About A Girl - Opinions Please?

Ok, this all started 4months ago, i met this girl at uni , i saw her in one of my lectures, and she was in one of my classes and introduced myself, and just started talking. I pretty much told her i liked her about 2months after that, at that stage we would hang out , and talk for hours , she told me alot of personal stuff, and she told me that she wasnt ready to get into a relationship as she broke up with her bf of 4yrs, and is really hurt , as she was dumped for her friend. I told her ill be there for her, and that id give her her time, space etc. Anyway 1 month ago, i saw signs she was over her ex, as we still hung out, went movies, etc, but we began doing things like holding hands, cuddles, and slight sexual stuff. I thought id let it all go with the flow and i asked her if she wanted to move things along, and if she wanted us to be together. She told me then that she has a male family friend which thinks they have been dating, and has always told her to dump her ex, he thinks

that they are together, and she told me she really isnt interestd in him at all, however it would be very hard to tell him that it isnt the case as he hasnt got family, and her family is pretty much his. After she told me that, i met the guy in person a week later, and i relised what she was saying, it would be hard for her to tell him. Anyway, i told her, just tell him, the sooner the better. She told me she would, and as soon as she does it she wants us to be official. Now the other we were gonna kiss, and just before it happened, she said, look we arent exactly dating yet, and so we shouldnt. Im thinking WTF, that annoyed me a little so i said look "if you dont want us to be more then firends just say so, be real , please" she said no, i want us to be together..Today i met her friends, and she introduced me as her man.. Now, what should i do or say, im in some sort of undefined relationship..its pretty weird.

That is very weird of her. If you are having a little sexual moves then I would see that as being gf and bf. I think she is just in the stage where she is very confused about this and doesn't know what to do. Sit her down and have a talk and tell her nicely that she needs to make up her mind about her feelings for you.

Ask her to be straight up honest with you. Tell her you are confused and you need some sort of definition of what you two are. Otherwise, she will keep up with the charade of being your girlfriend only when it is convenient for her.

She is confused and messing with your mind! Sorry bud don't know what else to tell you! Talk with her and tell her your real feelings and demand hers, otherwise your going to end up in the nut hut!

Offer to be around when she announces that u guys are together to the other family friend! Before that make sure u send her a formal card/invite for a date and plan a perfect date!

Sorry I missed that...what did you say after "OK this all started...."

Don't sweat it. All will be resolved once you two rendezvous under the doona.

she wants you to be her guy when it's conveinent. let her know she can't say one thing one day and the exact opposite the next day. you need to make a decision

ask her to talk about this and lay out exactly where you guys are in terms of officially together or still just friends.

the gal is so much confused...leave her as soon as possible....she is playing games with you and nothing else.

Just tell her that you don't like being in limbo. Tell her that you understand it is difficult not to tell this family friend, but that it is really bothering you. Have her ask her parents or someone else in the family to help break it to him if she is scared to do it herself. Obviously she doesn't want this guy to feel like he isn't a part of their family, but it is going to hurt him way worse when he spends a ton of time thinking their together only to find that it never was even anything. The longer it goes on, the more it will hurt him. You need to make sure she understands that. That by sparing his feelings now she is setting him up for something much much worse later. Plus she is alienating you who she also says she wants in her life.

Also there is a possibility that she she likes having both of you around and doesn't want to choose. She may be stringing both of you along. It is hard to say. Just let her know that you can't be in a relationship like this and that you like her but she needs to fix this if she really wants to be with you.

i dident read it was to long but i think u should move on and find someone who wouldent make u stressed at night and think this much people never change, and there is alot of easy going girls out there who would die to have someone as good as u

good luck

Well to me she likes you but not as much as you like her, its obvious that your ready to go to the next step but shes not so sure if she wants to, she is intrudusing you to her friends as her man that mayb because she wants to believe that is so.

Just be sure what ever you feel for her, as this will hurt both of you if you don't.

She wants to be with you from what you said, just give her a bit more time and for now just go with the flow, by her actions you will see if all that is worth waiting for or not.

Good luck

Kel

wow! sounds as if she is confuse, i think u should give her space, tell her that when her thoughts are clear, on who she really likes to call u. Be patience show her that u really care for her and love her. U right to be mad but she doesn't know who to go to either back to her ex or u. Be there for her but also don't get too involved because u might end up hurt, show her u love her

It sounds like she has a hard time expressing her feelings and being forward. The only problem with this is she might have a hard time being open w/ you if things are going bad. She needs to learn how to speak up for herself. I do believe she needed time to get over her ex. That is a long time. The thing is what kind of relationship did they have? As for this family guy. She needs to step up and be honest with him. If she feels that they have nothing going for them. She needs to tell him. I don't know what personal things she has told you. I'm sure this is what is making it so hard for her to speak up. Tell her you are going to give her space for her to figure things out! You need to back up. If she wants to be with you this will help assist her with speaking up to this other guy. Tell her you really like her and want to be with her, but the fact she keeps hurting you and playing with your emotions can't go on. This should speed things up. It is tough love! You can still be friends, but don't get yourself attached to getting hurt. You are worth her full attention. Either it'll work out with you or not. She has to learn how to gain more control in her life. If you think she needs counseling then as a friend you should suggest this to her. I have been through alot in my life and it has affected my life in many ways. I'm sure she isn't doing it because she's rude. Be patient if you really want to be with her, but don't wait forever!