WTF am I supposed to do about this?

I like a a guy from work, I think he likes me. We are both in our twenties, except I'm 4 years older. When I first started this job about 2 months ago, he didn't speak a word to me. But he opens up more and more everyday. Lately he has been telling me alot of personal info, like how his parents met, etc. Our conversations have gone past the point of "coworker small talk" He is always at my desk, mostly for random talking or joking around. He has no problem getting in my personal space and his body language seems to indicate he likes me. BUT, he has NOT asked me out. I'm getting a little frustrated because I feel like I have given the clear for him, just by subtle flirting and being friendly. We are both single and at times I think he is dropping hints that he has nothing to do on the weekends. But here is another weekend and he didn't ask me out. I think he wants me to ask him out, but I can't/won't. I read "hes just not that into you" and it says not to ask out guys

Are guys always supposed to the ones pursuing? I just wonder if this one time, that doesn't apply? He is shy, reserved, and a little awkward. Would I be doing us both a favor by asking him out? Should I wait? I'm totally lost. He could ask me to lunch but he hasn't even done that.
Could it be he is intimidated because I'm older by 4 years? I have never been interested in a shy, younger, man before. The guys I'm used to, always asked me out. thoughts?

oh just ask already

lady some guys just dont have the guts to take the risk of asking someone they really like out, i know froom personal exp. He may want to ask and doesnt know how you would feel for sure, because u work together is a big deal in a way it could affect both of u. But i hate the fact that the guy should be the aggressor i would find it refreshing for a girl to ask me.

If you'd like to pursue things further than 'coworker small talk,' don't be afraid to approach him and ask HIM out for coffee, a drink, etc. after work. Guys are completely clueless when it comes to subtle hints, and sometimes being as subtle as a sledgehammer is the only way to get through our thick heads.

I am in the same situation right now and I don't know what to do, I am confused as well. I think they are afraid of us rejecting them. I think you should ask him out. My situation is more complicated than yours because I am married and have kids and older than him. good luck with everything and let me know hoe it goes.

I would say he is probably intimidated by the fact that you are older then him. Also, you are co-workers and a lot of people have a bit of a sub-conscious issue with dating co-workers because they do not know whether it is okay. Ask him out!!!

hmmm... maybe the fact your 4 years old scares him a bit? maybe hes not completely sure that you like him, he might think your just being friendly. you should ask him to see a movie or go somewhere with him. if you really like him then you should ask him how he really feels.

even when you give the right signs guys can be scared of rejection anayway. You dont have to ask him out but at least say to him you are willing to go out if he askes you to go then you have removed the fear of rejection

same here..
i know guys are too shy, but i don't care - i will NEVER ask one out.
maybe you should randomly bring up relationships and somehow mention that you would never ask out a guy, and why you wouldn't?

I don't have all the time in the world to read the entire details of your life-drama.

Please people, make these relationship questions smaller.

next time he says he has nothing to do this weekend say, "Aw poor boy I feel bad for you! Why have you not asked any one out? what are you chicken?"

Honey.....
DO NOT be the latest notch on his bedpost.
Stop allowing thid BS behavior.

He doesn't give a crap about you.....guaranteed!

End the fiction and the suspense. Ask him out, period.

He likes you as a friend only, otherwise he would have asked you out. Why does no one ever understand that people of the opposite sex can just be friends without delving into romance?

Just go ahead and ask him out. If he doesnt like you he will say no.

Why do you just ask him out? It's not that hard. The worst he can do is say no.

Keep at doing what your doing. This kind of stuff takes time.

Ask him out!!

just ask him out.

ask him to get a cup of coffee and talk NOT A DATE!

ask him out and get it over with

i say u ask him out

do you have the same rank at work???
sometimes we just don't get it........
just ask..................what do you loose?

Guys don't always have to be the one to do the pursuing. I was in a similar position (except it was school and not work). I could tell that the guy (who is now my fiance after 5 years of being together) I liked also liked me. He was extremely reserved, not the type that would take action, etc. You can puruse as a female-- trust me! You will indeed be doing both of you a favor. He probably wants to but doesn't exactly know how. How about you do this---- give it another week and see if you still get the same vibes. If so, then just go for it. I think if you don't - he might not ever and you will be annoyed that you didn't take action. Don't believe everything you read. Even though it is not typical, it certainly isn't off limits for you to ask him. Best of luck!

ahhh yeah. he could be intimidated yes, some guys just dont have that extra umph to ask a girl out.. but will keep hovering around, he might really really want too..

if you have his cell u could just txt him about it, something like 'hey [name] [some small talk], when are you going to ask me out? ;)'

that might all it take to get the ball rolling. some guys might make the perfect bf but never have the self esteem or general bullocks to make it happen, so just help him along a bit. ul soon know how he feels with however he replies.

would be good to send after work on a friday night? could work out real well =D

goodluck.

this is a new century
men ask out women
women ask out men
just because a book tells you not to do something doesnt meen you listen.
if that book told you to never date again, would you do it?
obviously not.
next time he drops a hint about no weekend plans be like -me either, hey i heard of this place called... its supposed to be great, wana check it out with me?- or something.
and there you go

I would say give it a little more time drop more hints that your into him and that you have nothing to do over the weekends if he is still to shy to make a move than casually ask him out for coffee or something and ask him what hes doing over the weekend if he says hes doing nothing then ask him if he wants to see a movie or something (If your little coffee date is going well)

Don't let one little decision overwhelm your life - not sure what kind of work environment you are in, but it's generally not a good thing to get involved with people for obvious reasons. You could be the one to casually say, "we should get lunch some day" I don't think that is being too forward. Just do it - life is toooooo short to wait for a guy to do anything. Trust me I'm in my 40s and guys do not think or analyze as much as us women. Just be careful how you use your words when asking him to lunch and take it from there. My theory is just be yourself, be honest and upfront and that way no one is wasting anyone elses time in a relationship that will eventually not work because one is too busy trying to be someone they are not. Hope this helps.

I dont think that the whole age thing is very important. If it would have been, he wouldnt be flirting or showing any body language telling you otherwise. Knowing that he is shy, maybe you should understand that he just doesnt have enough confidence to ask you out. Sometimes they are interested and work rules get in between. Maybe he is thinking of possible consequences of dating a co-worker. I definetely think that if you too are that interested in eachother that nothing would come in between, and that one of you at some point will take the chance of asking the another on a date. It seems to me that you are interested, and have been waiting for the question, also seems that you may be confused or upset that he hasn't, so you do it. Knowing that he is shy, you might just make it a lot easier for him, and he would appreciate it. You too would be happy that you took the chance. Dont think negative, I think he is into you. When people are shy, it limits them to many things. Good luck, let us know what happens!

Tradionally guys ask women out. However, in this situation when you are casually talking ask him if he brought his lunch or if he wanted to catch a bite to eat with you somewhere. If he is shy he may be afraid you'd turn him down.

We have lunch with others all the time so it shouldn't be that big of a deal and then if you guys are still hitting it off. Offer to cook dinner for him or whatnot. He'll eventually return the favor to you as he builds his confidence.

Or you can do like I did with my husband. Hey I need a date for this weekend for a family function and an office party would you please be my date. I'd really appreciate it. We've been married for nearly 6 years now.

Good Luck!
Good Luck!

Since it's a work relationship it is no surprise that he's reticent to ask you out; who wants to get rejected and have to see that person at their job every day?

But in reality it isn't that big of a deal. Just ask him out, get him in a more social, relaxed setting, and make it happen. Go for it!

BTW, I went thru something similar -- flirting relationship w/ co-worker 5 years older, finally asked her out, and it has been the best thing to happen to me in long time. It was SO worth taking the risk.

Stick to Greg's advice... (yeah, I've read the book too) don't give in and ask him out!! if he really is interested he WILL ask you out. If he never does, that just means that he doesn't see you as someone who he truly wants to make an effort to date. For goodness sake girl, if he is too lazy to even make the first move then chances are, he is going to be lazy the entire relationship!! Pull yourself together and muster up some willpower! Wait for him to ask out!