Hello, I have been in a relationship now with a recently divorced man for a little over a year.?

I believe that I have some serious feelings for him. He is very nice and a noble type. I understand that he is still sorting out feeling from his 12 year marriage and with issues with his children. Some times I feel very secure about the situation at other times I feel pushed away and insecure... about the relationship. I do try to give the man plenty of space and time for himself at times. I understand I was married for 12 years myself and needed time to sort things out. ( I have been divorced for 6 years). One problem is his ex wife took him to the cleaners for spousal and child support. He even gave her the house so his kids could stay there and he is left with nothing to live on and feels like he should do more finically for us. ( We live together) . I also note that I was not the cause of the divorce. It was already in the process for a year and a half when I meet him. Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.....

I am also working and can actually take care of myself. He contributes as much as he can money wise and he also takes care of things around here. The man can fix anything I can think of in the house.

i hope you haven't moved in together yet, coz as you know he has lot on his plate, and needs to cope first.

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are you working?

take it slow with him

He didn't "give" her the house. It was community property and the parent raising the kids needed it. The court never leaves you with "nothing to live on." Sounds like you're hearing a lot of whining and excuses, or maybe you're the one with the whining and excuses. It sounds like you're getting by financially, so what's all the complaining about?

So his lack of money is a problem to you. If you think it will get better with time, think again. His money is his kids' money. This means, everything will, or at least should, go through his ex- wife (if all the "nobleness" is that imporatnt to you. He-he :)) Do you have a problem with that? Yes, you do. What are you going to do about it? Well, if you choose to fight for your bite in this pie, this is your choice.

So you're shacking up and giving him space-- and this is a good relationship why?
No wonder he's having trouble with his kids.
Tell him to go get a life and if he does, he can call you in 6 months