you on the side so I would give her the freedom she wanted.She will never change. Move on.

You said, "You love her and you wants her back." If you still love your ex-girl friend, then forget what had happen to the past and start over. At least, she comes back and realized that she is wrong, and you have been together for over a year. About this new girl, do not hurt her feeling, because at that time you are depressed that you lose your ex, then she came along to take the spot of your ex, you thought that you lose her forever. You should search your heart, you do not want to use the new girl, for the revenge from your ex girl friend.

I know it is hard to decide, I know you are still hurt for the things that your ex-girl friend did to you. If you think you do not love her anymore and can not forgive what she did, then move on, you just know this new girl, do not hurt someone's feeling, thinking that you love this new girl, do not replace your real love is, and how you feel for your ex and end up to make a choice to hurt this new girl.

I hope you will make the right choice, it is not bad to meet new friends, but make sure you do not hurt their feelings. For me,you should stick to the person whom you love the most and make you happy when you are together, it maybe the new girl or your ex-girl friend.

I don't see how she could have considered you together all that time when she was out seeing other people. If that's the case then she was cheating on you. Why waste your time with someone who doesn't seem to care and just strings you along? If this new girl seems nice and you think she's your type then I say definitely go out with her and stop fretting so much about the ex.... she has already moved on anyway.... seems like she just doesn't want you to!

your gf sees you as a plan "b". it was over, until u started to pick up the pieces and move on. now that she could lose u as her back up plan... she wants u back. maybe not back permanatley but back enough to make u fall for her again. she sounds pretty selfish. i had a bf like that. tell her that you would like to work things out but you are still going on the date. be honest with the new girl. but don't call the other girl your girlfriend. refer to her as an ex that wants back in. if u call her gf it will freak her out

your ex has to respect the fact that you made this date after she left. out of courtesy, she should let you go. if this poses a big problem for her, go anyway. she is terrified of losing u. if the date doesn't work out, try it again with your girlfriend but if she walks out again, make sure she knows that you will not be there next time for her as a back up plan

I honestly don't think it would work out with your EX. You've taught her to treat you with very little respect. I think you should move on. I don't see much of a reason to keep in contact with her either. It's harder to get over someone when you torcher yourself by dangling what you can't have infront of you. It doesn't say much good about her either. If someone was in love with me and I wasn't interested I would break of contact with them. She would be doing you a favor if she did. It sounds to me like she wanted to keep you dangling "in case" she ever needed you again.

On the other hand if when you were with this woman and for the most part it was good, if you have lots of time invested or if you have children with her, I would give it another try. But only if she really and truly understands the wrong she did to you and clearly feels big time remorse.

And yes, it could be that she is jealous. She might feel threatened that someone is trying to take her "plan B".